false guilt trip
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false guilt trip
I was going to post this in my regular class thread but i am hoping to get a bigger response and some enlightenment and clarity and reassurance that I have not been stunted permanently with AH stupidity. .
Why do AH use this statement and wives tend to accept it.
"I was a drunk when you married me, it was your fault you married me. "
For years, I believed that, he was a drunk when I married him. Yes, he had false promises, "'ll quit, just on the weekends, just beer for now on, next year will be different..ect...." blah blah blah
for years i carried that guilt with me.
As a society within ourselves(male or female) , do we tend to give undeserved leniency to AH ?
Why do AH use this statement and wives tend to accept it.
"I was a drunk when you married me, it was your fault you married me. "
For years, I believed that, he was a drunk when I married him. Yes, he had false promises, "'ll quit, just on the weekends, just beer for now on, next year will be different..ect...." blah blah blah
for years i carried that guilt with me.
As a society within ourselves(male or female) , do we tend to give undeserved leniency to AH ?
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In the words of the great philosopher Forrest Gump, Stupid is as Stupid does...
In my active alcoholism, 100% run on Self-Will-Run-Riot, I said and did a lot of things that seemed to make sense, and I now realize they were almost all delusional justifications and rationalizations of my Mentally , Emotionally, and Spiritually maladjusted Self.
I have gone from the pit of 'pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization' to being 'rocketed into the 4th dimension of existence'..... thru working the 12 Step Program of AA. I now recognize the full depravity and self-justification state of mind I used to be in, and the impact it had on all my 'hostages' (wife, etc).
I genuinely thank God that I am now in a sane, sober state of Mind, Body, and Spirit...and I thank God that I am now called to a life of ongoing 'Living Amends'.
I pray that your AH will experience the Grace that was shown me by God, and the friends I made in AA. and that he may have the wonderful transformation that working the 12 Step Program has done in me.
RDBplus3...Happy, Joyous, and FREE....and I KNOW You & your AH can be 2
In my active alcoholism, 100% run on Self-Will-Run-Riot, I said and did a lot of things that seemed to make sense, and I now realize they were almost all delusional justifications and rationalizations of my Mentally , Emotionally, and Spiritually maladjusted Self.
I have gone from the pit of 'pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization' to being 'rocketed into the 4th dimension of existence'..... thru working the 12 Step Program of AA. I now recognize the full depravity and self-justification state of mind I used to be in, and the impact it had on all my 'hostages' (wife, etc).
I genuinely thank God that I am now in a sane, sober state of Mind, Body, and Spirit...and I thank God that I am now called to a life of ongoing 'Living Amends'.
I pray that your AH will experience the Grace that was shown me by God, and the friends I made in AA. and that he may have the wonderful transformation that working the 12 Step Program has done in me.
RDBplus3...Happy, Joyous, and FREE....and I KNOW You & your AH can be 2
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"I was a drunk when you married me, it was your fault you married me. "
Noone made me an alcoholic, and noone made your husband one either.
If you do have residual guilt let it go SisterBobby - it's not your fault
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Originally Posted by Dee74 
They call that stuff quacking on the FF side of the boards here.
Noone made me an alcoholic, and noone made your husband one either.
If you do have residual guilt let it go SisterBobby - it's not your fault
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Noone made me an alcoholic, and noone made your husband one either.
If you do have residual guilt let it go SisterBobby - it's not your fault
D
Letting go of the guilt is soooo difficult!
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