Weekend June 18 Pt 2
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Thank you LBrain. I know I just need to keep plugging along. I feel better this morning than had I been drinking...got a few annoying chores done, and busy trying to contact the nursing board asking why I can see my license online, but it will not recognize my existence on the renewal page! Fun stuff.
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Welp, 'tis a new and wonderful Morning here in the Neighborhood. Cool. Sunny. Some Doves up in our Suburban Pine Trees; planted Decades ago with the Settlement Money from Body-crushing Whiplashed Car Accident. It's comforting to sit here and absorb the residual good from all that indescribable anguish that today is but a proverbial, distant Memory.
The Caucasian Conundrum of yesterday was a problem that really was not a serious problem at all, of course. But, you have to muscle through the moment to look back and detach from it all. I do, anyway...
Da Wife calls me at the Dog Park yesterday, really P.O.ed. Our House Buyer + Son + her Realtor are on our Front Steps - unannounced - wanting to enter our House for what we first thought was her separate House Inspection. I'd already paid $355- for my own Pro Inspection - put on line - so that Buyers/Bidders in this over-heated Housing Market could see for themselves what this House needed. Likely a new Furnace, for one thing. So, I leash up the Pooch, and zip Home. I send my Realtor an incendiary Text about this Breaking Development after he doesn't pick up my Call. Not about him, but about this other Realtor. He drops the impending-Deadline Contract he's writing, and speeds over to our Joint.
Meanwhile, the 'Contractor' pulls up, and parks part-way on the Curb - facing the wrong way - while blocking the Fire Hydrant. A real piece-of-work, this Guy. I muscle my attitude into my Retired Int'l Biz/Crisis Management Mode, and am determined to make this encounter work w/o scuttling the House Sale.
Turns out, the very nice Single Gal w/2 Rescue Dogs buying our Joint just wants this Contractor to estimate Remo details like a new Kitchen, and finishing ~600 sq. ft. of unfinished Basement. That's kewl. I supply House and Structural details, and tell my usual Stories. I hit it off immediately with her Son; a like-minded Fan of the 'Small House Movement' just back from helping Earthquake Victims in Nepal.
Then, when I point out that a non-Weight Bearing Wall in the Kitchen can be moved w/o consequence to allow an Island, Mister Blue Collar ****-wad 'Contractor' goes off on me, telling me that a 'real' Engineer has to make the call on removing this Wall. I point up to the significant expanse of unsupported space above my Head, and mention how I watched these Vaulted Ceiling Trusses get set in 1987. They support the Ceiling. The 'Cosmetic' Kitchen Wall does not. You could cut the escalating tension in my Kitchen with a Chain Saw at this point, so I drop it. It became obvious that he had to be right; Topic notwithstanding. I'm thinking our poor Buyer, who doesn't seem to know this Contractor, should take up Smoking. She'll need a Cig right after he royally screws her. All we can conclude is that he wants to slam in an unnecessary 'Support Beam', and rack up his Bill. He roars off. The Buyer apologies to me.
Meanwhile, her lying Realtor acts like she used this neato on-line Showing Service to book this stealth Appt. Problem is, we disabled that on-line Showing Service days ago after accepting this Gal's Offer. I would have gotten an e.mail to 'Accept' - 'Reject' - 'Reschedule' this Appt. [which wasn't a Showing at all]. So, we had to roll with the dynamic of not making her look bad in front of her Client [our Buyer].
Da Wife - from Michigan, as is ArtFriend - did a magnificent job of Firewalling this pushy Realtor, who complained that 'she'd already wasted 30 minutes waiting' for me. Too bad, so sad. There was no way anyone was muscling into the Michigan Polack's House. Zeus Bless her!
When the Deal-infringing Parties left, the Buyer Gal and I had a great Chat while she took plenty of Pix. I pointed out the free-span Master Bedroom Vaulted Ceiling; made possible by weight-bearing Roof Trusses. She got it. Everyone wants to imagine where the Furniture will go, and how much their Life will improve in new Digs. Lord knows I don't factor into the Fantasies of many Woman, but at least I can provide House Info to help this Gal realize her's.-)
Had I been Drinking still, this situation would have gone up like The Hindenburg on a hot day. No >$400,000 in our Pocket next month after Closing. As my Saying goes - when someone implodes a situation in on themselves - 'I showed me'! Today, I woke up Sober - feelin' like a million Bucks - and this Contractor was still an A-Hole. Funny how that Karma stuff works, ain't it?
