Real life thinking
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Real life thinking
I started a new job that will pay some bills and give me some Christmas money. I'm used to working alone, as an electrician. That was a privilege and blessing I didn't know I had that I lost due to my erratic behavior while actively drinking. I have a minimum wage job now, I work in a deli at a supermarket. I met the deli manager the other day and have nicknamed her (in my head) the bulldog. I got yelled at more in 6 hours on Sunday than I have ever in my life. The thought that popped in my head..."you can't talk to me like that, do you know who I am?" Who are you Jen? You are an alcoholic who couldn't handle anything and your higher power gave you this first step to your new life. The quotation is an example of alcoholic thinking. I managed to push wanting to say that aside, then pushed even thinking it aside. I endured my 6 hour beatdown at work, quietly. I finally understand the word humility. And humbled. I DID lie to the big boss at the end. He wanted to know if I could work another 4-6 hours. I could use the money but I couldn't take anymore of the bulldog's yelling. I told him I had to pick my daughter up and went home, called my sponsor, cancelled plans with my girlfriend and had a "me" night. I have to accept this is my new starting point in life and the bulldog is going to be my best teacher. Blessings.
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That is incredible, I really admire your ability to handle that.
I hope you get what you are seeking from the situation.
I've worked many times over for similar people.
Don't let it have you drink over it, keep us updated.
I hope you get what you are seeking from the situation.
I've worked many times over for similar people.
Don't let it have you drink over it, keep us updated.
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That is the way to turn negative catalyst into positive learning and growth.
Fantastic Jen--this is deep and fundamental change and a significant milestone.
I'm so glad you posted it--really helpful to me at the moment
Hang in there. . . I bet you have the Bulldog eating out of your hand at the end.
Good thing you work in a deli
Fantastic Jen--this is deep and fundamental change and a significant milestone.
I'm so glad you posted it--really helpful to me at the moment
Hang in there. . . I bet you have the Bulldog eating out of your hand at the end.
Good thing you work in a deli
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Great attitude. My sponsor 30 years ago was in a similar place. He was a music executive living in LA that drank and drugged it away. He said his first job sober was working in a parking lot. He said he would be cleaning spider webs from the lights watching music executives drive by in the Mercedes thinking is this what God would have me be sober.
Nope, God had plans for him. He is back in the industry, doing very well and the most happy, at peace laid back person I know.
Nope, God had plans for him. He is back in the industry, doing very well and the most happy, at peace laid back person I know.
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nice re-framing in a difficult situation.
being yelled at isn't appropriate in a workplace, so if that continues you may want / need to address it with an appropriate response - like a conversation with your boss to share how you're feeling and to air it out.
But also, in situations like part-time work at a deli, we often find folks in management positions who are perhaps not exceedingly 'evolved' in their interpersonal skills. Heck, it happens in the board room too. And sometimes, the best way to deal with them is to use them exactly as you've identified; as a teacher.
being yelled at isn't appropriate in a workplace, so if that continues you may want / need to address it with an appropriate response - like a conversation with your boss to share how you're feeling and to air it out.
But also, in situations like part-time work at a deli, we often find folks in management positions who are perhaps not exceedingly 'evolved' in their interpersonal skills. Heck, it happens in the board room too. And sometimes, the best way to deal with them is to use them exactly as you've identified; as a teacher.
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Thank you for sharing this story and your growing wisdom. I admire you.
I hope the lesson is really valuable for you and you continue to share (so I / we can learn too).
I might try to apply this in my home life. Thank you.
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I hope the lesson is really valuable for you and you continue to share (so I / we can learn too).
I might try to apply this in my home life. Thank you.
xx
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No, no thoughts of drinking at all. Drinking got me here. As of right now I can honestly say I hate my job, lol...but I need it and I'm in school and someday I won't have to go there. I just have to have patience...lots and lots of it. I have upped my AA meetings just in case, I don't like getting stuck in my own head.
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I wish you well, Jen! I'll echo what has been said- yelling isn't appropriate in the workplace. Maybe you can speak to her supervisor? I realize you're new and don't want to rock the boat, though. In any event, you're earning some cash! That's a positive step.
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