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MIR - we are here to help and support each other, so forget the idea you are whining. While I cannot understand what it is like to lose a child, I do know what it is like to lose family...some at very young ages. I don't think one truly ever "gets over it". The hole remains and it is uniquely shaped in the form of the loved one lost. And words are cheap sometimes. All I can say is that I am sorry for your loss.
MIR , I haven't been on SR very long , but I have read many of your posts With Uplifting words . To me you have a Very strong soul to keep going forward on your journey , it's so inspiring I hope you can find Peace within yourself .
I can't do recent pictures either. I have a picture taken about 9 months before she died on the refrigerator. I sort of glance at it from time to time but I can't bring myself to look at it.
I know things will get better with time because they are but I still have a very long way to go. I just wish these debilitating waves of sadness were not so intense
You are NOT whining. But I'll tell you what you are doing.
You are inspiring me to find a way to stay sober another day. You are learning how to live life with a giant hole in your heart. And doing it sober and authentically. You are showing us what it means to love beyond comprehension. You are teaching us about protecting your sobriety at all costs. You are giving a part of yourself, as you find it.
What you are is an inspiration and a god damned warrior.
That's who and what you are.
You are inspiring me to find a way to stay sober another day. You are learning how to live life with a giant hole in your heart. And doing it sober and authentically. You are showing us what it means to love beyond comprehension. You are teaching us about protecting your sobriety at all costs. You are giving a part of yourself, as you find it.
What you are is an inspiration and a god damned warrior.
That's who and what you are.
I have recently been humbled by working with a lovely girl who looked completely OK. I was not aware of her family's tragic circumstances and the girl's condition and painful procedures she has to endure routinely until her mother shared it with me. We truly don't know other people's pain...
I hope to be able to do this some day but not today. I can mention brief memories to my wife especially things that happened a long time ago without falling apart but anything more recent I just can't go there. I can't do recent pictures either. I have a picture taken about 9 months before she died on the refrigerator. I sort of glance at it from time to time but I can't bring myself to look at it. I know things will get better with time because they are but I still have a very long way to go. I just wish these debilitating waves of sadness were not so intense
I know that going into it is probably a terrible prospect to you, but we must experience and be with grief in order to find peace with it.
I hope to be able to do this some day but not today. I can mention brief memories to my wife especially things that happened a long time ago without falling apart but anything more recent I just can't go there.
I can't do recent pictures either. I have a picture taken about 9 months before she died on the refrigerator. I sort of glance at it from time to time but I can't bring myself to look at it.
I know things will get better with time because they are but I still have a very long way to go. I just wish these debilitating waves of sadness were not so intense
I can't do recent pictures either. I have a picture taken about 9 months before she died on the refrigerator. I sort of glance at it from time to time but I can't bring myself to look at it.
I know things will get better with time because they are but I still have a very long way to go. I just wish these debilitating waves of sadness were not so intense
It does get better Mir although I can't imagine the pain I understand the loss my mum was my best friend she could look at me and knew exactly what I was thinking
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I have gone through a fair amount of professional grief counseling. I slowly but surely am processing my emotions but there seems to be no easy path
I hope to be able to do this some day but not today. I can mention brief memories to my wife especially things that happened a long time ago without falling apart but anything more recent I just can't go there.
I can't do recent pictures either. I have a picture taken about 9 months before she died on the refrigerator. I sort of glance at it from time to time but I can't bring myself to look at it.
I know things will get better with time because they are but I still have a very long way to go. I just wish these debilitating waves of sadness were not so intense
I can't do recent pictures either. I have a picture taken about 9 months before she died on the refrigerator. I sort of glance at it from time to time but I can't bring myself to look at it.
I know things will get better with time because they are but I still have a very long way to go. I just wish these debilitating waves of sadness were not so intense
welp, some of that stuffing it didnt help. finally broke down one day and went into her bedroom. boy did the emotions flow as i was in there, as they are starting to flow now.
but it helped me heal. pride, ego, and fear kept me from doing it sooner. i actually would get some serenity and peace back every time i allowed the feelings/emotions to happen.
every time i dont allow myself to feel, i deny myself being human.
a very valuable lesson i learned through it all and forget at times:
stuffing feelings isnt good. every time i allow them to happen i am allowing myself to heal and to be human.
prayers out for ya!
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