So sorry
 

I had done 3 days alcohol free but screwed it up tonight

Had bottle of wine. Tried to find a way to justify it but no way.

Why am I so 'hopeless' !!

Your definitely not hopeless. I've met hopeless people that have recovered! The key is to show up for yourself and put in the work nessary to keep you sober. Obviously you can look up AA, rational recovery, or smart recovery and the list goes on! Try new things and ideas anything will work as long as it produces results. My opinion is relapse isn't a test of your character but the tools you've acquired and maybe you just need some more tools! Good luck we are here for you!

Your not hopeless your powerless its accepting that if we drink all bets are off

i cant drink safely or responsibly so no matter what i dont drink and keep working on myself

Hang in there dont beat yourself up dont let this deter you as the old saying goes

Rome wasnt built in a day

((VW))

I felt hopeless too. Too many times. :( But it is possible to stay sober when you want to be sober more than you want to drink. You've got to accept that you can't drink at all. I kept trying and now have over five years sober. It is possible. :)

I hope the support here can help you get sober for good. :hug:

Hi, Virginia. Keep reading around and asking questions until you find something that really resonates with you. For me it was the book "Rational Recovery" and learning about AVRT. You can do this, you just need to gather up some tools to help you.

I thought I was hopeless too - I wasn;t. And neither are you.

I just needed a recovery plan that was as well thought out, as accessible and as robust as my drinking plan.

My getting a bottle plan was always foolproof - our 'not getting a bottle plan' needs to be as sure, yeah? :)

you can do this :)

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Wow Dee! This is huge and eye opening for me.

Hang in there VW, you can start again...pour the wine down the drain, have a shower and shake it off.

I screwed up today too. Had a fight with my wife so that was a good reason to drink. I totally regret it now. All I can do is start over in the morning. We can do this. One day at a time.

You can do it Time have you read the chimp paradox book

Virginia tomorrow is a new day. Dust your self off and start again.

Virginia-be patient with yourself. One of the things that really helped me in early sobriety is trying to pinpoint thoughts and feelings when I wanted to drink. By thinking about what led you to drinking (thoughts, feelings, etc), you can start making a plan as to how you're going to deal with them. You can do it!

Dear Virginia, you're not hopeless -- it just takes some practice over time.

With patience and persistence you'll get better and better at living sober.

Just the fact that you have made a start in this new direction is already a good sign!

Sending kind thoughts and wishing you well :)

I agree!

You are going to be absolutely fine Virginia. You can see where it went a bit wonky and if you keep trying, it will stick :-)