No Livers were harmed in the making of this Rant.
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The Caucasian Conundrum of yesterday was a problem that really was not a serious problem at all, of course. But, you have to muscle through the moment to look back and detach from it all. I do, anyway...
Da Wife calls me at the Dog Park yesterday, really P.O.ed. Our House Buyer + Son + her Realtor are on our Front Steps - unannounced - wanting to enter our House for what we first thought was her separate House Inspection. I'd already paid $355- for my own Pro Inspection - put on line - so that Buyers/Bidders in this over-heated Housing Market could see for themselves what this House needed. Likely a new Furnace, for one thing. So, I leash up the Pooch, and zip Home. I send my Realtor an incendiary Text about this Breaking Development after he doesn't pick up my Call. Not about him, but about this other Realtor. He drops the impending-Deadline Contract he's writing, and speeds over to our Joint.
Meanwhile, the 'Contractor' pulls up, and parks part-way on the Curb - facing the wrong way - while blocking the Fire Hydrant. A real piece-of-work, this Guy. I muscle my attitude into my Retired Int'l Biz/Crisis Management Mode, and am determined to make this encounter work w/o scuttling the House Sale.
Turns out, the very nice Single Gal w/2 Rescue Dogs buying our Joint just wants this Contractor to estimate Remo details like a new Kitchen, and finishing ~600 sq. ft. of unfinished Basement. That's kewl. I supply House and Structural details, and tell my usual Stories. I hit it off immediately with her Son; a like-minded Fan of the 'Small House Movement' just back from helping Earthquake Victims in Nepal.
Then, when I point out that a non-Weight Bearing Wall in the Kitchen can be moved w/o consequence to allow an Island, Mister Blue Collar ****-wad 'Contractor' goes off on me, telling me that a 'real' Engineer has to make the call on removing this Wall. I point up to the significant expanse of unsupported space above my Head, and mention how I watched these Vaulted Ceiling Trusses get set in 1987. They support the Ceiling. The 'Cosmetic' Kitchen Wall does not. You could cut the escalating tension in my Kitchen with a Chain Saw at this point, so I drop it. It became obvious that he had to be right; Topic notwithstanding. I'm thinking our poor Buyer, who doesn't seem to know this Contractor, should take up Smoking. She'll need a Cig right after he royally screws her. All we can conclude is that he wants to slam in an unnecessary 'Support Beam', and rack up his Bill. He roars off. The Buyer apologies to me.
Meanwhile, her lying Realtor acts like she used this neato on-line Showing Service to book this stealth Appt. Problem is, we disabled that on-line Showing Service days ago after accepting this Gal's Offer. I would have gotten an e.mail to 'Accept' - 'Reject' - 'Reschedule' this Appt. [which wasn't a Showing at all]. So, we had to roll with the dynamic of not making her look bad in front of her Client [our Buyer].
Da Wife - from Michigan, as is ArtFriend - did a magnificent job of Firewalling this pushy Realtor, who complained that 'she'd already wasted 30 minutes waiting' for me. Too bad, so sad. There was no way anyone was muscling into the Michigan Polack's House. Zeus Bless her!
When the Deal-infringing Parties left, the Buyer Gal and I had a great Chat while she took plenty of Pix. I pointed out the free-span Master Bedroom Vaulted Ceiling; made possible by weight-bearing Roof Trusses. She got it. Everyone wants to imagine where the Furniture will go, and how much their Life will improve in new Digs. Lord knows I don't factor into the Fantasies of many Woman, but at least I can provide House Info to help this Gal realize her's.-)
Had I been Drinking still, this situation would have gone up like The Hindenburg on a hot day. No >$400,000 in our Pocket next month after Closing. As my Saying goes - when someone implodes a situation in on themselves - 'I showed me'! Today, I woke up Sober - feelin' like a million Bucks - and this Contractor was still an A-Hole. Funny how that Karma stuff works, ain't it?
