New to site and could use some use words of encouragement
Nels
Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2015
Posts: 53
New to site and could use some use words of encouragement
Hi there - I have been hovering around this site for months and am so relieved to have finally taken the step to join.
I had a few weeks sober in July and felt great but the wheels came off in August and I am now back to day 1. Each morning I feel so excited about staying sober but by the time I get home from work I cannot wait for my nightly wine.
Any words of experience and/or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thx
I had a few weeks sober in July and felt great but the wheels came off in August and I am now back to day 1. Each morning I feel so excited about staying sober but by the time I get home from work I cannot wait for my nightly wine.
Any words of experience and/or advice would be greatly appreciated.
Thx
Member
Join Date: Mar 2015
Location: Florida
Posts: 874
Try writing down how you feel right now. Then read it throughout the afternoon and when you get home.
Or, don't go straight home. Mix up your routine: go to a park for a walk or someplace other than directly home.
Or, don't go straight home. Mix up your routine: go to a park for a walk or someplace other than directly home.
Member
Join Date: Mar 2014
Posts: 25,373
How about a walk? Or clean a closet, make some cookies and deliver them to a friend, take up a sport or hobby.
In the first four months, I went to an AA meeting every day, sometimes two or three a day. I needed it and it helped.
In the first four months, I went to an AA meeting every day, sometimes two or three a day. I needed it and it helped.
Adventurer
Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Tuxedo Park, NY
Posts: 1,101
I felt the same way: excited in the morning and then by the end of the day back to my old ways. I was wondering how much do you drink?
Sometimes it takes time to quit for good, once I got a plan figured out and the support here it made it much easier.
Sometimes it takes time to quit for good, once I got a plan figured out and the support here it made it much easier.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2015
Posts: 132
I agree with the others, change up your routine! Go to an AA meeting, visit with a friend (not one you had your nightly wine with....), take a long walk or a long bath, something....anything to change up your old routine.
I like FLCamper's idea of writing down how you feel when you're excited about being sober and rereading it during your vulnerable times.
You can do this!!
I like FLCamper's idea of writing down how you feel when you're excited about being sober and rereading it during your vulnerable times.
You can do this!!
I could see peace instead of this
Join Date: Sep 2013
Location: Canada, eh
Posts: 2,360
I needed to change the way I look at and deal with life.
I got help with that through AA. It took some work, but it taught me how to live without the need or the desire to drink.
I got help with that through AA. It took some work, but it taught me how to live without the need or the desire to drink.
Nels
Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2015
Posts: 53
Thank you everyone, so helpful to feel connected to others who understand what I am going through, it can be a lonely battle.
Need to remind myself that I can do this and that relapse is very often a part of the process.
Sva77 I can easily pack away a bottle of wine + a night and I do not want to be that person anymore!
Need to remind myself that I can do this and that relapse is very often a part of the process.
Sva77 I can easily pack away a bottle of wine + a night and I do not want to be that person anymore!
Re-Member
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: USA
Posts: 7,909
Welcome to SR, JP519. I highly suggest joining and actively participating in the Class of September 2015 thread found on this same forum. It's a great way to learn from and help others who are also in early recovery.
Looking forward to getting to know you better...
Looking forward to getting to know you better...
Nels
Thread Starter
Join Date: Sep 2015
Posts: 53
Thanks everyone, approaching the wine witching hour so I getting pretty tense. Thankfully I don't have any wine in the house and the liquor store closes in 20. And my lovely husband has never been a drinker so I am the only one who brings wine home.
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
Posts: 211,373
Hi and welcome JP519 
becoming a regular reader and poster here really helped me maintain my recovery.
Being helped and helping others was a great way for me to continue to put recovery at the forefront of my thoughts, and I think thats why I persisted this time instead of dropping off like I did so many times before.
I'm glad you started posting
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becoming a regular reader and poster here really helped me maintain my recovery.
Being helped and helping others was a great way for me to continue to put recovery at the forefront of my thoughts, and I think thats why I persisted this time instead of dropping off like I did so many times before.
I'm glad you started posting
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Member
Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: Florida., USA
Posts: 3,252
Hi JP - Welcome. I am presently in my witching hour(s) too. It really helps to be here. Also, as the others have suggested, you would probably benefit from doing something different when you get home. I understand how difficult it is when one gets home from work, though. I'm retired now, but when when I was working and first got home, I sometimes grabbed a beer before I took off my coat. It surely is a difficult time period, but it can be done. Keep coming back and read and post often. It will get better.
I am presently in my witching hour(s) too. It really helps to be here. Also, as the others have suggested, you would probably benefit from doing something different when you get home. I understand how difficult it is when one gets home from work, though. I'm retired now, but when when I was working and first got home, I sometimes grabbed a beer before I took off my coat. It surely is a difficult time period, but it can be done. Keep coming back and read and post often. It will get better.
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