Newbie Weekender Sober Thread June 25 until
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You guys are making me so envious of your sixty and rainy!!!!
I shall get up proper in a little bit to get some walking in before the temps start climbing to over 90 today.
I think coffee is in order first!
Happy Saturday Sober Enders!!!
I shall get up proper in a little bit to get some walking in before the temps start climbing to over 90 today.
I think coffee is in order first!
Happy Saturday Sober Enders!!!
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Morning all
Well I think I finally drifted off between 10pm and 11pm, woke up at around 6.30am but then drifted in and out of sleep until 8am. Feel much better for it. My body is exhausted, but my mind is racing - I guess I just need to give my mind time to learn how to relax without alcohol.
It is raining here, and supposed to all day! Day 18 for me, and I have lost 9lbs as of this morning! More importantly I am feeling much better, more energy and more strength!
Going to enjoy my coffee, then I need to actually get ready for this date. Not sure what I am going to wear and I need a haircut, as I was waiting until nearer my holiday next month. Oh well, I always think first dates should be casual and they either like you or they don't!
Well I think I finally drifted off between 10pm and 11pm, woke up at around 6.30am but then drifted in and out of sleep until 8am. Feel much better for it. My body is exhausted, but my mind is racing - I guess I just need to give my mind time to learn how to relax without alcohol.
It is raining here, and supposed to all day! Day 18 for me, and I have lost 9lbs as of this morning! More importantly I am feeling much better, more energy and more strength!
Going to enjoy my coffee, then I need to actually get ready for this date. Not sure what I am going to wear and I need a haircut, as I was waiting until nearer my holiday next month. Oh well, I always think first dates should be casual and they either like you or they don't!
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Good morning!
Every morning, especially Saturday morning, I thank God that I didn't drink last night.
Weasel...I hope you got a lift home. That's a long walk.
I'm gonna take my doggies out for their morning walk and then spend a few hours with my volunteer work. Then I'll be lazy for the rest of the day. I still have that dr who dvd to watch.
See you all later.
Every morning, especially Saturday morning, I thank God that I didn't drink last night.
Weasel...I hope you got a lift home. That's a long walk.
I'm gonna take my doggies out for their morning walk and then spend a few hours with my volunteer work. Then I'll be lazy for the rest of the day. I still have that dr who dvd to watch.
See you all later.
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learningagain- have you tried any meditation yet? I find it kind of hard, but even if I can get in 5 minutes it makes a HUGE difference for me. In general I find myself more relaxed if I do it once a day, plus I try to do it when those cravings hit or I find myself getting frustrated/annoyed. Really brings me back down. When I first started I found a little video on youtube that was guided meditation, now I just do it on my own.
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Morning friends
Happy that I made it through another Friday night. Looks like it's going to be a beautiful day here... sunny and 78. Heading out soon for a day trip with another couple... both drinkers, along with my hubby. I will feel out of place, but it's ok... My diet coke with lime will do just fine.
I'm not going to drink today, and I feel great about that.
Happy that I made it through another Friday night. Looks like it's going to be a beautiful day here... sunny and 78. Heading out soon for a day trip with another couple... both drinkers, along with my hubby. I will feel out of place, but it's ok... My diet coke with lime will do just fine.
I'm not going to drink today, and I feel great about that.
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Good morning/afternoon - my fancy coffee maker bit the dust this morning. 
What is morning without coffee? It's like a day without sunshine (thanks Anita Bryant). So, I went out into my garage, rifled through my boxes and found an old coffeemaker (a Mr. Coffee of all things! How last century!) and viola' ... I got me a cuppa. Sometimes new fangeld contraptions aren't all that and a bag of chips.
Happy Saturday to all.
What is morning without coffee? It's like a day without sunshine (thanks Anita Bryant). So, I went out into my garage, rifled through my boxes and found an old coffeemaker (a Mr. Coffee of all things! How last century!) and viola' ... I got me a cuppa. Sometimes new fangeld contraptions aren't all that and a bag of chips.
Happy Saturday to all.
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site - I am going to look some up tonight. Something has to help, right?! I hate it when I am lying there and my brain is racing through ridiculous things - things I can do nothing about at that time anyway, so hopefully a bit of meditation will help. I spent 2 hours last night worrying about things I have to do, when in reality I have accomplished so much this last three weeks that would not have been done if I was drinking!
I think this date was worrying me last night, because I was thinking of what to say, as "hey I don't drink because I cannot control myself when I do" sounds bad on a first date! But, he already knows I do not drink, and he is down to Earth, so I am sure it will be fine. I know this is why people recommend not dating in the early days of sobriety! Thing is, you cannot control when you meet someone nice.
I think this date was worrying me last night, because I was thinking of what to say, as "hey I don't drink because I cannot control myself when I do" sounds bad on a first date! But, he already knows I do not drink, and he is down to Earth, so I am sure it will be fine. I know this is why people recommend not dating in the early days of sobriety! Thing is, you cannot control when you meet someone nice.
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Good morning all! I made it through a Friday night without booze - Woo hoo!
