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Old 10-20-2015, 02:12 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Isolated. Advice please ?


Hi all. Well I'm on day 17 sober. I feel ok some days a bit lost on others. I've had the odd urge to drink but nothing too strong, nothing I can't handle easily. It's the first time I have tried to give up and had some support, that support being you guys on here. At the moment SR is my only support, which I am feeling is enough. I live in a small town in France and don't speak the language well enough to attend meetings here. My only option would be to travel to a bigger town and find an English meeting, or pay for personal help. I am a little isolated. Does anyone have any advice or similar experience they could share with me ? Thanks for everything so far guys.
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Old 10-20-2015, 02:30 AM   #2 (permalink)
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I kind of have had a similar experience because I tried AA but it really didn't appeal to me, and living in a small city it's AA or nothing. I don't have any great advice, although maybe getting some personal help might be a good way to go(?) If there isn't anyone in the town where you live that would suit you might consider sessions via Skype...although I know not everyone is comfortable with that medium.

I've found the support on SR has made a huge difference too. It's great we have that :-)
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Thanks HCE. Yeah thanks Tooshabby I hadn't thought of skype. I'll look into that.
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Hi Steve congratulations on 17 days

I live on my own in London which can be quite isolating even though there may crowds of people about and I didn't use AA because I was concerned about work finding out (wish I had used them now)

I guess the best thing for you would be to try and learn French as quickly as possible which would mean you could use local AA meetings and would lessen the general isolation so that you can be occupied in your down time which for me are the danger times
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You could also use online AA meetings Steve?

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Yes you're right. I think the main reason I haven't learned French was my heavy drinking. Not condusive to learning.
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Yes maybe Dee. I'll look into that too.
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All good ideas Steve keep up the excellent work

Here a link to English speaking information on AA in France bud

aaparis.org: The Official site Website of English-speaking Paris Alcoholics Anonymous
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Thanks Soberwolf.
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There are English speaking meetings in Montpellier which is only an hour from me. I best have a think.
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No problem Steve hope it helps
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Great job on Day 17 Steve!! Keep pushing through!!
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Are there any other expats near you ? Is there some hobby or sport you enjoy that you could get back into? It doesn't have to be AA. This forum has plenty of sobriety resources, and you can always listen to AA speakers online.
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