My Mother Died
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Join Date: Mar 2015
Location: Illinois
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Dean, I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. Staying sober will help you through the grieving process, and just know your mother would be very proud to see you staying sober.
Hugs and prayers for you in this difficult time.
Hugs and prayers for you in this difficult time.
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Join Date: Mar 2015
Location: Pennsylvania
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I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my dad about a month ago and I relapsed after his funeral. It didn't make me feel better. In fact, it made me feel much, much worse. I was also very close with my dad and it is still hard, but I'm surviving. You can, too. I read through a few different websites on grief (which I should have done BEFORE his funeral when I lost control) they really helped me understand what I was feeling and why I was feeling that way. I think understanding that helped me a lot moving forward. Just knowing that as bad as I was feeling wouldn't be that way all the time, at least not to the extent.
There's not much else I can say except that I'm very sorry and I understand and I know that staying sober hurts, but compromising your sobriety will hurt more. Hugs.
There's not much else I can say except that I'm very sorry and I understand and I know that staying sober hurts, but compromising your sobriety will hurt more. Hugs.
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Join Date: Jan 2015
Location: Florida
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So sorry about your loss, Dean. I've lost both parents. Can't say that I've grieved in the most healthy way, but it's best to be sober and allow yourself to grieve and heal. Prayers for you and your lovely mom. She would love it if you coped with sobriety. (I know, I'm an old mom myself)
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Join Date: Apr 2009
Location: UK
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I just wanted to say thank you for all your kind words, on here and privately. I wish I was in a position to say I remained sober but lying doesn't help.
Not a believer in AA it is difficult (in the UK) to find something that will suit my mindset, when I did previously it helped hugely. I wont give up on myself and want to make myself happy and also know that my mum would be giving the thumbs up.
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Not a believer in AA it is difficult (in the UK) to find something that will suit my mindset, when I did previously it helped hugely. I wont give up on myself and want to make myself happy and also know that my mum would be giving the thumbs up.
The fight continues.................................loading. ...............
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Originally Posted by Dean1978 
I wont give up on myself and want to make myself happy and also know that my mum would be giving the thumbs up.
Sorry for your loss, Dean.
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Join Date: Apr 2007
Location: Australia
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If you have reservations about AA you can try SMART or LifeRing Dean?
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do something tho - don't lose yourself - I have a feeling your mother would be sad to see you suffer?
I'm sorry for your loss.
D
UK SMART Recovery
LifeRing UK - LifeRing
do something tho - don't lose yourself - I have a feeling your mother would be sad to see you suffer?
I'm sorry for your loss.
D
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Join Date: Oct 2012
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I'm so sorry for your loss. The death of a parent leaves a hole that can't be filled. But as you said, your mother wouldn't want you to suffer over her or throw your life away on booze. Try to use this as motivation to build a life that would make her proud.
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