Survived the weekend
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Survived the weekend
Made it one week today. Like many, the weekdays are easy and I don't even think about drinking. Friday was not too bad, as I had to work Saturday morning, but I was finished work by noon and it was a beautiful beach day. I had terrible cravings yesterday, but I knew drinking was not an option. It always seems like everyone around me is happy on the weekends, having beers in the sun enjoying life. I had a nice day, went out to lunch and to two different unique beaches, but just felt solemn. I hope I can eventually get over this feeling of missing out, which is what always seems to get to me. They say comparison is the thief of joy, and I believe it. I don't have social media anymore, so I think that helps a lot. As much as I am proud I made it through the weekend, I hope a few more under my belt will make it easier. I just feel empty today, not proud. Hope everyone else is having a good weekend!
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Originally Posted by BringingBackB 
Congrats on getting through the weekend sober Lucie!
On day 11 here so big pats on the back to both of us
On day 11 here so big pats on the back to both of us
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I believe there are two ways you can view missing out, one is from the viewpoint of your drinking buddies. In that respect, you are not missing out on much. Definately not missing out on anything you probably haven't already experienced. Its the same program it always has been and always will be. The other viewpoint of missing out, is the serenity that a sober life will provide. I am very early in this, but I believe its out there. That's what we are missing out on...peace and serenity. Good luck to you.
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It will definitely get easier Lucie - I went from feeling like I was missing out to feeling glad I wasn't destroying myself anymore.
There's a lot of things you can do which don;t need alcohol at all - it's all about building a sober life you love...it takes a little time tho.
Keep the faith
congrats on your week
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There's a lot of things you can do which don;t need alcohol at all - it's all about building a sober life you love...it takes a little time tho.
Keep the faith
congrats on your week
D
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You are all very right, and thank-you for the support. It helps a lot. I had a great day at work and helped many of my clients, and it felt rewarding. I couldn't have done it hungover. One day at a time
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Thank God for this forum. I was freaking out for a while. Now at around 80 days sober.
8 May 2015 drank about a 750 ml Whisky in about 6 hours. I ate a lot so the booze went through me slow. Hadn't drank for about 2 weeks before that. That's when I knew I could not control myself sometimes. Had to stop totally or risk my happy life.
I have learned so much from this site. Without it, I would likely still be drinking to make things get right.
I try to eat clean, work out, drink lots of water etc. Every day I feel stronger. I know it can take a while for my brain to get used to sobriety.
Feels good to know that we are not alone. Thanks for the guidance and information.
Hope I can help someone with my words, like others have helped me here.
8 May 2015 drank about a 750 ml Whisky in about 6 hours. I ate a lot so the booze went through me slow. Hadn't drank for about 2 weeks before that. That's when I knew I could not control myself sometimes. Had to stop totally or risk my happy life.
I have learned so much from this site. Without it, I would likely still be drinking to make things get right.
I try to eat clean, work out, drink lots of water etc. Every day I feel stronger. I know it can take a while for my brain to get used to sobriety.
Feels good to know that we are not alone. Thanks for the guidance and information.
Hope I can help someone with my words, like others have helped me here.
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Yeah, I feel the same way sometimes. That "missing out feeling" does suck. Weekends are tough for me too so I feel you on that note.
But, for me, I'm also avoiding embarrassment, bad decisions, arguments, memory loss, hangovers, getting sick and decent sleep.
When I keep that in mind it doesn't bother me so much.
Good luck to you
But, for me, I'm also avoiding embarrassment, bad decisions, arguments, memory loss, hangovers, getting sick and decent sleep.
When I keep that in mind it doesn't bother me so much.
Good luck to you
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"Comparison is the thief of joy." I like that, and it's one I would do well to remember. I know what you mean about the feeling of solemnity that comes with the sense of missing out. We used to have fun when we were children without alcohol....what went wrong? Just a very bad habit, I guess, and many other factors. For many years I hoped that one day I might feel proud of myself for giving up binge-drinking. Corny and hackneyed as it may sound, I'm starting to appreciate the value in feeling good about myself, warts and all. Embracing the whole of me strengthens my resolve not to drink, rather than weakens it. It's like the sun is just peeping out from behind the clouds. I'm not sure if I have read your post correctly here, but thought I would add my two cents anyway. Best wishes :-)
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Great job Lucie! I too made it through the weekend and it was difficult at times. But I am SO glad I made it! I had a great weekend and don't miss the hell of active alcoholism at all!!! Congrats on 1 week! That's awesome!!!
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Originally Posted by Lucie29
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It always seems like everyone around me is happy on the weekends, having beers in the sun enjoying life. I had a nice day, went out to lunch and to two different unique beaches, but just felt solemn. I hope I can eventually get over this feeling of missing out, which is what always seems to get to me.
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It always seems like everyone around me is happy on the weekends, having beers in the sun enjoying life. I had a nice day, went out to lunch and to two different unique beaches, but just felt solemn. I hope I can eventually get over this feeling of missing out, which is what always seems to get to me.
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I feel the EXACT same way you do. I live in a beach city too and I feel like everyone is enjoying the beautiful beach weather with drinks and 'livin' it up'!
But, the other posters are right--we're not missing out; we've been there, done that but it's still so tempting in our early days. This is the first weekend I haven't drank in a reeaaallyyy long time--it's hard, but we can do it!
Congrats on making it through the weekend!!
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Congratulations on 1 week, Lucie29!!! Fantastic making it through the weekend! 
It is very early days but you have so much to look forward to! You just don't know it yet, but you will! You will slowly build a life around sobriety and at some point you will look around and wonder why you would want to blunt any of this wonderful new life with alcohol!
Your problems won't magically disappear but the previously unmanageable will become manageable. Your view will be clearer and the ground under your feet will begin to feel steady.
It took awhile to get to the point where it was apparent that alcohol was no longer an option, it will take awhile to get back.
Everyone here understands where you are
It is very early days but you have so much to look forward to! You just don't know it yet, but you will! You will slowly build a life around sobriety and at some point you will look around and wonder why you would want to blunt any of this wonderful new life with alcohol!
Your problems won't magically disappear but the previously unmanageable will become manageable. Your view will be clearer and the ground under your feet will begin to feel steady.
It took awhile to get to the point where it was apparent that alcohol was no longer an option, it will take awhile to get back.
Everyone here understands where you are
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