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Old 05-10-2015, 03:38 AM
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If I thought it would be too much for me to attend anything, I would either have an escape route, or avoid altogether.
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Old 05-10-2015, 03:47 AM
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One more thing to remember:

We don't have to fit in....

To Belong.
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Old 05-10-2015, 08:15 AM
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Just turn on the radio, country music is big advertizing for booze...
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Old 05-10-2015, 08:37 AM
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It seemed like it was everyone, but it isn't, many people have happy entertaining lives, full of activities and friends, without alcohol.

It only seems like alcohol is the centre of the social universe, but it's a matter of perspective!!
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Old 05-10-2015, 08:44 AM
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When I was drinking, my phaser was set for booze. I looked for and always found people, places and events that matched my obsession to drink. As a result, everyone was drinking, seemingly all the time, wherever I went, while the rest of the Mormon and non-Mormon world was going about the business of living their lives. Birds of a feather.
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Old 05-10-2015, 11:17 AM
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I hear ya. I used to down summer ales and seafood with wreckless abandone. I will miss is those days.

I am going to get into shape- maybe you could look for a fitness group?

Take up motorcycling?

there is so much I want to try if I can stick with this
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Old 05-10-2015, 11:48 AM
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Chiquen, it was quite an epiphany to me when I got sober and learned that the entire world doesn't commence heavy drinking every time the sun went down.

There is a whole world of engaging, fun people who don't drink, but who still manage to go out to nice restaurants, movies, plays, concerts, sporting events, baz mitsvahs, etc. but who do not drink.

As Flynbuy points out, many of the people I do socialize with used to have to do all of these things, and pretty much else, under the influence of alcohol or other drugs.

I tend to have a bond with these kind of people which surpasses other commonalities I share with others (e.g. from my religious faith, my line of work, etc.).

I asked for help with my drinking problem to save my career, not to have fun, but getting sober sure has given me the chance to truly enjoy life.

There is a new joi de vivre that is hard to describe.

I hope you get and stay sober and that you hang around here and let us know how you are doing.
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Old 05-10-2015, 11:55 AM
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"joi de vivre". I had to look that up. I love it!
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Old 05-10-2015, 11:59 AM
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Originally Posted by Cissy View Post
"joi de vivre". I had to look that up. I love it!
I don't know why, but this made me smile. I'll take 'em where I can get 'em.
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Old 05-10-2015, 01:25 PM
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You guys are making me laugh.

I could speak French conversationally 40 years ago, but now I can barely order from a menu with French cuisine.
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