No Livers were harmed in the making of this Rant.
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Mesa ^^Dis might be why buyers and sellers are kept apart.
These things generally don't go well. That other Realtor is totally to blame here - he/she should have called.
Problem with Real Estate sales (and you're one of the lucky ones, so it's easier for you to remain calm) is that many if not most sales are due to some tragedy or misadventure by the sellers. Death, medical expenses, divorce, job loss, mental illness or addiction, affairs, deployment, business failure, bankruptcy etc. Try to mix that seller with an ego-centric buyer who makes demands all the way up to closing and you've got yourself a regular three ring circus. Complete with monkeys. Add in the clowns of extraneous contractors and - yeah.
Good part is you now have grounds for strict rules for future "visits."
These things generally don't go well. That other Realtor is totally to blame here - he/she should have called.
Problem with Real Estate sales (and you're one of the lucky ones, so it's easier for you to remain calm) is that many if not most sales are due to some tragedy or misadventure by the sellers. Death, medical expenses, divorce, job loss, mental illness or addiction, affairs, deployment, business failure, bankruptcy etc. Try to mix that seller with an ego-centric buyer who makes demands all the way up to closing and you've got yourself a regular three ring circus. Complete with monkeys. Add in the clowns of extraneous contractors and - yeah.
Good part is you now have grounds for strict rules for future "visits."
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And this is why, when I bought my place last year, it was so easy! A bank owned condo, due to owner death with no relatives, on the market a year. Me, with the help of my parents, a cash buyer, wanting a quick close - we went from viewing to me moving in within 26 days! It was blissful and completely freaked out the realtor, who I am pretty sure tried to slow it down just because it SHOULD go slower!
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wow, I have been discussing the sale of my house if we decide to do it.
My first rule is I get at least what I want for it - twice what I owe plus 20%.
2nd rule is that it's "as is" - except I may make an allowance for new carpets in the front bedrooms if my guy does it.
rule #3 and this is most important rule : Don't f with me over nonsense because I can rent this place for a lot more than your mortgage will cost you. And I don't need to sell it.
realtors are just a notch below lawyers in my book. Or above depending how you look at it.
My first rule is I get at least what I want for it - twice what I owe plus 20%.
2nd rule is that it's "as is" - except I may make an allowance for new carpets in the front bedrooms if my guy does it.
rule #3 and this is most important rule : Don't f with me over nonsense because I can rent this place for a lot more than your mortgage will cost you. And I don't need to sell it.
realtors are just a notch below lawyers in my book. Or above depending how you look at it.
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Glad you're feeling a bit better, learning.
Mesa, I could feel my neck tensing up just reading about the surprise visit! Y'all handled it superbly! Well done!
We are getting one more estimate for the drainage problem. The lowest so far is $6000....and they can't get to it till the end of August! On top of all that anything we do must be approved by the HOA. Oh the joys of home ownership.
I'm getting burned out on studying so I decided to 'organize' all my boyfriends liquor into one spot mainly because I'm tired of finding bottles in various cupboards when I don't expect it.....very startling! We have an actual 'bar' so I put everything there all nice and grouped neatly. So this morning he yells from the kitchen what have I done with the vodka?!?! Not that he wanted any this morning mind you....(yeah right). Apparently I've disrupted his system and walking to the living room is too much of an effort. But he doesn't have a problem.......
Mesa, I could feel my neck tensing up just reading about the surprise visit! Y'all handled it superbly! Well done!
We are getting one more estimate for the drainage problem. The lowest so far is $6000....and they can't get to it till the end of August! On top of all that anything we do must be approved by the HOA. Oh the joys of home ownership.
I'm getting burned out on studying so I decided to 'organize' all my boyfriends liquor into one spot mainly because I'm tired of finding bottles in various cupboards when I don't expect it.....very startling! We have an actual 'bar' so I put everything there all nice and grouped neatly. So this morning he yells from the kitchen what have I done with the vodka?!?! Not that he wanted any this morning mind you....(yeah right). Apparently I've disrupted his system and walking to the living room is too much of an effort. But he doesn't have a problem.......
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Brynn...yes, home owning is certainly an adventure! Hopefully your boyfriend will realize it is ok to walk to the living room!
