Newcomer to the forum... cheers.
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Newcomer to the forum... cheers.
Hello, all. I have been lurking for awhile now, the better part of a month in fact - I've just passed my one month sober date, after a recent stint of a relapse that occurred after about a year solid of continuous sobriety. I've lost more in this recent episode than I ever imagined, as a wonderful, lasting, and committed relationship has come to an end; I've lost a good deal of family and friends through this whole ordeal, and I understand that the only thing that will make it even a little better, is achieving and maintaining true sobriety.
Previously, I had attended AA and just sat in the meetings. This time around, my approach has been to actually get a sponsor and work the 12 Steps (I just completed step 3!). Some days these meetings and the bonds I've forged therein help me to get past my sorrow and my lamentations, but ultimately I think I just need more time out from all these emotional stressors and strife to truly feel better. The relationship I lost was tainted by codependency, which was either of our faults, but not a single one of us really understood or knew how to make it better in the moment. I would do anything at a chance to start that relationship fresh, as a sober and sane adult, but I think some distance and refractory time to reset our hostile, confused emotions are necessary... As aforementioned, at this point the only constant thing I can rely upon in my life is remaining sober, and that everything will fall into place in time, perhaps differently and better than before. Can't love another without first knowing and loving yourself, right?
Just like with the meetings, it's good to be here, many of you have offered some fantastic insight, and I hope to keep coming back for this soul food I so desperately need.
Previously, I had attended AA and just sat in the meetings. This time around, my approach has been to actually get a sponsor and work the 12 Steps (I just completed step 3!). Some days these meetings and the bonds I've forged therein help me to get past my sorrow and my lamentations, but ultimately I think I just need more time out from all these emotional stressors and strife to truly feel better. The relationship I lost was tainted by codependency, which was either of our faults, but not a single one of us really understood or knew how to make it better in the moment. I would do anything at a chance to start that relationship fresh, as a sober and sane adult, but I think some distance and refractory time to reset our hostile, confused emotions are necessary... As aforementioned, at this point the only constant thing I can rely upon in my life is remaining sober, and that everything will fall into place in time, perhaps differently and better than before. Can't love another without first knowing and loving yourself, right?
Just like with the meetings, it's good to be here, many of you have offered some fantastic insight, and I hope to keep coming back for this soul food I so desperately need.
There's lots of support here. 
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