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Old 07-17-2015, 08:47 AM
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Just occured to me and I think to a large extent I believe this. The main reason we all drink is because us drinkers dont handle stress well....It has certainly been my experience Thoughts?
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Old 07-17-2015, 08:52 AM
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Drinkers drink.
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Old 07-17-2015, 08:55 AM
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A lot of people don't handle stress well....

Alcoholics and addicts drink and use drugs because they are addicted to drinking and drugs.

Stress certainly is a factor..... but it's not the cause.

Alcoholics and addicts drink and use drugs because of stress, because they're happy, because they're sad, to celebrate, to mourn, because they're bored, because they're scared, because they're excited, because they're anxious, because it's tuesday....

We need to learn to deal appropriately with stress, absolutely. But that's just about learning to be human.

The trap here is thinking that "well, if I just learn to deal with stress then I can drink again."


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Old 07-17-2015, 09:08 AM
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I drank because I am an Alcoholic.
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Old 07-17-2015, 09:16 AM
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Stress certainly was a trigger for me but I drank regardless of what I was feeling. Even in moments when I was not stressed, I'd want to drink to enjoy not being stressed. Like FreeOwl said, I don't want to fall into the trap of deluding myself thst i can start drinking normally because my stress is gone.
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Old 07-17-2015, 09:22 AM
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Hi mrjustin, it may be the main reason you drink (and many others) but I believe an alcoholic can find a reason to drink very easily. I believe stress would be considered a trigger.
Even in this post, I find the need to correct myself, I said we can find a reason to drink. There is never a reason to drink, just a desire.
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Old 07-17-2015, 09:24 AM
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I drink when I start to feel good

I am 6 days sober. I am feeling good!! The crazy thing with me is that...when I feel good, is when I want to go out, meet friends, socialize, have some drinks. Then the next day I am hungover and tired and depressed so then I think...some mimosas with breakfast will help me feel better or some beer at lunch....so stupid!!!
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Old 07-17-2015, 09:32 AM
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I drank because I enjoyed getting drunk.
I drank when I was stressed.
I drank when I wasn't stressed.
I drank when I was unhappy.
I drank when I was happy.
I drank when things were going bad.
I drank when things were going great.

The only common thing in all of that for me was me being addicted to the pleasure of getting drunk.
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Old 07-17-2015, 09:59 AM
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I don''t think it is true that all alcoholics drink because of stress, though it could be a contributing factor for some, though don't ask what percentage. I know that stress was the overwhelming factor while I was drinking heavily. I started drinking heavily at the age of 60 because I couldn't sleep because of worrying about my life savings going down the drain on a money-losing business. There were other major stresses as well. I drank for about 75% of the time for a 5-year period, but eventually got out of the stressful situation, and the urge to drink ended. I now prefer to not drink, and have no intention of starting again. Before the age of 60, drinking was a minor part of my life.

When I was in detox/rehab (4 times) there were some counselors who agreed with me that stress was the cause of my drinking, There were others that claimed stress was an excuse, and that I drank because I was an alcoholic, and/or had an allergy to alcohol. was carrying unresolved resentments, suffered from an over-active ego and self-will run riot. I tried the recommended treatment recommended treatment of the later set of counselors (join AA, go to AA meetings, get a sponsor, work the steps and pray a lot), with no noticeable reduction in my drinking. In actual fact, my life improved, and then I magically stopped wanting to drink.

My main point is: beware of making generalizations along the lines of "all or most alcoholics drink because of X, and the cure is Y".
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Old 07-17-2015, 10:03 AM
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Most of my drinking comes out of boredom rather then stress.
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Old 07-17-2015, 10:20 AM
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I think stress is a pretty common trigger, but honestly, I don't think us drinkers need more of a reason than "i'm breathing" to drink.
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Old 07-17-2015, 10:27 AM
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Originally Posted by skeletoncrue View Post
I drank because I enjoyed getting drunk.
I drank when I was stressed.
I drank when I wasn't stressed.
I drank when I was unhappy.
I drank when I was happy.
I drank when things were going bad.
I drank when things were going great.

The only common thing in all of that for me was me being addicted to the pleasure of getting drunk.

Ditto, I'm just a drunk............. but not anymore!
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Old 07-17-2015, 10:33 AM
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I think that drinking often results in more stress as we try to cope with the negative consequences.
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It was definitly something that I convinced myself over, that alcohol was in some way helping the stresses in life, but really it only contributed to it, the hangovers, the increased anxiety, the affects on my health, it all became an addiction that made things much worse!!

In the end I had carved out an addictive habit of drinking, that regardless of whether I was stressed or not, I would still drink because I was addicted to alcohol!!
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Old 07-17-2015, 11:47 AM
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I may not agree with everything in AA's BB, but with this I do agree................:

"...Men and women drink essentially because they like the effect produced by alcohol..."

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Er... my thoughts are every person is different.

People drink for all kinds of reasons.

Alcoholics drink because they are alcoholics.
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I may not agree with everything in AA's BB, but with this I do agree................:

"...Men and women drink essentially because they like the effect produced by alcohol..."

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I didn't.

I drank because I wanted to fit in. And I continued to drink because I became an alcoholic.
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It's definitely a reason a lot of people drink but I know a lot of others who don't handle stress well and they eat, or stay busy all day, or gamble.......
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I think there are a large number of factors that contribute to alcohol abuse...and for me, low frustration tolerance is one of them. When I reflect back on my life (and I of course am only speaking for me).. I didn't really learn any other way to neither deal ..nor have fun. Alcohol was very much a part of my upbringing and felt like some sort of right of passage. Emotions were just an embarrassing weakness one was shamed for. I came from a very "suck it up buttercup" sort of mentality and when I think about it...shoving some thing in my mouth..food, booze, cigarettes was a way of handling every discomfort.

I formed some very unhealthy habits and maladjusted coping mechanisms a long, long time ago...

The struggle today is...so how do I live now? My relationship with alcohol was not one of physical addiction..but very, very, very much emotional. I soldier on...
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Old 07-17-2015, 03:23 PM
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good to see you MrJustin.

I think a lot of us self medicated for various things - but as you can see, not many of us like blanket statements, lol.

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