I just showered ready for lunch...and it was a nice surprise, day 14 and I look, I don't know exactly, but different! My face is no longer bright red, like I have a permanent sunburn, and my body is beginning to look better, more defined and not quite so much like a blob! Definitely what I needed this morning, I know I lost 5lbs, but I am not a big weight person - it is the fit of clothes that matters. Onwards with my hikes and lack of beer!
I just showered ready for lunch...and it was a nice surprise, day 14 and I look, I don't know exactly, but different! My face is no longer bright red, like I have a permanent sunburn, and my body is beginning to look better, more defined and not quite so much like a blob! Definitely what I needed this morning, I know I lost 5lbs, but I am not a big weight person - it is the fit of clothes that matters. Onwards with my hikes and lack of beer!
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Brain, you wouldn't happen to have a transmission for a 1990 Dodge Dakota hanging out in all your stuff? 
Learning, I've stood at my back gate numerous times having that same argument in my head. "Do I or don't I?" The don'ts won out in the end and I've accumulated sober time. Same here with the chaos drinking the problems away while the drinking became the biggest problem of all. The other problems are now far more manageable now that alcohol isn't the go to problem solver.
Lola, you're complaining?
I think many of us need that "living room" of mental sobriety where we can come in, kick off our shoes, and say "what's for dinner? How was your day?" Instead of the weightiness of the general threads on the forum. This thread has been a lifeline for me at times. Didn't want to come back and disappoint others or myself.
Back to work!
Learning, I've stood at my back gate numerous times having that same argument in my head. "Do I or don't I?" The don'ts won out in the end and I've accumulated sober time. Same here with the chaos drinking the problems away while the drinking became the biggest problem of all. The other problems are now far more manageable now that alcohol isn't the go to problem solver.
Lola, you're complaining?
I think many of us need that "living room" of mental sobriety where we can come in, kick off our shoes, and say "what's for dinner? How was your day?" Instead of the weightiness of the general threads on the forum. This thread has been a lifeline for me at times. Didn't want to come back and disappoint others or myself.
Back to work!
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Ruby, completely agree regarding this thread. I am currently arguing with my cat, I am not sure what her point is but she is yelling at me in cat, and I keep asking "what do you want from me?!". Anyone watching would probably call the men in white coats!
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My cats were yelling at me this morning too but they wanted canned cat food. I'm out. They had to settle for dry. Trip to the store is in the plans for this evening.
MM, what a headache. I'm glad it worked out. I bought my house from an estate. It too was "as is". My biggest headache was waiting until a prior offer was rescinded. That buyer's financing wouldn't let them buy " as is".
Learningagain, I had that fire engine red face too. It was lovely when it faded and my skin did improve in texture.
Listening to a trial in Spanish and English. Sigh. Watch with the lawyer cracks, Brain. I'll have to sue you
MM, what a headache. I'm glad it worked out. I bought my house from an estate. It too was "as is". My biggest headache was waiting until a prior offer was rescinded. That buyer's financing wouldn't let them buy " as is".
Learningagain, I had that fire engine red face too. It was lovely when it faded and my skin did improve in texture.
Listening to a trial in Spanish and English. Sigh. Watch with the lawyer cracks, Brain. I'll have to sue you
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Ha learning! I'm so happy you're not feeling so 'blob' like anymore! That made me chuckle! It's so motivating when we start actually being able to SEE a visible difference in our appearance! Yay!
Art, we've had this drainage problem for a few years....the recent flooding just exacerbated it so don't think we'd qualify. Crud.
Art, we've had this drainage problem for a few years....the recent flooding just exacerbated it so don't think we'd qualify. Crud.
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Originally Posted by Ruby2 
Lola, you're complaining?
I think many of us need that "living room" of mental sobriety where we can come in, kick off our shoes, and say "what's for dinner? How was your day?" Instead of the weightiness of the general threads on the forum. This thread has been a lifeline for me at times. Didn't want to come back and disappoint others or myself.
Back to work!
I absolutely love that the bus keeps rolling through the week. I love your analogy of kicking off your shoes. I agree...I really enjoy the lightness of this thread, its a great place to land at all points throughout the day/week. Even when I don't post, I read and smile, and that's awesome.
