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I don't know the film but good to see you back here KerryJames!!!!
We need to get that number of posts pass that first hundred mark. We did it for Mr. Behan we can do it for you. Lol
Your wit will fit if I do say so!
We need to get that number of posts pass that first hundred mark. We did it for Mr. Behan we can do it for you. Lol
Your wit will fit if I do say so!
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Kerryjames.....I can tell you're completely devastated about this breakup. 
Falsepremise.....do whatever you need to keep yourself sober. When I first quit drinking I moved into a hotel to keep my sobriety intact because I live with a very heavy drinker who didn't like the idea of losing his drinking buddy. That's extreme, but it helped give me a good solid foundation on which to develop new habits.
I have a friend who is avoiding me right now because her drinking has gotten her into some trouble recently. It's weird being on this side of the 'avoiding'. If we were still drinking together she would have no problem confiding in me and that kinda makes me sad. But I know firsthand the shame she must be feeling and I understand why she's laying low. I don't want her to think I would ever judge her and I'm afraid that's what she thinks. Crud.
Falsepremise.....do whatever you need to keep yourself sober. When I first quit drinking I moved into a hotel to keep my sobriety intact because I live with a very heavy drinker who didn't like the idea of losing his drinking buddy. That's extreme, but it helped give me a good solid foundation on which to develop new habits.
I have a friend who is avoiding me right now because her drinking has gotten her into some trouble recently. It's weird being on this side of the 'avoiding'. If we were still drinking together she would have no problem confiding in me and that kinda makes me sad. But I know firsthand the shame she must be feeling and I understand why she's laying low. I don't want her to think I would ever judge her and I'm afraid that's what she thinks. Crud.
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Nice day here so far, but we are expecting storms tonight. Good, as the garden needs watering. Spent the morning helping my mom clean out my grandmother's house - she passed on May 18,, at the age of 97. Sooooo much stuff in that house. We have been working on it for weeks. It's hard because some is worth keeping, some is worth selling, some is worth giving away, and some is dumpster material. The decisions are difficult. Unfortunately I have ended up taking more than I wanted to, so now I need to find places for it all in my already stuffed house. Sigh.
Going out for dinner with the friend I was talking about the other day. He "owes" me a birthday dinner. I'm hoping we can have a nice time without getting into any crap. And I WILL set boundaries about where the conversation is allowed to go. Wish me luck.
Going out for dinner with the friend I was talking about the other day. He "owes" me a birthday dinner. I'm hoping we can have a nice time without getting into any crap. And I WILL set boundaries about where the conversation is allowed to go. Wish me luck.
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Not surprised she was upset Kery. A gentlemen always feigns disappointment whether they are or not. Well done for not drinking
Congratulations on 8000 posts LB. Your observations are always thoughtful
Glad you had a good time camping Behan despite the rain. I used to hate those feelings of not remembering if I said anything "regrettable"
BigSomb, best wishes to your niece. So good that she's out of danger. I was at a telecoms company today (we are going to revamp the signage on their vehicles & uniforms) They had Guatemalan TV on - the weather girl would probably not be allowed on the BBC - Marisol Padilla her name is - phew!
False it is uncomfortable early on but if you stay sober then it's worth it a thousand fold
Congratulations on 8000 posts LB. Your observations are always thoughtful
Glad you had a good time camping Behan despite the rain. I used to hate those feelings of not remembering if I said anything "regrettable"
BigSomb, best wishes to your niece. So good that she's out of danger. I was at a telecoms company today (we are going to revamp the signage on their vehicles & uniforms) They had Guatemalan TV on - the weather girl would probably not be allowed on the BBC - Marisol Padilla her name is - phew!
False it is uncomfortable early on but if you stay sober then it's worth it a thousand fold
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Originally Posted by mecanix 
Hello FalseP ,
I put myself into lockdown for the first few weeks so i could build a solid and sober routine .
Eat well ,
Don't hang round bar's or pubs , keep away from the usual places and times you bought alcohol .
If you have booze in the house dump it down the sink or give it away now before the weekend starts ,
Wrap your pillow with a towel ( i sweated a lot when i gave up )
Maybe put some ice cream in the freezer as a surrogate reward .