Had some reallllllly strange dreams though, and unfortunately my ex was in most of them... but I guess that's what I get for trying to surpess "him" with booze. 9 hours of sleep didn't feel like enough but I still have way more energy this morning thank I would have if I drank... Heading to work shortly and then meeting a friend for "Linner" - Zumba class tonight so I'll be super busy I can get through a Saturday too I know it!
Had some reallllllly strange dreams though, and unfortunately my ex was in most of them... but I guess that's what I get for trying to surpess "him" with booze. 9 hours of sleep didn't feel like enough but I still have way more energy this morning thank I would have if I drank... Heading to work shortly and then meeting a friend for "Linner" - Zumba class tonight so I'll be super busy
I can get through a Saturday too I know it!
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angiebaby - congrats! I had the same dreams about my ex the first few weeks, now I am back to random crazy dreams that are about nothing! I think it is just your brain processing what you have been processing, and then it is done
I posted last night about when my ex came last night, I felt nothing, just calm and sorry for him. To think I spent 3 years drinking, thinking it was making everything better, when in fact all it did was kept me "stuck", now I am able to process and move on.
I posted last night about when my ex came last night, I felt nothing, just calm and sorry for him. To think I spent 3 years drinking, thinking it was making everything better, when in fact all it did was kept me "stuck", now I am able to process and move on.
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learningagain- I wouldn't worry too much. I think most of us on here have had that first date or function where we didn't drink and thought everyone would notice and ask questions. There's even threads about it. Turns out, no one really cares. Most of the time we even realize no one around us is drinking either, it's just when we were drunk we thought everyone was just like us! Like you said, you can't control when you meet people, just take it slow! No need to rush anything when you're working so much on yourself. Any good guy will understand that, even if you don't want to divulge the whole reason
Congrats on getting through Friday Angie! Sounds like you have quite the day planned ahead. Enjoy it!
I wish I had an ex to dream about- all of my crazy dreams were about drinking! I still have them everyone once in a while, but those first few weeks were insane! They helped though. If I'm dreaming about drinking, I definitely have a problem haha
I just went for a lovely walk around the building I'm working in today, and boy I'm glad I did. It's so green and lovely outside! The fresh air was great.
Congrats on getting through Friday Angie! Sounds like you have quite the day planned ahead. Enjoy it!
I wish I had an ex to dream about- all of my crazy dreams were about drinking! I still have them everyone once in a while, but those first few weeks were insane! They helped though. If I'm dreaming about drinking, I definitely have a problem haha
I just went for a lovely walk around the building I'm working in today, and boy I'm glad I did. It's so green and lovely outside! The fresh air was great.
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site - exactly! I am far enough into this sobriety thing that I know I will be fine. Plus I think the guy is far more nervous than me about this date based on his texts! Who knew I could make someone nervous! And I always take it slowly, I have a child so need to think about him first. It is bad timing too - I have my son for a month starting in a week, so no free nights for dates! I refuse to have men in and out of my boys life. I am sure some friends will watch him if I need them too though! Dating is so hard.
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Good morning everyone! Weasel, walks twelve miles before I'm even out of bed. You're trouncing Olive. I hope you had a good Tommie coffee.
Behan I want to do a boot sale now. And the Victorian tea doesn't sound bad either.
Mec, I like the learning by picking up. That's a great thought.
Learningagain, I've found having some white noise in the background helps with falling asleep. I have my ceiling fan running for that. I still have nights of laying there fretting over stuff I can do nothing about just then. It has gotten better. Have fun at lunch.
Nice shark Sao. Like those sharknado movies that just got airplay last summer.
Welcome dharma.
Busy morning so I have to get everyone going. Gymnastics class then bday party.
Behan I want to do a boot sale now. And the Victorian tea doesn't sound bad either.
Mec, I like the learning by picking up. That's a great thought.
Learningagain, I've found having some white noise in the background helps with falling asleep. I have my ceiling fan running for that. I still have nights of laying there fretting over stuff I can do nothing about just then. It has gotten better. Have fun at lunch.
Nice shark Sao. Like those sharknado movies that just got airplay last summer.
Welcome dharma.
Busy morning so I have to get everyone going. Gymnastics class then bday party.
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Originally Posted by happyandfree 
Every morning, especially Saturday morning, I thank God that I didn't drink last night..
.Today, I'm looking forward to a clear-headed day trip to the gulf coast for some sand between my toes, good food, and big laughs with family. Sober life is so good, friends. If you hopped off the bus last night, hop right back on. We always save your seat!
Artfriend, I recently ditched my fancy coffee maker for a Mr. Coffee! It takes up less space and the simplicity is refreshing.
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Morning everyone!!
Yeah I agree that dating when you have kids can be a challenge. I was the same way, wouldn't let a man meet my kids unless I was sure. I lucked out and ended up hooking up with a guy who'd I'd been friends with for years.... he already knew my kids and my boys loved him! In fact they kinda picked him before I did. Every time he would come over to hang out they would yell, "Mom your fiance's here!!!" Hahahaha! It was embarrassing. Not even your boyfriend, but fiance! But picking him was the best decision I could of made, he's a great guy.
