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Old 08-19-2015, 12:23 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I just am tired of feeling lonely and hung over and angry. I want to quit drinking completely. I'll check this site everytime I want to drink.
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Old 08-19-2015, 12:27 PM   #2 (permalink)
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People here are lovely and will sure give you support, its nice (if that is the right word) to know we are among people who understand that feeling.

Hope you feel better
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Old 08-19-2015, 12:33 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Welcome. I hope that you find the way to sobriety.

It's worth it. I'm only 24 days sober but I never thought it was possible. Just don't drink today.
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Welcome. Lots of great support here. It is worth a good read around as some amazing ideas and advice. Feel free to join us in the Class of August thread.
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No room here for another quit date so I best stick to that one. Had plenty of stupid reasons to be drunk why not one for being sober.
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Old 08-19-2015, 12:35 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Welcome back Willdequit. SR can provide you not only with support but a sense of belonging and companionship. Try joining a monthly or daily thread, it's great to be with a group experiencing the same things at the same time.
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Old 08-19-2015, 01:15 PM   #6 (permalink)
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We do understand how hard this is, but you will find lots of support and understanding here.
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Old 08-19-2015, 01:22 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Congratulations willdequit. Make a simple plan for each day - rise, work, shop, clean kitchen, walk, go to movie, explore local knitting class options, two-hour read at a coffee shop, meditation, stretch, then bed. Very simple. Fill the day with your plan. Do one every day. I am so happy for you. What a gift you are about to give yourself. Be realistic too. Even try "I can drink tomorrow if I choose, but I am not going to drink today." For the first several days, that keeps you from looking at the future as if it is Mt. Everest and impossible to scale. Just today willdequit. Just today. That's all we are going to worry about for now. Welcome.
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I've never been so lonely as when I was hungover and sick of my self.

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Welcome back I think you should come here when you don't feel like drinking too
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Welcome! I can relate. I hated that feeling of loneliness while hungover the next day. Then thinking later in the day "I feel better so I'll quit tomorrow." I hated it! Now I'm at 26 days and feel amazing. You can be there too! The days pass way quicker than I thought they would! Coming here and posting every time you want a drink sounds like a great start!
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Welcome, willdequit. You needn't feel lonely. You just made about 1000 friends.

I hope you will post often and let us know how you are doing.

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Welcome back I think you should come here when you don't feel like drinking too
Absolutely. Make it a habit.

Getting complacent has been the downfall of my prior efforts to stay sober -- coming here everyday whether I post something or not is part of my plan to do it differently this time.
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Old 08-19-2015, 03:12 PM   #17 (permalink)
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I used to feel like it was me against the world when I got depressed by drinking, I suppose that is a form of loneliness. I hated my life then. I am a little over a year free from alcohol and I do not feel lonely anymore. You are amongst a great group of people who will make every effort to help. Keep trying.
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Old 08-19-2015, 03:41 PM   #18 (permalink)
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Thanks for all the good words everyone. Everyday I say I'm not going to drink tonight and I'm going to run and get in shape tomorrow, than I buy a six pack a couple of hours after work and than eventually buy another one. Than I go to work and feel bad all day and don't work out. I don't know why I do this? I know I want to be in great shape and possibly be a smokejumper again, or at least just feel more energy and positive. Instead I just fold every evening and buy the beer. I will try and check this site later today at 7 pm when I want to buy beer. My cousin is going to stay the night and she doesn't drink, so I'll just rent a movie and be strong. It'll be my first day without beer in many weeks.
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Old 08-19-2015, 04:19 PM   #19 (permalink)
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Make a irrevocable decision that today is the end of the madness. Make a sobriety plan, get external support, educate yourself, and be willing to do absolutely anything to get sober
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Old 08-19-2015, 04:26 PM   #20 (permalink)
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