wasted weekend... trying to turn page
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wasted weekend... trying to turn page
A friend referred me here as a source of help both to him and hopefully to me. I'm a problem drinker - not sure what an alcoholic is or if I am one, but my drinking gets out of hand. Aside from the weight gain and health risks I've really taken chances with my professional life.
A typical problem behaviour for me is sitting here alone, heavily intoxicated, and then deciding to comment, post and message dozens of people.... I don't know why I do that. Only the kindness of others has saved me from ruining myself and maybe feeling depressed enough about the aftermath to self harm.
Well, I want to stop. Anyhoo that's my little story.
A typical problem behaviour for me is sitting here alone, heavily intoxicated, and then deciding to comment, post and message dozens of people.... I don't know why I do that. Only the kindness of others has saved me from ruining myself and maybe feeling depressed enough about the aftermath to self harm.
Well, I want to stop. Anyhoo that's my little story.
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Hi lek, I think you'd better stop as well. How about talking to your doctor about how you want to quit? You might think about AA or some other group.
I was a solitary drinker, so I know how you feel, but quitting has brought me so much peace and satisfaction I could never go back to the old me.
I was a solitary drinker, so I know how you feel, but quitting has brought me so much peace and satisfaction I could never go back to the old me.
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Welcome Lek. I woudln't worry about labels right now, sounds like you realize that drinking is a problem and that stopping is a good idea. That is as good of a place to start as any. Have you ever tried to quit before?
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Thanks for the replies. I've said "never again" numerous times. I can't see a doctor right now (hard to explain, don't want to explain)
I sleep much better sober. I don't wake up in a panic for one thing, wondering what happened and what I might have done.
I sleep much better sober. I don't wake up in a panic for one thing, wondering what happened and what I might have done.
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Welcome, lek! Don't worry about the labels right now. Just know that if you're having trouble in your life because of drinking, this is a good place to be. There's a ton of great wisdom and support to be found here. Hope you check in often!
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Hey,
This sounds like a wonderful time to make a change (not that there is a bad time!). Have you tried to get sober previously? I attend AA but there's plenty of alternative support if it's not for you.
This sounds like a wonderful time to make a change (not that there is a bad time!). Have you tried to get sober previously? I attend AA but there's plenty of alternative support if it's not for you.
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Hi, welcome.
In the beginning I really took it one day at a time. My goal every day was to lay my head down at night sober.
It worked, so does coming to this site. I hope you stick around, there is a lot of support here. Maybe you'd like to join some other people who have chosen to stop drinking in June?
Here is the June class thread - take a look.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ne-2015-a.html
In the beginning I really took it one day at a time. My goal every day was to lay my head down at night sober.
It worked, so does coming to this site. I hope you stick around, there is a lot of support here. Maybe you'd like to join some other people who have chosen to stop drinking in June?
Here is the June class thread - take a look.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ne-2015-a.html
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Welcome,
I think that used to be referred to as 'drunk dialing' but that was in the days before emails and texts. I'm not sure why it's such a common occurrence, but it seems to be. The good news is that you can stop this now.
I think that used to be referred to as 'drunk dialing' but that was in the days before emails and texts. I'm not sure why it's such a common occurrence, but it seems to be. The good news is that you can stop this now.
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Welcome! I sure know about drunk dialing/ texting / messaging and waking up in the middle of the night (or morning) wondering what the hell happened and how I got to my bed. I'm just a few months sober and getting sick just remembering how awful that made me feel. Whether I ever called myself an alcoholic or not, one thing is sure, I feel MUCH better not drinking. You can, too, and we are all here to help you
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Hi Lek,
Don't worry about saying "never again" numerous times, keep saying it and keep working. I did a rough calculation and reckoned I committed to quitting about 200 times over the 15 years, most only lasted a couple of days, a few a couple of weeks and once I hit 100 days. Now I'm coming up on four months (tomorrow). Each quit taught me something even if I wasn't ready to learn it at the time. I think my sobriety this time is as a result of all of the failures in the past.
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Don't worry about saying "never again" numerous times, keep saying it and keep working. I did a rough calculation and reckoned I committed to quitting about 200 times over the 15 years, most only lasted a couple of days, a few a couple of weeks and once I hit 100 days. Now I'm coming up on four months (tomorrow). Each quit taught me something even if I wasn't ready to learn it at the time. I think my sobriety this time is as a result of all of the failures in the past.
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Originally Posted by lek 
A friend referred me here as a source of help both to him and hopefully to me. I'm a problem drinker - not sure what an alcoholic is or if I am one, but my drinking gets out of hand. Aside from the weight gain and health risks I've really taken chances with my professional life.
A typical problem behaviour for me is sitting here alone, heavily intoxicated, and then deciding to comment, post and message dozens of people.... I don't know why I do that. Only the kindness of others has saved me from ruining myself and maybe feeling depressed enough about the aftermath to self harm.
Well, I want to stop. Anyhoo that's my little story.
A typical problem behaviour for me is sitting here alone, heavily intoxicated, and then deciding to comment, post and message dozens of people.... I don't know why I do that. Only the kindness of others has saved me from ruining myself and maybe feeling depressed enough about the aftermath to self harm.
Well, I want to stop. Anyhoo that's my little story.
Originally Posted by lek
Thanks for the replies. I've said "never again" numerous times. I can't see a doctor right now (hard to explain, don't want to explain)
I sleep much better sober. I don't wake up in a panic for one thing, wondering what happened and what I might have done.
I sleep much better sober. I don't wake up in a panic for one thing, wondering what happened and what I might have done.
And you get a lot of support here on SR so keep posting Member
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Originally Posted by Nerina
Welcome! I'm new here too. Only on my first day. I can relate to what you say about sitting alone drunk and start texting/messaging people. I'm almost scared to check facebook and messages after a night like that.
So far I am doing well, 5 days without drink. I don't want to say that I will never drink again - but I don't want to repeat my destructive behaviors. I won't have a drink until I've figured out a plan to prevent them from happening. Right now I am not at the stage where I can have any drink at all in the house, even as something to offer guests - too much pull on my mind.
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Welcome in this group! I just joined as well. My drinking is out of control and I am now ready to accept that I can't make it alone and finally, after 20 years of embarrassment and hangovers, I finally asked for help. I had my first visit with a psychiatrist yesterday and she is making a gradual plan to get me out of this state and away for this poison.
Thanks for sharing and good luck!
Thanks for sharing and good luck!
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