Early sobriety aint a bunch of laughs but it gives you a solid base upon which to build a good solid sober life , as opposed to trying to make headway on the shifting sands of alcohol .
Read a lot about how other people manage sobriety and maybe see if they sound content , you can have that too , with time and commitment
I'm in
m
I put myself into lockdown for the first few weeks so i could build a solid and sober routine .
Eat well ,
Don't hang round bar's or pubs , keep away from the usual places and times you bought alcohol .
If you have booze in the house dump it down the sink or give it away now before the weekend starts ,
Wrap your pillow with a towel ( i sweated a lot when i gave up )
Maybe put some ice cream in the freezer as a surrogate reward .
Early sobriety aint a bunch of laughs but it gives you a solid base upon which to build a good solid sober life , as opposed to trying to make headway on the shifting sands of alcohol .
Read a lot about how other people manage sobriety and maybe see if they sound content , you can have that too , with time and commitment
I'm in
m
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Melvin Udall: Where do they teach you to talk like this? In some Panama City "Sailor wanna hump-hump" bar, or is it getaway day and your last shot at his whiskey? Sell crazy someplace else, we're all stocked up here.
As Good As It Gets
(I got the film before I looked up the quote, BTW)
As Good As It Gets
(I got the film before I looked up the quote, BTW)
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Originally Posted by saoutchik
Not surprised she was upset Kery. A gentlemen always feigns disappointment whether they are or not. Well done for not drinking
Congratulations on 8000 posts LB. Your observations are always thoughtful
Glad you had a good time camping Behan despite the rain. I used to hate those feelings of not remembering if I said anything "regrettable"
BigSomb, best wishes to your niece. So good that she's out of danger. I was at a telecoms company today (we are going to revamp the signage on their vehicles & uniforms) They had Guatemalan TV on - the weather girl would probably not be allowed on the BBC - Marisol Padilla her name is - phew!
False it is uncomfortable early on but if you stay sober then it's worth it a thousand fold
Congratulations on 8000 posts LB. Your observations are always thoughtful
Glad you had a good time camping Behan despite the rain. I used to hate those feelings of not remembering if I said anything "regrettable"
BigSomb, best wishes to your niece. So good that she's out of danger. I was at a telecoms company today (we are going to revamp the signage on their vehicles & uniforms) They had Guatemalan TV on - the weather girl would probably not be allowed on the BBC - Marisol Padilla her name is - phew!
False it is uncomfortable early on but if you stay sober then it's worth it a thousand fold
We hadn't seen each for weeks, she knew she was out. You don't want to be a guest in my reality, there's the door.......next! That's a gentleman with a backbone
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go sell crazy somewhere else....
Originally Posted by Weasel1966
I don't know the film but good to see you back here KerryJames!!!!
We need to get that number of posts pass that first hundred mark. We did it for Mr. Behan we can do it for you. Lol
Your wit will fit if I do say so!
We need to get that number of posts pass that first hundred mark. We did it for Mr. Behan we can do it for you. Lol
Your wit will fit if I do say so!
)The film was 'As Good as it Gets' and I may have slightly misquoted it.......
I remembered him saying that to some Jehovas who knocked on his door......
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xn74wA4qGpA
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it has come to my attention that there is a moss/algae kinda green stuff growing on the deck by where the grill takes up space.
this is definitely a job for a boy and his power washer!
wife is sleeping, I made myself a lunch omelet - broccoli, squash, onion add a couple eggs and grate on some asiago cheese... v8 carrot orange juice - organic but not so great...
I'll give you Al Roker, Willard Scott, Jim Cantore and 3 Stephane Abrams for 1 Marisol Padilla. Don't even want the subtitles.
Don't even care if she calls for rain. It's definitely hot down there.
BigS is probably secretly dating her by now.
edit: OH, I recall a gal I was seeing for a while suddenly decided it was over. I was good with it. But she kept calling my house to tell me not to call her. After one I turned around to see if Rod Serling was standing behind me. I called the phone company to have her calls blocked but they said I had to file a police report first. I did. Spooky. Then I started seeing her at the grocery store. Like they would say in "The Quest for the Holy Grail," run away, run away.
this is definitely a job for a boy and his power washer!
wife is sleeping, I made myself a lunch omelet - broccoli, squash, onion add a couple eggs and grate on some asiago cheese... v8 carrot orange juice - organic but not so great...
