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Old 06-15-2015, 04:22 PM
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Thumbs up A great day out, one of the best

I got a fair hearing in court!

I swore an oath and told nothing but the truth. I have to say that my ex did not quite exactly. She casted a lot of aspersions and told flat out untruth's on a couple of occasions.

But that's between her and God, she also did not expound on very much whereas's I could have spoken for days. I am pretty sure that the court was aware of this so no stress.

I always wondered why she was such a quiet girl but it's nothing I didn't already know by now. The judge was sound, very clear and methodical and I would imagine a nice man.

Very fair so far. I felt a lot like my good self this afternoon, not a shadow in sight and that is a pleasant surprise. I wasn't one bit nervous today also. Such a relief, just that much.

Thanks to all for the support!
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I'm so glad things went well for you, and most importantly that you feel good about how you handled the situation.
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I'm so glad, Strat!
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Glad it went well and that you handled yourself well.
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Thanks for the update! You walk the high road, this brings well deserved respect.

And right about everyone having to pay our dues when we meet our creator.
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Glad things are going well for you Strat

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Great to hear it went well Strat!!
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This is great news, Stratman!
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Old 06-15-2015, 06:12 PM
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That's great news, Strat! Thanks for letting us know.
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Old 06-16-2015, 01:49 PM
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Yep I got my job back. My path has opened up and I've got important work to do.

Some major roadblocks up ahead but I know where I stand, thats the main thing.
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Great Strat! Good news!
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I'm glad things went well for you! It must be such a relief to finally be heard

I was lucky that my divorce and custody battle was fought between us and not in front of judges...... the stress must be unreal. Hope you can look forward to an end in sight over this and get to see your child again!
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Now you said it Zen, it is that. I believe that the court has the best interests overall. I was afraid I would be misunderstood or worse.

It's the opposite for me, I am glad it has come to this. There is an element of ambiguity about it that I haven't spoke of here and it's the reason I was afraid to go to court.

It shook me to pieces and turned everything I thought I knew about my life inside out. I can't say much as I haven't got guardianship yet, and after that it doenst matter much at all.


Definitely a relief to be heard, my solicitor wanted to cut a deal before the court and I said no way. I am never compromising myself with wickedness again I will say that.

I get to see the kid for a few hours this weekend. I'l be giving him his few small xmas gifts but also making sure that he realizes that is not what we're about.

I need him to see that I am ok, he has suffered a lot in all of this. Also from speaking to him on the phone he is not the same kid that I reared, that is the worst part by far. But all is not lost, just yet.


About what you said. What's the quote? 'It's the things that go left unsaid that cause us the most harm', or something like that.

On that note, check this out (https://youtu.be/6roQB-AZlUg). Patience required but the reward is worth the journey. A classy joint.

"I'm a prisoner of words unsaid". Alicia Keyes on the lyrics I believe. peace
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That's great! It sounds like it was a very good day.
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Good day alright. For me it changes everything. Though it doesn't solve anything.

I guess that the more I know where I stand, the more I can know where I'm going.

Something that is a long time overdue at this stage. Anyway, a very good day yes.
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I'm really glad that things are moving in the right direction for you Strat. Kids are resilient, much more than we give them credit for.

I think it's really cool how you're fighting to be a part of his life and how you've cleaned yourself up Kids need both parents.

Here's an oldie but a goodie!

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