Lotets

Hi,
Im new here and looking for help.

I am a 46YO male living in the UK, I guess I have been drinking to excess for over 25yrs. Im married to a wonderful woman who I think has had enough...

I dont drink every day but some weeks have been know to. It has never interferred with my worklife but enough is enough. I have totally neglected my wife for the past 2 years affectionwise and its now come to the tipping point, I havent had a drink for 4 days which I know isnt long but for me it is.

When we first met we used to have going out and drinking in common but she has cut down considerably the last couple of years and now only drinks occassionaly maybe a couple of glasses of wine a month! She now is into her running and has a set of friends she goes with which is great.

All I seem to do is work and drink in the evenings, Its a horrible cycle that is going to break us up. Im no fun to be around anymore and I dont want to go out to the cinema, walks etc unless there may be a drink involved.

Im going to try to Stop completely.

I was just going to nose around in these forums but some of the posts have literally had me in tears. Its as if others were writing about me....
I guess I just need some help and advice to be the better person I know I can be and hopefully the better man my wife deserves.

Thankyou in advance.

JD

Hi, welcome. You can stop. We've all been were you are. Keep reading here. There's a lot of good information and good people to rely on here.

Debbie329

Congratulations on day 4 ........ Stick around this place is very helpful.

Jsbodhi

Hi! Welcome!

I was thinking the same about myself, just working and drinking, its pathetic and there's way more to life!
Xoxo

Soberwolf

Welcome Lotets

48heath

Welcome to SR Lotets.

Carver

Welcome

4 days is huge! Have you thought about ways to beat the cravings? Because they will calm down over time, but they have a habit of catching you unawares. Be ready.

Stick around, it's great to have you here

Lotets

Thanks to you all for the warm welcome.

And so it begins.....

Soberwolf

http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ful-links.html

Anna

Yes, so it begins...

Welcome, and it sounds like you're ready to make the commitment to stop drinking. We do understand how hard this is.

SoberLeigh

. . . the beginning of a much better way to live.

Welcome, Lotets, to SR. We are here for you 24/7.

loulou1981

Hey Lotets, a warm welcome from a fellow Brit!!

emme99

Hi & Welcome Lotets

DrShok

Check out ALL of the alternatives. Good luck!

Dee74

A big welcome from me too lotets - you can do this

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tursiops999

Welcome, Lotets. Working and drinking ... that was me too. It's so much better being sober ... keep going!

Hevyn

Hi lotets! It's so good you found us.

I drank for decades & had a difficult time letting go. Being here, with those who understood, made all the difference. You're never alone. You can get free of it and have a great new life.

Zebra1275

Welcome to SR!

I was dazed and confused when I signed up to be a member here. I've been sober now 5+ years. This place can help you get your life back.

leviathan

Welcome!

Lotets

That was a terrible nights "sleep" It felt like I was sleeping in a sauna. Today will be a real test. Work for a bit then football on the TV this afternoon. I shall report back either way...