I'll give you Al Roker, Willard Scott, Jim Cantore and 3 Stephane Abrams for 1 Marisol Padilla. Don't even want the subtitles.
Don't even care if she calls for rain. It's definitely hot down there.
BigS is probably secretly dating her by now.
edit: OH, I recall a gal I was seeing for a while suddenly decided it was over. I was good with it. But she kept calling my house to tell me not to call her. After one I turned around to see if Rod Serling was standing behind me. I called the phone company to have her calls blocked but they said I had to file a police report first. I did. Spooky. Then I started seeing her at the grocery store. Like they would say in "The Quest for the Holy Grail," run away, run away.
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Well, I'm done for weeding at the moment. I'm old fashioned and vote for Saoutchik's feigning disappointment. Especially because girls have friends who they share things with and word gets around.
MLD I completely empathize on the clearing and cleaning. My bachelor uncle died 7 years ago. He shared household with my grandmother and her unmarried sister who had their parent's stuff. I have a lot of things here at my house now too. Hopefully there isn't an overwhelming amount of stuff.
Lunch for me now
MLD I completely empathize on the clearing and cleaning. My bachelor uncle died 7 years ago. He shared household with my grandmother and her unmarried sister who had their parent's stuff. I have a lot of things here at my house now too. Hopefully there isn't an overwhelming amount of stuff.
Lunch for me now
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the red pill is hard to swallow
Ruby: I wish the girls of today were old fashioned like you or had old fashioned values. I have certain principles and values when it comes to relationships and the dating game and there's some behaviours that I simply won't entertain. Neither will I ever suplicate to one of these girls....
The reality is harsh and sometimes it's a tough pill to swallow, but things have changed in 2015. I think social media has altered the mentality of the girls of today......she probably has at least 20 orbitors on facebook waiting in the wings telling her every day...'you're gourgeous', feeding her ego......I've never seen such self-entitiled behaviour.......
You want more context and then tell me if you really think I should have feigned dissappointment? Her friend was with my friend but she had zero interest in him....used him......and my friend went to go back for more but she displayed a lack of interest (without saying the word no as 90% are incapable of doing) "why can't he just get the message?" Ever hear a girl say that? I agree, that's why we have to decipher when there is no interest.....try explaining this to my friend.....he keeps calling her....she gives excuses...he doesn't get the message. I don't blame the girl for this.
But get this..the one I'm with (girl A) says to me that her friend (girl B) is interested in me and could she give her my phone number.....I thought it was a test but she says to me "I'm the least jelous person in the world". A few days later girl B contacts me......we go out......why look a gift horse in the mouth......I spend more time with girl A and nothing is said.....only drops the hint that my friend is a "clueless idiot". I believe my friend would qualify as the gentleman you describe........I knew the score with her......I just thought it was funny that she contacted me to tell me that........only because I pulled away.....it was an ego move on her part.
I had contacted girl B again, and she gave me a definite maybe response to go out...."I'll let you know later", this is a supplication move, wanting me to wait on her call.....I told her "No, I withdraw the offer. get back when you're sure of your schedule" My frame. She was in shock and proceeded to blow up my phone telling me I was "so proud"!!! I love it when women use "shaming language" when a man doesn't take their crap......like this one today telling me I was being aggressive when I was really being assertive. Huge difference. They're both Next'ed. It's all a game of chess.
The reality is harsh and sometimes it's a tough pill to swallow, but things have changed in 2015. I think social media has altered the mentality of the girls of today......she probably has at least 20 orbitors on facebook waiting in the wings telling her every day...'you're gourgeous', feeding her ego......I've never seen such self-entitiled behaviour.......
You want more context and then tell me if you really think I should have feigned dissappointment? Her friend was with my friend but she had zero interest in him....used him......and my friend went to go back for more but she displayed a lack of interest (without saying the word no as 90% are incapable of doing) "why can't he just get the message?" Ever hear a girl say that? I agree, that's why we have to decipher when there is no interest.....try explaining this to my friend.....he keeps calling her....she gives excuses...he doesn't get the message. I don't blame the girl for this.