We had had plans to go boating but it's gonna rain so quiet day at home instead. Oh well those can be good too.
Yeah I agree that dating when you have kids can be a challenge. I was the same way, wouldn't let a man meet my kids unless I was sure. I lucked out and ended up hooking up with a guy who'd I'd been friends with for years.... he already knew my kids and my boys loved him! In fact they kinda picked him before I did.
Every time he would come over to hang out they would yell, "Mom your fiance's here!!!" Hahahaha! It was embarrassing. Not even your boyfriend, but fiance! But picking him was the best decision I could of made, he's a great guy.We had had plans to go boating but it's gonna rain
so quiet day at home instead. Oh well those can be good too.
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zenchaser - lol that is awesome! I remember when me and ex had been split around 6 months, my son and I were at a coffee shop, and an old friend came in - this guy is in his 60's (I am 35!), he is a drummer, big guy with big hair and white beard. My son said to him "will you marry my mom, you would be a great step-dad". I was mortified! Apparently my then 6 year old son thought he looked like Santa, and what kid would not want Santa as their step-dad?!
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Come on over Olive! I just heard some thunder too. Not supposed to go above 70 today with a 24 hour rain forecast. Congratulations to all who got a good night’s sleep. I slept in.
In the early days the dreams can be interesting if not overwhelming at times. Your brain is still adjusting to not having its fix of alcohol. And it’s going to take a little while for it to settle down.
Don’t know why I just thought of this. Think of your brain as a wool sweater you’ve been wearing every day for 10 years straight 24 hours a day. It is stretched out of shape and probable smelly and who knows what else. Then one day you decided to throw it in the washing machine in hot water and then dryer. Then you put that sweater back on and wear it again for another six months – just getting in it is a chore. It’s nearly impossible, but you stuff yourself inside that sweater again. That’s what your brain goes through after many years of excessive drinking and then stopping.
Whew thread moves fast these days – or else I’m just slowing down.
Art, I keep my old 7.99 Mr Coffee in the back of the cupboard for just such an emergency. And I can always break out my camping percolator. Ya’know, that blue speckled thing? Works great. I have a French coffee press I bought several years ago that still has the factory film on it.
Glad everyone is hangover free this morning. Hope BigS gets over his cold before he has to fly north. The cold I picked up in Russia almost three weeks ago is still lingering a little bit. A few reminders that my upstairs plumbing isn’t perfect yet.
Seems Trach is not the tunemeister these days. When I first saw “angiebaby” I thought it said angelbaby.
Learning – don’t worry about telling your life story, especially on a first date. And don’t waste your money on getting your hair done. Just be natural and be yourself. But no need to offer up information. Silence is golden!
Happy Saturday, those of you across the pond might remember this group:
I used to able to sing (mimic) this tune in key. Looooong time ago.
Even tho it isn't angiebaby...
These songs were oldies when I first started hearing music!
In the early days the dreams can be interesting if not overwhelming at times. Your brain is still adjusting to not having its fix of alcohol. And it’s going to take a little while for it to settle down.
Don’t know why I just thought of this. Think of your brain as a wool sweater you’ve been wearing every day for 10 years straight 24 hours a day. It is stretched out of shape and probable smelly and who knows what else. Then one day you decided to throw it in the washing machine in hot water and then dryer. Then you put that sweater back on and wear it again for another six months – just getting in it is a chore. It’s nearly impossible, but you stuff yourself inside that sweater again. That’s what your brain goes through after many years of excessive drinking and then stopping.
Whew thread moves fast these days – or else I’m just slowing down.
Art, I keep my old 7.99 Mr Coffee in the back of the cupboard for just such an emergency. And I can always break out my camping percolator. Ya’know, that blue speckled thing? Works great. I have a French coffee press I bought several years ago that still has the factory film on it.
Glad everyone is hangover free this morning. Hope BigS gets over his cold before he has to fly north. The cold I picked up in Russia almost three weeks ago is still lingering a little bit. A few reminders that my upstairs plumbing isn’t perfect yet.
Seems Trach is not the tunemeister these days. When I first saw “angiebaby” I thought it said angelbaby.
Learning – don’t worry about telling your life story, especially on a first date. And don’t waste your money on getting your hair done. Just be natural and be yourself. But no need to offer up information. Silence is golden!
Happy Saturday, those of you across the pond might remember this group:
I used to able to sing (mimic) this tune in key. Looooong time ago.
Even tho it isn't angiebaby...
These songs were oldies when I first started hearing music!
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Oh I am not planning on getting my hair done today! I am a casual girl - to the point friends always share on my facebook the "low maintenance girl" memes lol. I am a jeans/sweats, t-shirt and ponytail type! Makeup does not exist in my world! I cannot be bothered to waste hours getting ready, 20 minutes and I am out the door!
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Dating!I don't mind telling someone that I don't drink. That's the way it is, plain and simple. But....I am worried that I might meet someone nice who drinks. I guess I have to be sure that they don't. Because I can hear my AV now...well, if he can, I can, etc. I just don't think I could do it. That's how I relapsed after many years of sobriety. ..started hanging out with a group of people who drank. I need to avoid it like the plague.
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