SnoozyQ

My 18 year old just said ' Mum you are different ,' have you had a drink ?
I said no I had to have a sleeping tablet .. The gig is up .... I'm so upset , she was my baby , I'm sure I have lost her respect

zerothehero

Snoozy - It is what it is. You didn't drink and that's a good thing.

Gilmer

Probably not. She will see that you're all right after the pill wears off. You will retain her trust as she sees that you are going day after day without drinking. She loves you. You two will get through this. Don't throw everything overboard and say "What the heck?" You will prove your integrity. Just give it time.

Dee74

One exchange doesn't mean you've lost her respect Snooz.
She's simply worried, as any daughter would be about their mum.

Hows your recovery plan coming along?

D

PurpleKnight

If my drinking had of damaged my relationships on a permanent basis and they were unrepairable I'd be feeling pretty lonely right about now.

But everyone here on SR knows that's not true, there is hope, we found that amongst mere strangers who reached out to us and had faith in us within this community.

We can rebuild with our loved ones who are genuinely worrying about us, that anxiety they feel can quickly be changed, the more we put some distance between our drinking lives and the new Sober life we're seeking to create.

Hang in there Snooz!!

dwtbd

And she said "different" , must mean you as " normal" is the default, she must mean the last couple of Years, yeah? You got this

resolute50

Snoozy,
Your little AV is trying to get you to make more excuses to drink.
It happens. All of a sudden you're looking for reasons to take the next step down the road to a terrible relapse.

You are my friend, have been for nearly 2 years now.
I will always be your friend and help in any way I can.
It's going to take some work to slam the brakes on the crazy train.
And I will help in any way I can.

2WheelsGood

Is taking a sleeping tablet in order to sleep instead of drinking yourself to sleep considered a weakness? I guess if it's a serious narcotic or something that could also be addictive maybe, but I don't have a problem with it if it moves you forward. Just my opinion. I'm no doctor.

I had to take half an OTC sleep aid every night for the first couple of weeks of sobriety in order to sleep before midnight. It helped a lot. I no longer take them as a chamomile tea seems to do the same now. It got me to quit drinking and not go crazy, so I am OK with it.

YMMV I guess.

LostLilly

That has happened to me many, many times and I know how you feel. Heck, I don't even want to get into this past weekends craziness that was noticed by the kids. Respect can be rebuilt. My husband is telling me this since I have been in tears and the notion is getting me by these past 4 days. My Dad has been drunk my whole life and I cannot believe he is alive with all the health issues it's caused. Actually I still respect him! I hate his drinking but I can't judge given my past couple years. I respect the good qualities and was soooo happy the 2yrs he was sober. Your kids love you! You can rebuild!! I am goong to try and rebuild trust right with you and I bet I have more to make up for!!

Anna

Snoozy, stay strong and keep on working on your recovery. Your daughter is concerned and maybe afraid and that's because she cares.

biminiblue

Were you drinking ? I'm a little confused by your post.

tomsteve

Eeeeeaaaaassy there, snoozy. It's reading like her tired and emotional equaling reading too much into it maybe? You say " I'm sure I lost her respect" so that's telling me that's your opinion and not truth.
Hope yer getting some good sleep. Then maybe time to have a sit down chit chat with yer daughter?
AFTER lookin in the mirror at yourself and telling yourself you love you.

Bebrave

I read it that she had been drinking and her daughter thought something was up. Suzy told her she took a sleeping pill? Pardon me if I'm totally wrong-- it wouldn't be the first time ��

I'm new here, but long enough to see how much love and support you have here! Come back and talk about it.

Dee74

I read it the other way - she took a sleeping tablet - she'd not been drinking...hopefully Snooz will come back and clear things up

D

silentrun

I don't understand that either Q. Did you tell her it was a sleeping pill when really it was alcohol? If that is the case just come clean. I have an 18 year old daughter that would read me the riot act if I drank but I highly doubt she would lose respect for me. She doesn't want to see harm come to you and will try to intervene. Things seems so desperate and emotional when drinking. They really are not. You have what it takes to turn this around whenever you decide to tap your little red heels together.

Start again Q. You have done it before and you can do it again.

LostLilly

Woops, I think I misinterpreted and though you we drinking. Sorry! My kids have asked me that question also when I wasn't and it's frustrating! Either way she loves you and probably just concerned. Parenting is so hard, at least for me anyway!

SnoozyQ

I was drinking & tried to explain it away with a sleeping tablet !

Right this is it . TODAY IS MY DAY ! enough is enough I've got to stop this before it gets any worse.

Thank you all for your support , I am absolutely determined .xxxx

thomas11

To be clear, that's how I understood it as well. Snoozy, we are all here to support you. I will offer you all I have, and that is my unconditional support. You've been struggling, we get that. But you are also determined, and in the end I believe your determination will win.

2WheelsGood

Honesty

Good start. Best wishes to your goal!

Dee74

Sorry I got the wrong end of the stick, Snoozy.

You really need to do something definite I think - more than declaring 'this is it'

You've tried...this time you can't do it alone.
do you need to look for face to face help ?

D