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MJane91 04-27-2015 01:56 PM

The longer you stay sober and in recovery things will get easier, you have been drinking for so long it feels normal to you to be like that when actually being sober should be normal to you :)

Just think the real you probably does want to stop otherwise you wouldn't be posting on SR its just the addiction taking control of you, when your ready you will be stronger and take the control back :) x

drinkingdinos 04-30-2015 10:51 AM

Why can't I just stop already? Wrecked it on day 4.

Nonsensical 04-30-2015 11:55 AM

You CAN.

You just haven't , yet.

I honestly thought (for decades) that when I was ready to quit drinking the desire to drink would just go away. Unfortunately, it doesn't work that way. You have to be prepared to not drink even when you feel like drinking. Simple, not easy.

Get back after it. You can do this! :ring

Dee74 04-30-2015 05:12 PM

Make a plan DD :)


midgetcop 05-01-2015 03:38 AM

If there's anything I've learned from years of trying to STAY stopped, it's that simply stopping on your own and doing nothing else doesn't work.

I needed to go to treatment and now I'm in AA (and of course, SR). Other people have followed other paths to sobriety.

You'll get there, my friend.

Eddiebuckle 05-01-2015 03:46 AM

I second Midgetcops statement. I was unable to stick with sobriety on my own, and had to go a long way down before I simply gave up thinking I could do it solo. Once I was willing to do whatever it took every day my life began to change. The funny thing is that had I gotten everything I wanted when I first quit, my life would be half what it is today. Addiction takes more of us than we realize, and sobriety is so much more than managing to not drink.

AA calls it the gift of desperation. It's a terrible place to be, but a necessary foundation for sobriety for many of us. Don't give up before the miracle happens.

SoberCAH 05-01-2015 10:13 AM

I m so grateful I got sober at a reasonably young age (31).

I hope that you seize this opportunity to change your life.

If you are on this board, the chances of your not being an alcoholic are pretty modest, I suspect.

I don't miss the mental gymnastics that it sounds like you are going through.

Take care and give sobriety a try, amigo.

JT0626 05-01-2015 10:29 AM

And even though some small part of me is aware that my drinking wouldn't be considered normal, I still can't believe I'm an alcoholic. I tell myself everyone else is over reacting. That I'm not that bad...I mean I don't drink thaat much, right? I'm not a sloppy drunk, etc etc.
What I'm hearing from your post is your AV talking. The above is your AV messing with you.

Listen, life is about choices. You can choose to drink or not. But you already know that drinking brings on consequences.

I wanted to be sober really bad. I was in a such a dark depression when I was drinking that I knew it couldn't get worse than this. I knew the alcohol was also playing a part in this depression that I couldn't shake. I came on this site & accepted that I was an alcoholic.....that was my game changer.

You have to want it, you have to want it bad enough to accept you're an alcoholic.

zerothehero 05-01-2015 11:00 AM

Are we ever ready for recovery? I sure wasn't, but I made a choice not to hit bottom, and I learned to surf the anxiety waves rather than drown... Not saying it's easy but if I can do it...

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