My tentative hello...
Welcome, Daria. Glad you joined the May thread. Each day is a challenge that is different from the one before. Your plan sounds like a good place to begin. I too have (and do) struggle with how to handle those situations where I ordinarily would have been drinking around other people. As far as my family is concerned, there isn't a single one that's saddened or let down that I'm abstaining. Friends are a little bit harder.
I agree that it's nobody else's business but I also see why we have to prepare for how to handle the inevitable questions and turning down the offer for a drink. Avoiding certain situations in the beginning days is crucial for me. I'm only day 12, but that is a victory cause each day is what we are trying to stay sober in. Not "forever" but "today."
Glad you are here with us.
I agree that it's nobody else's business but I also see why we have to prepare for how to handle the inevitable questions and turning down the offer for a drink. Avoiding certain situations in the beginning days is crucial for me. I'm only day 12, but that is a victory cause each day is what we are trying to stay sober in. Not "forever" but "today."
Glad you are here with us.
Oh yeah! I forgot about the excuse thing. I think your belly condition is a good one. You can said "I'm not in the mood today" but you don't have to say "I'm not drinking anymore." Sounds so permanent and then it will likely give rise to rebuttals like, "You don't have a drinking problem!" You can say it is only making you sleepy these days or whatever.
The less of a deal you make out of it in your response, the less they will have to respond to.
The less of a deal you make out of it in your response, the less they will have to respond to.
Oh yeah! I forgot about the excuse thing. I think your belly condition is a good one. You can said "I'm not in the mood today" but you don't have to say "I'm not drinking anymore." Sounds so permanent and then it will likely give rise to rebuttals like, "You don't have a drinking problem!" You can say it is only making you sleepy these days or whatever.
The less of a deal you make out of it in your response, the less they will have to respond to.
The less of a deal you make out of it in your response, the less they will have to respond to.
I think I was just concerned with giving non-permanent responses and that bleeding into my own train of thought... leaving the door open. Because it can't be. I quit for maybe 3-4 months about 5 years ago, and then started drinking again because "Hey, I can control my drinking!" And initially I did better with sticking to only 1-2 drinks every now and then, but it escalated again with time... like it always does.
It's so good to meet you Daria. I was once a binge drinker too - but I didn't see the warning signs the way you have. I kept going until I drank all day - no control whatsoever. SR helped me get on my feet and stay there. I'm glad you see the need for change in your life - we're with you.
Welcome Daria!
I am close to five months sober. This is my second go around. I was sober for 6 months, drank very little until my big trigger event, and then lost control again for about 9 months before I quit this second time.
So, in my opinion, what is missing from your plan is what to do and who to talk to if you encounter a massive trigger.
I am close to five months sober. This is my second go around. I was sober for 6 months, drank very little until my big trigger event, and then lost control again for about 9 months before I quit this second time.
So, in my opinion, what is missing from your plan is what to do and who to talk to if you encounter a massive trigger.
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