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whopper 08-04-2015 05:30 PM

Getting fired
 
Well I lost my job. :guilty: I had a relationship with a woman at work, and we didn't workout. She (I think but not 100%) had some relation (developed) with the supervisor and then she got me removed from the dept. I got moved to another dept. but when another co-worker returned to work I told her about my problem with this other female that I dated :headbange I only lasted 1 day and then they got rid of me! Like come on! Geesh! I am glad I am not going back to work there anyway I mean, sometimes I feel like my supervisor want to sleep with me! I mean they are all women and I feel like they all want to get with me ya know! Like gosh, I totally respect my supervsor and all women! But I mean come on! Just cause I dated one of my bosses..... I am a single guy so why would I refuse advances of a single female? And why should I not make a move on a single female? I mean there were other women at work that wanted to well... see me outside of work......

doggonecarl 08-04-2015 05:38 PM

There is a valuable lesson here to take to your next job...when it comes to work, work. It's not a single's bar. Keep it in your pants.

ckoures 08-04-2015 05:46 PM

You know, not to sound hard nosed, but just because a woman at work wants to date you does not mean you should date her. Work is work. Good luck at the next job!

whopper 08-04-2015 05:46 PM


Originally Posted by doggonecarl (Post 5497092)
There is a valuable lesson here to take to your next job...when it comes to work, work. It's not a single's bar. Keep it in your pants.

Thx for the advice. I just feel that my lack of a socal life leads me here, and thus leads me to drink.

Blowfish 08-04-2015 05:47 PM

^^^^^^ What Carl said. Makes me think of an expression...... that would be inappropriate to post here.

ckoures 08-04-2015 05:49 PM

I don't think a social life leads one to drink. You can have a social life and not drink. At least, I firmly believe that because it is what I plan to do with my life. Sitting home alone stinks, but how about some other activities? Working out? Singles groups? Walking? Classes? That's what I'm trying. It's tough. But it works so far, and let me tell you, the hole in me is too large to fill with all the booze in the world. So I am determined to fill it with something positive. Good luck - you can do it.

MesaMan 08-04-2015 06:54 PM

The actual dynamics going on were quite separate from what you Post.

For your Relationship to even exist represented a potential Legal Liability to the Company. This situation had to be eliminated by someone being excised. You inadvertently supplied the proverbial Ammo via your disclosure of the Relationship. The details of the situation matter little. The Players, and the Genders, do not matter.

From that point on, your Employment there could not continue in the Legal environment of today. We can like, or not like, that Reality.

As an old Signature Tag of mine here used to say: 'Reality proceeds with or without your consensus'.
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thomas11 08-04-2015 06:59 PM

Don't dip your pen in the company ink! Ever.

Fluffer 08-04-2015 09:27 PM

"Don't sh-t where you eat."

GS123 08-04-2015 09:47 PM

Lol, cocky much? I do agree with the previous posters, serious liability issues with that situation.

Delfin 08-04-2015 10:03 PM


Originally Posted by Fluffer (Post 5497411)
"Don't sh-t where you eat."

Exactly my first thought, and something I learned the hard way. Every day I walk into my office I have to see someone I sort of dated and it's alittle awkward because it ended kind of ugly. Now I have to walk by this guy and pretend we don't know each other that way. Thankfully, he does the same.

I'm sorry about the job loss, whopper. Hope you get a great job soon!

Delfin

CaseyW 08-04-2015 10:37 PM

Sorry for your job loss. Hope you find a new one quickly and that the same issues will not, um, be an issue again. Wishing you the best tonight...

Soberwolf 08-04-2015 11:09 PM

Good luck finding a new job

TheRepairman 08-05-2015 02:18 AM

I've learned the hard way over the years. Now a days, I keep my personal and professional life completely separate. I do not socialize or share anything outside of very neutral topics. I work in a very contentious union shop environment so it's best to do your job and be anoymonous. Between the Union & Management, people are turned against each other for any number of reasons.

PurpleKnight 08-05-2015 03:36 AM

For me there always needs to be a line between what one can do and what one should do, funny enough it applies to my drinking too, I could still be doing it as I have the means to and there's a liquor store available not far away, but I made a decision not to.

It's always going to be difficult if a relationship doesn't end well at work.


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