Hi Trish. You will find a lot of help here.
Also, have you checked out Al Anon, and meetings local to you? There is a lot of (free) face to face support and camaraderie to be found there.
I hope you find the help you need
There is a saying: When you find yourself in a hole, stop digging. And this step is simple, this is the point when we decide to put down the shovel and assess how deep the hole really is.