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Old 06-24-2015, 10:16 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Dog days are over


Greetings all,

I have been reading and posting on SR since January 2015, but I rarely start my own thread. Perhaps I am sleep deprived now, but I feel like starting one now.

Today I have exceeded 170 days without an alcoholic drink. Never, at any point in my adult life, did I imagine that it was possible to go this long without consuming some form of mind altering substance.

As I look back, I realise I have spent most of my adult life engaging in a process of self medication. It started with heavy cannabis use, which became daily, which became first thing in the morning until last thing at night. I can't believe I completed my degree, as I was essentially intoxicated throughout. I then progressed to alcohol and other drugs, then mostly alcohol, with some brief periods of reprieve.

I used substances to medicate and tranquillise anxiety, depression, fear, and sadness. I also drank when I was happy. I connected substances to work, study and leisure activities. Alcohol became inextricable with family, friendships, relationships, even children. I self medicated as I made my journey through social space-time, tranquillising the moment-to-moment units of raw experience. This process of medication transformed my experience to madness, as I damaged others around me and damaged myself.

Although at 170 days and with a questionable expectation that everything should be normal by now, this is still early days. I am trying to learn to deal with reality, other people, and myself, as my sober self. Sometimes anxious, sometimes depressed, sometimes happy, sometimes connected to others.

Dog Days are Over is a song by Florence and the Machine, which has been playing in my mind all day. I encourage you to listen to it and it's wonderful lyrics.

My best wishes to you all,

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Old 06-24-2015, 10:35 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Great thread Mr. Behan!

Congrats on 170 days.

I had you in my thoughts this week to send you a note asking specifically how you are. You post but not directly about how you are handling things. Now I know.!

Little B arrives in short order. A new place. A new sober life. Stay strong. Really glad I got to know you!

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Old 06-24-2015, 10:40 AM   #3 (permalink)
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yep, I agree with weasel...
congrats on 170 days and counting, glad you are with us.

FATM opened for U2 in Lansing at spartan stadium a few years ago. They finished with dog days are over... U2 was pretty good 2. Coolest visual setup ever this 360 deg monstrosity video display - awesome...

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Old 06-24-2015, 10:41 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Congrats on 170 days sober!
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Old 06-24-2015, 10:42 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Way to go!! Here's to living life on life's terms...
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This long term sobriety stuff is hard. We built our whole world's around self medication and one day the medication was gone.

If I'm not the person I was, who the heck am i? For me I take it a day at a time. Each challenge is a learning experience and I do the best I can. One thing that has helped a lot is AA. I see how other people deal with life and it gives me a road map of how I should deal with things.

Each day I get just a little bit better and for me that is as good as it gets
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Old 06-24-2015, 11:35 AM   #7 (permalink)
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170 Days is fantastic!!
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You've got a lot of insight, Behan. Congrats on 170 days and counting!
Thanks for sharing with us!
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You're doing fantastic, Behan Yeah, still fairly early. Things will ease up. Keep on going.

Love Florence and love that song Now I'm gonna have to play it.
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Great job on 170 Behan!
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Awesome job on 170 days sober exellent post Behan
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Congrats on 170 days! That's a great accomplishment.

I'm absolutely the biggest fan of Florence you'll ever meet :-) Did you know she had drinking issues herself?
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Thank you one and all for your kind words and encouragement. It means the world!
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Thank you for that really interesting and encouraging post Behan. I'm really enjoying seeing things go well for you

Oh and congratulations on 170 days
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Congrats on 170 days Behan - and thanks for the thought provoking post

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Congratulations on 170 days sober!

I too love that song and will listen to it tonight. And tomorrow upon fist waking up so I can give myself a little happy jump start to my day. Thank you for your post.
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Great song, and so appropriate.

Behan, we are proud of your accomplishment - 170 days is fabulous. Even better things are yet to come.
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Good read! Nice one
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Behan, congratulations on 170 days though it will be 171 by the time you read this. I think your post is great insight and I do enjoy that Florence & the Machines song.
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