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Originally Posted by learningagain
Ruby, completely agree regarding this thread. I am currently arguing with my cat, I am not sure what her point is but she is yelling at me in cat, and I keep asking "what do you want from me?!". Anyone watching would probably call the men in white coats!
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It's a slightly strange worldwide live in now where a man on a train on his homeward commute (me) can get anxious about a guy 5,500 miles away who i've never met (Mesa), as to whether his house sale will get screwed up by a POS contracted and snarky realtor. Think you handled it like a real pro
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First, I want to apologize to all the realtors out there. Car salesmen are worse than realtors.
Lunch finishing up. Went to home depot and picked up 3 bags of mulch for 10 bucks. Need to at least make my flower garden look half way decent. I should have my own parking space at HD for how often I'm there.
Okay, the times you wish you had a video camera.
This morning I when I was watering my sunflower babies I noticed a commotion up top. Two robins got inside my net cage and were trying to get out. I need to work on it. As I approached they panicked and were going berserk trying to escape. Hitting the netting and falling down etc. Then the neighbors cat shows up and sees the birds inside the netting. He wants in! First he tries an aerial entrance and bounces on the top of the net - think trapeze artist. He manages to get back on the fence and climbs down for a low approach. By the way, I spooked him yesterday and he ran full speed into the 'invisible' net and bounced back. Precious! He finds the way in next to fence that wasn't put up as sound as it could have been. Now all hell breaks loose! He's chasing around the robins who are flying and bouncing back. I approach and he realizes I am there and tries to make an escape. Up the fence he goes only to be turned back by the netting. After the fourth try he squeezes between the net and fence to make his escape. It looked like something from a cartoon the way he went into the net and was bounced back to earth. All the while I'm starting to panic hoping nobody gets hurt. Meanwhile the birds are frolicking around
trying to get out. Suddenly one flies directly at me and miraculously flies through the net. I side step him. The other one has calmed down but is still trying to fly through the net. I went to the garage for a fishing net and when I returned with net they were gone.
So part of my afternoon will be fixing the next so they can't get in easily.
Now I remember why I didn't put up netting last year. I spent almost an hour cutting a bird from the net a couple years ago. But, I want my blueberries this year! I let them have the cherries the greedy bath terds.
It's hot as ________ here! Insert word. Looks like thunderstorm on the horizon. Which reminds me of a song.
Lunch finishing up. Went to home depot and picked up 3 bags of mulch for 10 bucks. Need to at least make my flower garden look half way decent. I should have my own parking space at HD for how often I'm there.
Okay, the times you wish you had a video camera.
This morning I when I was watering my sunflower babies I noticed a commotion up top. Two robins got inside my net cage and were trying to get out. I need to work on it. As I approached they panicked and were going berserk trying to escape. Hitting the netting and falling down etc. Then the neighbors cat shows up and sees the birds inside the netting. He wants in! First he tries an aerial entrance and bounces on the top of the net - think trapeze artist. He manages to get back on the fence and climbs down for a low approach. By the way, I spooked him yesterday and he ran full speed into the 'invisible' net and bounced back. Precious! He finds the way in next to fence that wasn't put up as sound as it could have been. Now all hell breaks loose! He's chasing around the robins who are flying and bouncing back. I approach and he realizes I am there and tries to make an escape. Up the fence he goes only to be turned back by the netting. After the fourth try he squeezes between the net and fence to make his escape. It looked like something from a cartoon the way he went into the net and was bounced back to earth. All the while I'm starting to panic hoping nobody gets hurt. Meanwhile the birds are frolicking around
trying to get out. Suddenly one flies directly at me and miraculously flies through the net. I side step him. The other one has calmed down but is still trying to fly through the net. I went to the garage for a fishing net and when I returned with net they were gone. So part of my afternoon will be fixing the next so they can't get in easily.
Now I remember why I didn't put up netting last year. I spent almost an hour cutting a bird from the net a couple years ago. But, I want my blueberries this year! I let them have the cherries the greedy bath terds.
It's hot as ________ here! Insert word. Looks like thunderstorm on the horizon. Which reminds me of a song.
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