But get this..the one I'm with (girl A) says to me that her friend (girl B) is interested in me and could she give her my phone number.....I thought it was a test but she says to me "I'm the least jelous person in the world". A few days later girl B contacts me......we go out......why look a gift horse in the mouth......I spend more time with girl A and nothing is said.....only drops the hint that my friend is a "clueless idiot". I believe my friend would qualify as the gentleman you describe........I knew the score with her......I just thought it was funny that she contacted me to tell me that........only because I pulled away.....it was an ego move on her part.
I had contacted girl B again, and she gave me a definite maybe response to go out...."I'll let you know later", this is a supplication move, wanting me to wait on her call.....I told her "No, I withdraw the offer. get back when you're sure of your schedule" My frame. She was in shock and proceeded to blow up my phone telling me I was "so proud"!!! I love it when women use "shaming language" when a man doesn't take their crap......like this one today telling me I was being aggressive when I was really being assertive. Huge difference. They're both Next'ed. It's all a game of chess.
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My Dad called me last night. It's been a year since we talked on the phone. He asked how we're doing, yadda, yadda ... I told him a few things going on, all good things really. And maybe 5 - 10 minutes in he decided it was time to wrap things up, and that was that.
I didn't have much of an emotional reaction to it at all. Kind of like trying to catch a stranger up on what's going on in your life at the moment. So odd.
Drinking never came up. Sobriety was never mentioned.
I didn't have much of an emotional reaction to it at all. Kind of like trying to catch a stranger up on what's going on in your life at the moment. So odd.
Drinking never came up. Sobriety was never mentioned.
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I have had a productive day today...sober.
I am not going to lie. My mind says "go ahead and have one, you have made it ten days, so you know you are okay". I know better, but the thought is there. Its actually a perfect gorgeous day and I am in a good mood. So the perfect "celebrate" storm is brewing. But I can't be on the SOBER BUS and following my mind, now can I? I choose the BUS! I just need to make it till 7 pm and I am in the safe zone.
I am feeling a little OCD so here it goes. I would like to give a huge thank you to all the weekenders on board! Lbrain-8000, Lola, False, Brynn, Olive, Ruby, Behan, Mark, Bimini, Surrender, Mesa, MLD, Kevin, Gilmer, GSmarter, Happy&Free, Non, BigS (hope your niece is okay), Stella, Trach's, Verte (Thanks for all the support on my accountability thread), EE2010, Lunar, CCAM, Toadie, Tetra, T4C18, Saoutchik, Kerry, SW, Soberpotamus and of course the Wease!Thank you all for being on board. It means we are not alone!!!
"Many hands make the work easy"
I am not going to lie. My mind says "go ahead and have one, you have made it ten days, so you know you are okay". I know better, but the thought is there. Its actually a perfect gorgeous day and I am in a good mood. So the perfect "celebrate" storm is brewing. But I can't be on the SOBER BUS and following my mind, now can I? I choose the BUS! I just need to make it till 7 pm and I am in the safe zone.
I am feeling a little OCD so here it goes. I would like to give a huge thank you to all the weekenders on board! Lbrain-8000, Lola, False, Brynn, Olive, Ruby, Behan, Mark, Bimini, Surrender, Mesa, MLD, Kevin, Gilmer, GSmarter, Happy&Free, Non, BigS (hope your niece is okay), Stella, Trach's, Verte (Thanks for all the support on my accountability thread), EE2010, Lunar, CCAM, Toadie, Tetra, T4C18, Saoutchik, Kerry, SW, Soberpotamus and of course the Wease!Thank you all for being on board. It means we are not alone!!!
"Many hands make the work easy"
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Gosh, even when I read I can't catch up. I'm getting a pedicure and then I have to get back to work. Am cutting it close. I'd rather go home for a nap.
Ruby, must be nice to be near your old friends. There is something to be said for staying near your roots.
Ok-I better try to hurry up this pedicure. ....later.
Ruby, must be nice to be near your old friends. There is something to be said for staying near your roots.
Ok-I better try to hurry up this pedicure. ....later.
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