Rlong87

My husband of 5 years has an addiction problem (alcohol, opiates & narcotics). He has finally come to terms with the fact that he needs help. He has agreed to go to detox at a facility. Problem is he can't go until Thursday. So obviously he is still getting high so that he's not sick. We have 2 young kids in the house so I don't want them to see him sick, but DAMN!! He looks so ****** up all the time now. I think he's probably using more for his last hoorah, and I also think he is just not trying to hide it from me anymore. But it's sooo bad. I just want it to be Thursday and him be gone to rehab. I cannot stand sitting here watching him like this, it's as if I'm saying it's ok or something. Ugh. How am I supposed to make it 5 more days??

Anna

I'm sorry for your situation.

Is there somewhere else that your husband can stay until he can go to detox?

mc82

Hi Rlong, if he needs a friend and knows about SR have him register here and message me. I've put my wife through a lot as well, so if I can help it would mean a lot to me.

Soberwolf

I 10,000% agree with Anna

IOAA2

Hi.

"How am I supposed to make it 5 more days??"


I certainly will recommend the forum on this site called Friends and Family and Al Anon in your area as a continued way to help for YOU.
In most cases just because someone stops drinking life does not become a bowl of cherries suddenly. In some cases it gets worse and the spouse and family needs support.

BE WELL

PurpleKnight

Can he sign up here for the next 5 days!!

Get involved in reading and learning about recovery prior to the detox, it'll keep him occupied and give you some peace of mind that he's doing something constructive!!

Rlong87

Ugh. My laptop took a dive and couldn't log in here the past few days. But anyways to update I went away to the beach with my mother and kids for two days to pass some time. I am going tomorrow morning to drop my husband off for rehab. I'm nervous as can be. But I am so excited. I will be going to al anon for supper and I appreciate all the feedback here. Thanks

Soberwolf

Were here for you Rlong

Rlong87

Well I dropped him off this morning. So strange. I just have this pit in my stomach, so nervous. I can't talk to him for 4 days and then he can call us on Monday. It's just so weird. I am home now, kids in bed, quiet house. Just feels weird but I keep telling myself that he will be a better person and we will all be happier when he comes out. Ugh....

Mags1

Keep in touch Rlong, there are so many people here who have experienced similar situations.

Soberwolf

Yes please stay in touch

Rlong87

I talked to him yesterday with his counselor. His 4 day blackout period started after that call. I won't see or talk to him until next Wednesday when we have a meeting with his counseler together. I'm not really sure how that works or how it'll go. I guess we have the meeting because he told her that I was considering leaving him (which is true). So she wanted to set up a meeting asap. So we'll see how that goes. Until then it's just me and the kids and the pup. Very strange without him home. But I know this time apart will be great for us!!
Thanks for the support!

Rlong87

My husband has always told me that he is only snorting the pills. Would never shoot. However looking through his car today I found a bag of q-tips and what looks like a piece of a syringe stopper. I'm so sick to my stomach. I don't know why I thought snorting pills was bad enough but now it's IV??
Addicts- did you use IV? Will it be harder to kick?? Is this something I should stick around to find out?
I will ask him in the meeting Wednesday what drugs he was on and how he was doing them. See how he answers with his counselor present. I mean I already know the answer but....
I'm just so pissed right now. I don't know if I wanna deal with this forever. And I can't even confront him because he's in the rehab center on blackout. Ugh....

sugarbear1

maybe find yourself a Naranon or Al Anon group to attend and begin your own healing process?

there are no quick fixes and it will take time for everyone to heal!

Rlong87

Yea... I just dont know if I want to do this. I'm busy enough with my two jobs and two kids. I don't have time for another kid.

He just called me begging to come home... Um NO !!!!!
He also admitted to IV drug use. I just don't know what...or how long he's been doing it.