My Mother Died

Old 07-22-2015, 03:33 AM
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Very sorry for your loss Dean!!
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Old 07-22-2015, 04:33 AM
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Sorry Dean
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Old 07-22-2015, 05:51 AM
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I'm very sorry for your loss.
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Old 07-22-2015, 06:59 AM
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I'm very sorry, Dean.
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Old 07-22-2015, 07:14 AM
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Dean, I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. Staying sober will help you through the grieving process, and just know your mother would be very proud to see you staying sober.

Hugs and prayers for you in this difficult time.
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Old 07-22-2015, 09:40 AM
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So sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts & prayers.
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Old 07-22-2015, 11:18 AM
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Dean, check in, sweetie. No matter which road you chose to be on today. Please? We care and we just want to be there for you.
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Old 07-22-2015, 11:33 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss, Dean.
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Old 07-22-2015, 02:54 PM
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I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. I lost my dad about a month ago and I relapsed after his funeral. It didn't make me feel better. In fact, it made me feel much, much worse. I was also very close with my dad and it is still hard, but I'm surviving. You can, too. I read through a few different websites on grief (which I should have done BEFORE his funeral when I lost control) they really helped me understand what I was feeling and why I was feeling that way. I think understanding that helped me a lot moving forward. Just knowing that as bad as I was feeling wouldn't be that way all the time, at least not to the extent.

There's not much else I can say except that I'm very sorry and I understand and I know that staying sober hurts, but compromising your sobriety will hurt more. Hugs.
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Old 07-22-2015, 02:59 PM
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So sorry about your loss, Dean. I've lost both parents. Can't say that I've grieved in the most healthy way, but it's best to be sober and allow yourself to grieve and heal. Prayers for you and your lovely mom. She would love it if you coped with sobriety. (I know, I'm an old mom myself)
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Old 07-22-2015, 03:44 PM
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Thinking of you Dean.
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Old 07-29-2015, 03:02 PM
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I just wanted to say thank you for all your kind words, on here and privately. I wish I was in a position to say I remained sober but lying doesn't help.

Not a believer in AA it is difficult (in the UK) to find something that will suit my mindset, when I did previously it helped hugely. I wont give up on myself and want to make myself happy and also know that my mum would be giving the thumbs up.

The fight continues.................................loading. ...............
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Old 07-29-2015, 03:09 PM
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Dean have you tried smart mtns ? glad your here bud
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Old 07-29-2015, 04:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Dean1978 View Post
I wont give up on myself and want to make myself happy and also know that my mum would be giving the thumbs up.
This quote about covers what I was going to add.

Sorry for your loss, Dean.
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Old 07-29-2015, 07:17 PM
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Dean, many hugs. Forgive yourself and cut yourself some slack. In our darkest hours, we can't be expected to be shining examples of virtue. It will get better.
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Old 07-29-2015, 07:24 PM
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If you have reservations about AA you can try SMART or LifeRing Dean?

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LifeRing UK - LifeRing

do something tho - don't lose yourself - I have a feeling your mother would be sad to see you suffer?
I'm sorry for your loss.

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Old 07-30-2015, 02:24 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. The death of a parent leaves a hole that can't be filled. But as you said, your mother wouldn't want you to suffer over her or throw your life away on booze. Try to use this as motivation to build a life that would make her proud.
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Old 07-30-2015, 07:55 AM
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How awful. I'm very sorry for your loss.

Boozing will only make things seem worse.
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