on to total sobriety!......help needed please?
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on to total sobriety!......help needed please?
my 3 months of moderation has come to an end. starting now, i will drink no more beer.
i have made up a 3 month chart and feel relatively prepared for what is to come. during these months i will concentrate on losing the weight that drinking made me gain, and at the end of the chart i have a holiday booked, which i am determined to enjoy without constantly fantasising about beer (which i did last time) or feeling like a sweaty hog.
this is the bit i am worried about as the thought of never drinking again may send me round the bend!
so to help me along, i would like to ask for some words of encouragement, stories, mottoes-anything from you guys, that i can print off and look at in my weaker moments. this will help me massively and i would obviously really appreciate it, so please take the time to reply for me. anything you want-horror stories will remind me of the reasons not to drink, success stories will inspire me, mottoes will brighten my mood. anything!
thank you in advance to those who help, thank you for reading to those who don't feel able to.
i have made up a 3 month chart and feel relatively prepared for what is to come. during these months i will concentrate on losing the weight that drinking made me gain, and at the end of the chart i have a holiday booked, which i am determined to enjoy without constantly fantasising about beer (which i did last time) or feeling like a sweaty hog.
this is the bit i am worried about as the thought of never drinking again may send me round the bend!
so to help me along, i would like to ask for some words of encouragement, stories, mottoes-anything from you guys, that i can print off and look at in my weaker moments. this will help me massively and i would obviously really appreciate it, so please take the time to reply for me. anything you want-horror stories will remind me of the reasons not to drink, success stories will inspire me, mottoes will brighten my mood. anything!
thank you in advance to those who help, thank you for reading to those who don't feel able to.
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I am almost five and a half years sober and my motto during early recovery was wanting to be sober more than I wanted to drink. That got me thru a lot.
I also had the help of an addiction counselor.
My big reward comes every morning when I wake up feeling good. I used to wake up feeling like death warmed over and hating myself. I no longer hate myself and look forward to waking up feeling good and ready to start the day.
I also had the help of an addiction counselor.
My big reward comes every morning when I wake up feeling good. I used to wake up feeling like death warmed over and hating myself. I no longer hate myself and look forward to waking up feeling good and ready to start the day.
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I don't attend aa but one thing I still use daily from them is one day at a time, instead of thinking I can never drink again - That is really helpful to me.
loosing all the excess weight from alcohol was a huge motivator for me too, along with keeping track of how much money I save weekly, monthly, and yearly by not drinking /smoking or anything else like that.
loosing all the excess weight from alcohol was a huge motivator for me too, along with keeping track of how much money I save weekly, monthly, and yearly by not drinking /smoking or anything else like that.
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thanks guys, this is already proving helpful. i don't get hangovers (lucky i guess) but i do feel like utter **** emotionally so thanks for reminding me, and i didn't even consider the money i would save!
thank you, again.
thank you, again.
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I posted this a while back. Hope it lifts you up my friend.
THE DON'T QUIT POEM:
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit!
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure has turned about,
When they might have won had they stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow!
Often the goal is nearer than It seems to a faint and faltering one,
Often the struggler has given up
When they might have captured the victor's cup.
And they learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close they were to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint to the clouds of doubt.
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the task when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem the worst, that you must not quit!
-Author Unknown
Thomas Edison said, Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. Attaining your goals can sometimes feel overwhelming and it can seem easier to just quit and do something else. Well, you would be in good company, as most people try to reach their goals and most people quit.
When this happens, when you're having difficulty and things seem impossible, don't give up on your goals. Instead take a few moments to:
1. Remember why you set this goal in the first place. Why is it important to you? How will accomplishing this goal improve your life? If you have a strong enough why, you can get there.
2. Analyze your current actions and make any necessary adjustments along the way. It doesn't help to keep hitting your head against a wall. If you come up against a wall try to go around it, over it, under it, or get the appropriate tool and blast through it.
3. Stay inspired. Use a few motivational and inspirational quotes to keep you going. Here are a few to get you started.
What the caterpillar calls the end of the world,
the master calls a butterfly.
-Richard Bach
Most of the important things in the world
have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying
when there seemed to be no hope at all.
-Dale Carnegie
I hated every minute of training,
but I said "don't quit.
Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.
-Muhammad Ali
There are no great people in this world,
only great challenges which ordinary people rise to meet.
-William Frederick Halsey, Jr.
THE DON'T QUIT POEM:
When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all up hill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit,
Rest if you must, but don't you quit!
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a failure has turned about,
When they might have won had they stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow,
You may succeed with another blow!
Often the goal is nearer than It seems to a faint and faltering one,
Often the struggler has given up
When they might have captured the victor's cup.
And they learned too late, when the night slipped down,
How close they were to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out,
The silver tint to the clouds of doubt.
And you never can tell how close you are,
It may be near when it seems so far.
So stick to the task when you're hardest hit,
It's when things seem the worst, that you must not quit!
-Author Unknown
Thomas Edison said, Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. Attaining your goals can sometimes feel overwhelming and it can seem easier to just quit and do something else. Well, you would be in good company, as most people try to reach their goals and most people quit.
When this happens, when you're having difficulty and things seem impossible, don't give up on your goals. Instead take a few moments to:
1. Remember why you set this goal in the first place. Why is it important to you? How will accomplishing this goal improve your life? If you have a strong enough why, you can get there.
2. Analyze your current actions and make any necessary adjustments along the way. It doesn't help to keep hitting your head against a wall. If you come up against a wall try to go around it, over it, under it, or get the appropriate tool and blast through it.
3. Stay inspired. Use a few motivational and inspirational quotes to keep you going. Here are a few to get you started.
What the caterpillar calls the end of the world,
the master calls a butterfly.
-Richard Bach
Most of the important things in the world
have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying
when there seemed to be no hope at all.
-Dale Carnegie
I hated every minute of training,
but I said "don't quit.
Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion.
-Muhammad Ali
There are no great people in this world,
only great challenges which ordinary people rise to meet.
-William Frederick Halsey, Jr.
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This is a great link to help you think about a recovery plan
https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf
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https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf
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