ZaBoozer

Count me in too.

BernieE

6 months today! I'm in for another sober weekend!

Weasel1966

Congrats BernieE!!!!!!!!

Care to share with the newbies how you got through your first few weekends?

Della1968

Congrats Bernie!!!

Ruby2

Congrats Bernie!! That's great!!

I'm in for a sober weekend! Though it's Thursday and I had a wretched time getting out of bed. But, I'll soldier on.

Since I'm now officially running late, see you all later.

MesaMan

ESD907 ~

The obtuse allusions refer to when one achieves the vaunted position weekly of calling 'Shotgun'. This prized accomplishment is realized by being the second to Post once this Thread opens. As time goes on, this Thread opening moment is about as regular as Menopause. One Benchmark in Sobriety, of course, is to deal effortlessly with uncertainties in Life. This, we strive to do.

Thus, our first Music Vid Link appropriately opens with a Shotgun Scene. OK, OK, it's a Rifle...

'The Theme From The Beverly Hillbillies' ~ Earl Flatt & Lester Scruggs
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happyandfree

I'm in! I think I'll sit on the roof cause it's supposed to be a beautiful weekend.
Sorry Della...not even close..maybe next time.
Welcome labgirl! Congratulations bernie! 6 months is awesome.

Weasel1966

Absolutely awesome! Thanks MM. This thread would be less rich without you!

BeBetterforkids

I'm in!

Olive1

Climbing aboard!!!

Weasel1966

Allow me to open the threads first subtopic.... Confidence... Or the lack of...

I have such a horrible time trying to remain confident in everyday life. I mean I know what I am good at and what I am not. That's not what I mean. Just when I meet people or at work dealing with people I sometimes want to be so small.

I have to actively remind myself that this is only my own thoughts and they cannot see that I feel as bad as I do over stupid stuff. Do they like me? Do they think I don't know what I am doing? Do they know I am not always sure of myself?

This was compounded dramatically by coming to work semi-sober. Guilt ridden. Panic attacks.

Not any more for those things but still the internal questions persist. I know as I grow as a person I have shed much of this but every now and then I get an attack of the whack and I just cannot handle someones smack! Ha ha... But for real.

Drinking took all I had in me to just live. Living sober gives me every chance I desire to live free. Even when reminders of past fears take a momentary grip.

K

gettingsmarter

I'm in Ya'll!

Della1968

Work is about the only thing I have self confidence about. I'm working on it

NeoGuest

I am in!

MidnightBlue

I am in!

Nonsensical

mecanix

Yer i felt daft starting a thread prepping people up for the weekend when it was the early hours of sat in NZ and Australia .. A bit late for them ..

Also i think having a run up allows you to stock up on groceries thurs if you know picking a drink up friday evening as i used to do, as I did the shopping was part of the routine ..
so having the foresight to see where problems might be and address them is also part of the idea IMHO .

It's got a life of it's own tho so we just cast it out and people seem to run with it … Also it was a bit of a refuge from the intensity of emotion that can be the message boards when people are unused to sitting with their worse emotions and none of their usual alcohol escape to blitz any feelings into next week .

Confidence ? Imagine them in their dirty undies always helps puncture their pomposity in my mind .
hmm i guess i am pretty fearless , living life day by day on it's own terms allows me to have very few worries .

All the ghosts are exorcised and dead , i have no desires other than to hopefully have a good day tomorrow
It is my desire for things i don't have that cause me to be miserable now , so either i put my learning to use to get those things or i give-up on wanting them .. the result is contentment

Take care , m

TennantSmith

I'm celebrating a week this weekend. You all seem like mighty fine people to spend it with.

I'm also playing Ultimate Frisbee with my girls and maybe some of their f friends. Praying for no injuries lol

Mysusnshine1

RING RING...
HELLO SOBER BELL? Yeah, It's Me Mysunshine and I'm in!...Yup, You too have a great weekend!

Aellyce

Hi Ken and everyone -- this topic just made me jump in
This, plus the fact that I think I'll need a little more than usual this weekend, which is unusual for me. I live a lifestyle where weekends are not much distinct from the rest of the week, although I've been trying to pick up this habit in sobriety, which is challenging for me since I've lived the more or less totally free and flexible way to organize my days pretty much in my entire adult life beyond college. I feel that this upcoming weekend is more challenging than usual because I'm in that state that tends to be my biggest trigger: things are going a bit "too good" for me right now, plus I have big events next week that I really look forward to and am confident about now. (Going to Europe to stay with my dad a couple days, and on to practically start some stuff in my new job in Asia.) And I don't want to fall victim to this trigger of "confidence".

So, ask me about it... HUGE topic and code of my own life. I'll start with saying that my self-confidence was quite severely attacked and challenged in the first 10 years of my life. To make a long post even longer, I coped with this in a mixed way in my teens and young adult years: some very crazy and self-destructive, but some also good. No need to discuss the destructive part. The "good" part was a sort of unconsciously (initially) developed behavior and thinking style that typically energize me and impact me in a positive way. That I am solely responsible for and capable of being whatever and whoever I want to be, and putting limits to what I dream of doing is pretty much my weakness when it happens. I learned to override my damaged self-confidence early on by replacing the "self" part with "what I do". It's a rather artificial confidence, to be 100% honest: it does not come from an internal self image or contentment, but from how it is projected into what I know and what I do with my life. And in turn, when this is consistent, the self-image tends to grow on the go, from the active realization and from not allowing external circumstances to hold me back. For me, confidence is a consequence, a feedback deriving from what I do rather than what I am. I feel very lucky in a way that this developed in me naturally and kinda without awareness in early life, so it's been much easier to pick it up again in sobriety. After the years of being a drunk destroying it slowly but surely, again.

Btw, so where can I sit, I was often bus sick as a kid... may try the roof to start, like wolves