Ring Ring! Sober Weekender Thread Aug 14
We have a pretty big LGBT meeting here Sunday's in Maine. I don't go to AA but always wanted to try that meeting just to be soberly around other folks.
Glad you are jumping on the bus"
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Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: Los Angeles CA
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First weekend
This will be my first weekend ( entering day 4 ) for as long as I can remember I have been drinking. My partner drinks also, not as much as I do. But I am afraid this is part of our life together. I want to do this so bad, but I am lost. This sounds strange but I don't know who I am its been so long.
This will be my first weekend ( entering day 4 ) for as long as I can remember I have been drinking. My partner drinks also, not as much as I do. But I am afraid this is part of our life together. I want to do this so bad, but I am lost. This sounds strange but I don't know who I am its been so long.
Let me tell you that I was the same way when I arrived here. My partner and I drank and drugged. I did not know who I was. I felt trapped and alone.
Please stay close to SR and read read read. I learned so much that made me understand I was not alone and there are ways to overcome how I was feeling. You can too.
This is the weekender thread. Love to have you stick around this weekend and have some sober fun with us.
Also know that the main forum gets the most attention. Be sure if you need a wider audience that it's good to post there as well.
What are you plans? How will you stay sober when your partner drinks? This was always tough for me. Are you both able to take this on at the same time? Notice I did not say together. Being sober is a solitary effort from the inside out. Get support from others but don't let your staying sober be dependent on their staying sober.
Welcome again,
Ken
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Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: Los Angeles CA
Posts: 4
Thank you for the welcome and the kind words . No I am afraid my partner is not there. He drank a little last night I did not. I have no plans as of right now. My usual would be to take our special insulated bag filled with bottles of champagne down to the pool and drink, sun and sleep. I have to break that chain. I may use the big board after I make it through Sunday night. I have been reading and that helps.
Do things ever end?
Just got home from town to be told that my aunt fainted at work or something and her co-worker took her to the hospital.
She would have been the closest to my Granny (her mother) and I know it has hit her extremely hard.
I just talked to my dad who thinks it is stress or something.
I am stressed.
Just hanging by the phone waiting for news.
Just got home from town to be told that my aunt fainted at work or something and her co-worker took her to the hospital.
She would have been the closest to my Granny (her mother) and I know it has hit her extremely hard.
I just talked to my dad who thinks it is stress or something.
I am stressed.
Just hanging by the phone waiting for news.
Thank you for the welcome and the kind words . No I am afraid my partner is not there. He drank a little last night I did not. I have no plans as of right now. My usual would be to take our special insulated bag filled with bottles of champagne down to the pool and drink, sun and sleep. I have to break that chain. I may use the big board after I make it through Sunday night. I have been reading and that helps.
As for that plan. Please look for threads and posts that talk about what a plan is. How you go about the right things for you. Have an approach... Aka plan... Is such an important part of living sober.
Hey sober weekender team..... Jump in here and offer up what a plan means to you!!!!
K
This will be my first weekend ( entering day 4 ) for as long as I can remember I have been drinking. My partner drinks also, not as much as I do. But I am afraid this is part of our life together. I want to do this so bad, but I am lost. This sounds strange but I don't know who I am its been so long.
I didn't know who I'd be once I sobered up, either.
Turns out I'm a guy I like a lot more now than I did when I was drinking every day.
You can do this.
My approach is that when I feel like a drink, I hang around here and post, or I will text someone such as my therapist. He said I could message him if I need to and if there is no one else around.
I also try to listen to myself. At the moment I am hanging around waiting for news. I have just had a cup of tea and something to eat.
I will not drink. I will honour my Granny's memory by staying sober.
Hopefully someone else will chime in...
I also try to listen to myself. At the moment I am hanging around waiting for news. I have just had a cup of tea and something to eat.
I will not drink. I will honour my Granny's memory by staying sober.
Hopefully someone else will chime in...
Hi Cali!
Hugs tetra hope your aunt is alright. Keep us posted.
As far as my plan goes....número uno: don't drink no matter what! Booze is no longer an option for me. After that I stay close to SR, exercise, and let myself indulge in something sweet. Sometimes something as simple as just getting outdoors offers a great distraction and reminds me there's a whole world going on out there!!
Lunch today was raw veggies, sharp cheddar, triscuits and V8! Of course since I was good for lunch that means a treat later! I'm thinking a chocolate malt ftom Dairy Queen after my dr appt! Yay!
Hugs tetra hope your aunt is alright. Keep us posted.
As far as my plan goes....número uno: don't drink no matter what! Booze is no longer an option for me. After that I stay close to SR, exercise, and let myself indulge in something sweet. Sometimes something as simple as just getting outdoors offers a great distraction and reminds me there's a whole world going on out there!!
Lunch today was raw veggies, sharp cheddar, triscuits and V8! Of course since I was good for lunch that means a treat later! I'm thinking a chocolate malt ftom Dairy Queen after my dr appt! Yay!
God, they are all dropping like flies around here.
My aunt has stress and an irregular heartbeat and she is hooked up to a drip and they are keeping her overnight.
The other one had some sort of panic attack so a third auntie is en route...
It would be very easy to hit the bottle right now, but instead I have the knees worn off myself praying to my Gran for help and guidence and I am not even a hugely religious person haha
Just e-mailed my brother for a chat and to get some things off my chest...I told him to expect me on his doorstep around about two-and-a-half months from now. I'm still determined to see Phildelphia in the fall...
My aunt has stress and an irregular heartbeat and she is hooked up to a drip and they are keeping her overnight.
The other one had some sort of panic attack so a third auntie is en route...
It would be very easy to hit the bottle right now, but instead I have the knees worn off myself praying to my Gran for help and guidence and I am not even a hugely religious person haha
Just e-mailed my brother for a chat and to get some things off my chest...I told him to expect me on his doorstep around about two-and-a-half months from now. I'm still determined to see Phildelphia in the fall...
Welcome to SR and to the weekend club, caliredHead. There's a ton of great support and wisdom to be found here. You might also consider joining in on the Class of August 2015 thread found on this same forum. It's a great way to learn from and help others who are also in early recovery.
Tetra -- you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers today.
Tetra -- you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers today.
I am sitting here and reminded of this:
IF by Rudyard Kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
IF by Rudyard Kipling
If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:
If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:
If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’
If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!
This will be my first weekend ( entering day 4 ) for as long as I can remember I have been drinking. My partner drinks also, not as much as I do. But I am afraid this is part of our life together. I want to do this so bad, but I am lost. This sounds strange but I don't know who I am its been so long.
My early planning involved removing and reducing all risks of drinking. No alcohol in the house. Stay away from places and people I usually drank with. The idea is to make resisting the animal urge to drink as easy as possible. And it is an animal urge. Stock up on your replacement drink.
You can do this. It will change your life.
B
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