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Hi and welcome back Arbor.
'being done with sobriety' sounds like the booze (and a little fear?) talking.
getting back to where you want to be starts simply with putting the bottle down and calling a day one.
You can do this
D
'being done with sobriety' sounds like the booze (and a little fear?) talking.
getting back to where you want to be starts simply with putting the bottle down and calling a day one.
You can do this
D
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Join Date: Aug 2010
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I'm really sorry to read this Arbor and I can totally relate. I'm coming back from a return to drinking myself and when I was in it I was thinking about just giving up on trying to stop and just accepting that that was the way it was going to be. That's the addiction talking though, not my true self. Keep trying! Please don't give up. xx
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There's a HUGE part of me that says, "All or nothing?" I have an extremely hard time saying I cannot have a beer ever again
so did I.
I didn't try to moderate my drinking for 20 years for nothing.
I made an initial commitment of declaring I will not drink today - with a follow up commitment of making the same commitment tomorrow.
I was pretty sure I could make 24 hours.
After a while the string of days got quite long and I realised that forever was not the bogey I thought it would be.
If you're still struggling with forever, ask yourself who you want to be - for your wife your kids your career & your community...
and there's no need to answer me or answer now but do think about it
I found I could be the person I wanted to be...or I could drink - but not both.
If you think you still can, ok - but if you think you will always be able to? you're wrong.
Alcoholism is progressive.
I've found the benefits of being who I always should have been vastly overshadows any sense of loss I might have had over never drinking again.
I don't want to drink any more. I've changed.
You can too.
D
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I balk and rebel at the thought of never having a beer again too. Forever is a long time. Right now I'm doing as Dee just suggested and only focusing on right now and today, after all the present is the only thing we can really control.
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I think that the "forever" part is difficult for us all, at least it is for me. We know all the reasons not to drink, but yeah, the emotional stuff is hard. You can do this tho. You know you can! Thank you for voicing the frustrations many of us are dealing with. Now, hurry up and start Day 1 
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Originally Posted by zenchaser 
I'm really sorry to read this Arbor and I can totally relate. I'm coming back from a return to drinking myself and when I was in it I was thinking about just giving up on trying to stop and just accepting that that was the way it was going to be. That's the addiction talking though, not my true self. Keep trying! Please don't give up. xx
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Originally Posted by Arbor
I drink like an A hole. I am an a hole. I'm so angry. I thought I had this. I may be done with sobriety. There are days I am afraid.
thinking you had this and finding out that reality isn't what you thought is a useful thing to know.
you can alter your approach with this new knowledge.
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Originally Posted by Arbor
I solidified it today by letting my mom know in person. Was extremely tearful especially for me. But now I feel much relief. Now enters the next chapter of my life.
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