Hi Hollow. :) It took me a few months to begin to feel. While I was thrilled to be free of my daily drinking habit, I felt a bit frozen & in a state of shock sometimes. I'd been anesthetizing for years - we need time to heal. You will get there. |
Originally Posted by zenchaser
(Post 5410849)
Just this week I cried 4 times over people who I lost years ago and I just never really allowed myself to grieve. I just kept pushing it down and pouring drinks on top of it...... and all of a sudden there it was just waiting for me. I haven't cried this much in years. I'm not talking about a few tears but deep down sadness and grief. It will come when the time is right I guess. |
Originally Posted by soberwolf
(Post 5411370)
Welcome to SR HH |
Originally Posted by Dee74
(Post 5411420)
Welcome HH :) Like others have said, I don't think there's a right answer or a wrong one? I'm just glad you found us and you're nearing 60 days :) D |
Originally Posted by NAP
(Post 5411506)
Wow, I really relate. I'm at 67 days (yay us!) and I have found myself coming to tears a few times out of the blue in the past few weeks. Don't force it. Have you tried watching a sad movie? That might push start a good cry? I think it'll happen when it happens; I've also heard journalling helps. Keep us posted 'cause I'm in the same boat! I have started journaling a few weeks ago. It does really help explore our emotions, but I can only write so much without feeling anything before stopping. It has helped me clear many of my thoughts too. I highly recommend you to start meditating (if you haven't already), since you are nearing the verge of tears. It helps you locate and feel your emotions in your body, and teaches you to acknowledge and accept them without judgment and let them pass. Start by focusing on the breath. You will be very distracted at the beginning. Whenever you notice that you're thinking, just return your attention to the breath. Try to focus on a specific spot where you can feel the breath going in and out of the nose (e.g. the rims). Just start with 5-10 mins at first, and stick with it. I guarantee you will hate it and think that it is a waste of time at first. It will really help you with your progress. I will make sure to keep you posted. I would appreciate it if you kept me in the loop with your progress too :) |
Originally Posted by Hevyn
(Post 5411518)
Hi Hollow. :) It took me a few months to begin to feel. While I was thrilled to be free of my daily drinking habit, I felt a bit frozen & in a state of shock sometimes. I'd been anesthetizing for years - we need time to heal. You will get there. |
I can relate as well. I suppose most articles aren't written by alcoholics. The understanding just isn't there really. I think my go-to response was masking through addictive behaviours. If that wasn't possible, I was quite adept at turning pretty much any negative emotion (guilt; sadness; grief; loneliness; etc.) into fear and anxiety, or anger. Preferably anger. My personal sobriety journey has taken me through the 12-step route with AA, which has really helped me to recognise; understand; and learn different ways of dealing with my emotions. There have been several light-bulb moments and lots of tears in the last year. I can't believe how differently I am already able to cope with certain situations (although it's def still a work in progress) - but working through my resentments; fears; and harms in Step 4 was a massive eye-opener, and opened the floodgates but in a very good way. I now have quite emotional moments that sneak up; maybe when the words of a song resonate, or a photo provokes a memory and I 'weep' (don't think I did 'weeping' before - just angry crying) but maybe that's healthy. Anyway - not much I can do about that. Good luck. Keep us posted :) |
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