Weekend June 18 Pt 2
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Originally Posted by saoutchik 
Thanks for the thread Anna
Someone I really like from my "Class of..." thread relapsed yesterday. Bit of a punch in the gut.
Hope you are all OK here
Someone I really like from my "Class of..." thread relapsed yesterday. Bit of a punch in the gut.
Hope you are all OK here
I am so sorry, it is horrible to see anyone falter.
I am watching the lightning and listening to the thunder as the storms have knocked out the satellite
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I don't know if people really know how it affects others (me) when they relapse. There is always a part of me that says, "See, they can do it," almost like, "neener neener," even though intellectually I'm sure no one elses' relapses have anything to do with me.
I did a lot of work on the codependency/boundaries side 25 years ago. It's more my thing than alcohol - so I have to be really careful who I get attached to here and in real life. I cannot take on the woes of the serial relapsers and I have to be mindful to create boundaries between their pain and myself.
When I was going to AA meetings I tended to get all tender-hearted about people and then they would drink and it was difficult for me to know how to treat them afterwards, so I just would give them a hug and say nothing.
I did a lot of work on the codependency/boundaries side 25 years ago. It's more my thing than alcohol - so I have to be really careful who I get attached to here and in real life. I cannot take on the woes of the serial relapsers and I have to be mindful to create boundaries between their pain and myself.
When I was going to AA meetings I tended to get all tender-hearted about people and then they would drink and it was difficult for me to know how to treat them afterwards, so I just would give them a hug and say nothing.
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Originally Posted by ArtFriend
Are you speaking to me Bim? If not I won't comment.
Comment if you want, though.
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It certainly does.
I have been coming to SR since January, mostly to this weekender thread. Everyones sobriety and wellbeing has become very important to me. I love hearing about everyone lives, from the beautiful simple things to the gloriously profound, and everything in between. Our little group is keeping me sane and sober.
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I have been coming to SR since January, mostly to this weekender thread. Everyones sobriety and wellbeing has become very important to me. I love hearing about everyone lives, from the beautiful simple things to the gloriously profound, and everything in between. Our little group is keeping me sane and sober.
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Well, I did relapse yesterday. And I debated whether or not to announce it. But then I thought, this is a support forum, so why not. But I am also aware that people (me too) get emotionally invested in others. So I felt like I let some people down. Not sure really what to do...post about it or not.
What say you all?
What say you all?
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Originally Posted by ArtFriend
Well, I did relapse yesterday. And I debated whether or not to announce it. But then I thought, this is a support forum, so why not. But I am also aware that people (me too) get emotionally invested in others. So I felt like I let some people down. Not sure really what to do...post about it or not.
What say you all?
What say you all?
Im my humble opinion, I think it is important to share this stuff on SR. We all come here for support in our sobriety. When we relapse, I think we need even more support. I think we all value each others perspective on and journey to sobriety, including relapses. I don't think a relapse lets anyone down. These are just some of my initial thoughts on this matter.
I admire your openness.
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I am doing OK today. I am dealing with a screw up with the mortgage company but I hope to fix that. Just had a little meltdown yesterday... better today Thanks!!
now about that cat hair shirt (scratch scratch)
now about that cat hair shirt (scratch scratch)
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Glad you are better today ArtFriend. I didn't know you relapsed yesterday and I'm with Behan in admiring your openers about it.
I meant to get an early night but i'm watching England V Norway in the womans World Cup.
1-1 at the moment so good chance of extra time. Oh wow! As I type 2- 1 England!
I meant to get an early night but i'm watching England V Norway in the womans World Cup.
1-1 at the moment so good chance of extra time. Oh wow! As I type 2- 1 England!
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Listening to some great tunes played by Gideon Coe on BBC 6 music. The best music channel in the universe. The BBC considered shutting it down a few years ago but were forced to take a U Turn due to a listener uprising.
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