Last night
I really hope that you consider coming back.
...Our points were that you can't keep living your life the same way. When you make the choice to become sober, you make the choice to change things in your life, changes of where you hang out, and who you hang out with.
I applaud you for 3 days, hopefully 4. Yes, this is a support group, and an amazing one at that. That doesn't mean we will hold your hand as you play with fire, we've seen that story play out, most of us have lived that story.
...Our points were that you can't keep living your life the same way. When you make the choice to become sober, you make the choice to change things in your life, changes of where you hang out, and who you hang out with.
I applaud you for 3 days, hopefully 4. Yes, this is a support group, and an amazing one at that. That doesn't mean we will hold your hand as you play with fire, we've seen that story play out, most of us have lived that story.
I left SR a couple of years ago because I thought some members were rude, but to be perfectly honest, it was more because I didn't really want to hear what people were saying (which I not only needed to hear but also internalize).
This time around I'm here to listen and take a leap of faith by believing those who have walked this path before me. This doesn't mean that I like what everyone has to say or how they say it. It just means that I will listen, evaluate the comments and suggestions given, take what works for me, and most of all, keep in mind that what is offered here is always given because people care and don't want to see others relapse. This is a really caring community, if not a perfect one (no such thing!) I'm just sharing my experience in case anything resonates with you, DtW.
I hope you decide to stay, DtW. You really can get a lot from SR if you give us a chance. :-)
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I hope you do reconsider and decide to stick around. I felt 'a' or 'the' click after 20 plus years and it stuck, that really resonated with me. I've been a nondrinker since I came to SR and comfortably so not soon after signing up, there were of course rougher than not patches, but on the whole having had that click and sticking to my resolve to remain a nondrinker , I've done it and no one more surprised than me, well the old preclick me would be the most surprised , present me the one in control understands that I am in control and is not surprised that I will Not give it up.
SR can be a great resource and community of fellow nondrinkers, don't let post and bad feelings be the reason you take a potential resource for resolve keeping away from your self.
I was going to comment that I thought the best post in the thread for DitchtheWine was number 8.
wish you well and hope to see you around
SR can be a great resource and community of fellow nondrinkers, don't let post and bad feelings be the reason you take a potential resource for resolve keeping away from your self.
I was going to comment that I thought the best post in the thread for DitchtheWine was number 8.
wish you well and hope to see you around
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Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: MN
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Thanks Blueberry,
I just wrote a long reply, but my PC crashed! Grrr!
I simply said "no thanks, I've really, really gone off alcohol. I don't enjoy it anymore". Simple as that. I meant it, too.
I'm not arrogant enough to assume I will always feel like this. I know my feelings will change.
However, last night I felt strong enough to go, so I did. If I hadn't have done, I would have stayed at home.
If I had stayed in last night, for me PERSONALLY, that would have been counter-productive. I would have resented my sobriety for holding me back. Also heightened my social isolation and anxiety and made me feel like I actually CAN'T socialise sober. I now know I CAN.
I am gong to draw on this in my darkest moments to help me through. Also going to draw on the ludicrous sight and sound of drunken people making fools of themselves.
I'm not saying "that's it, I'm fixed [smug grin]". I'm saying I had a good night without drink. I'm not going to feel bad for doing well even if it is only day 3.
I have relapsed countless times, but I FEEL mentally very, very different thus time. It's all I'm saying.
Addiction is very personal and I absolutely appreciate that.
I just wrote a long reply, but my PC crashed! Grrr!
I simply said "no thanks, I've really, really gone off alcohol. I don't enjoy it anymore". Simple as that. I meant it, too.
I'm not arrogant enough to assume I will always feel like this. I know my feelings will change.
However, last night I felt strong enough to go, so I did. If I hadn't have done, I would have stayed at home.
If I had stayed in last night, for me PERSONALLY, that would have been counter-productive. I would have resented my sobriety for holding me back. Also heightened my social isolation and anxiety and made me feel like I actually CAN'T socialise sober. I now know I CAN.
I am gong to draw on this in my darkest moments to help me through. Also going to draw on the ludicrous sight and sound of drunken people making fools of themselves.
I'm not saying "that's it, I'm fixed [smug grin]". I'm saying I had a good night without drink. I'm not going to feel bad for doing well even if it is only day 3.
I have relapsed countless times, but I FEEL mentally very, very different thus time. It's all I'm saying.
Addiction is very personal and I absolutely appreciate that.
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