Meraviglioso

Hey Jerry, I'm no expert, back at day one myself here. However, the times I have been successful at fighting the stress without drinking I have done so by putting my energy into doing something positive and productive. Either something big like going to the gym or cleaning my house, or something little like taking out the trash, paying a bill, running an errand that I had been putting off or doing something healthy like cooking a good meal or taking a bath.
Keep coming back here Jerry. You'll get there.

JerryFish

Ah crap. I found the thing that I had repressed. Something terrible that happened. I was working on it when I realized that I needed to eat. I have skipped a day eating being hungover.

Ordered beer too, because of the stress of the trauma I found. And am drinking again.

I know what causes it, now I need to have it cured.

Sorry all...

blueberry2015

Hey Jerry good to see you back buddy x x Know we are here for you x x x

Dee74

With all due respect Jerry I think you have two problems...the issue or trigger, and your method of dealing with it.

The issue may take a little time to get to the bottom of and deal with - but your reaction, your method of dealing with it - you could change that today.

Yes it will probably hurt being sober - but does it really not hurt now? I doubt it.

and sadly it will hurt again tomorrow, the same or even worse.

Knock the self destruction (and self pity) on the head and use that energy to find healthy positive ways to deal with whatever your demons are, Jerry.

You'll look back and be very glad you did,

D

Meraviglioso

Dump it out Jerry. Dump it out. You are only prolonging the inevitable. You are going to have to deal with the hangover- physical and emotional- at one point or another, wouldn't it be best to just get it done and over with? You can do it. Dump the beer.

Hawkeye13

What Dee and Mera said;

It doesn't make you feel better but worse--
Dump it out and give yourself some time to sober up and start again.

Make a better plan about how to deal with triggers and put it into place.
Many of us had to refine our "tactics" for not drinking to finally get sober.

You can do it and we will support you Jerry

doggonecarl

Caused by alcoholism. And there isn't a cure. Just a reprieve.

But it doesn't happen on its own.

ScottFromWI

It will never get better until you stop drinking Jerry. Hope you can find the strength to put it down some day. That's the first step and only you can take it.

biminiblue

The only way I've found to deal with past trauma is to accept that it happened, forgive myself and any other people involved, and understand that I cannot go back and change it. The past is the past, Jerry.

Yes, the thoughts of past trauma will pop up now and then. I just continue to forgive my part and theirs, and repeat that it is in the past and cannot be changed. What I no longer do is dwell on it and ruminate over it. That's the key to getting past it.

I could not deal with my past traumas while drinking. The victim mode and obsessive thinking was trying to drown me. I am never a victim unless I choose to view it that way.

Anna

Hi Jerry,

I hope that you get rid of the alcohol and stop drinking.

Have faith that you can deal with the trauma that caused your upset and pushed you to drink. And, for me, it's so important to keep balance in my life and that includes regular meals and snacks. I hope you make that part of your daily priority.

Glad you're back.

PurpleKnight

Time to pour the rest out, don't waste another day hungover and open the door the following day for the cycle to continue, trust me the cycle can be never ending, don't open that door once again.

Pour it out, get some food, some fluids, rest up and go at things not tomorrow, or the next day or next week, but NOW!!

. . . it's alcohol that keeps us thinking we can't do something about our situation right this moment!!

You can do this!!

thomas11

You sound well JF, glad your back and your thinking is "ship-shape".

thomas11

whoops, spoke too soon. You still have my unconditional support, keep trying and listen to the wise ones here. Cmon Jerry, get it going again. Please?

RDBplus3

suggestion jerry ...
do a Web Search for Recovery Speaker Messages ... there are a lot of great messages that are entertaining, insightful, challenging, etc. ... just download and start listening.

I drank for 40 years and STRUGGLED for a long time to get sober ... I found out I could not fix my sick self with my sick self ...

Glad you're back with us jerry, trudging the road of happy destiny

RDBplus3 ... Joyous and FREE ... and I KNOW U can B 2

BringingBackB

How are you feeling today Jerry?

If you have anything left - dump it out! Make today the start of a new you.