I don't think I can do this.
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Originally Posted by buk1000 
Runner, have you not told your bar friends that you no longer drink? Is there a reason that you don't want to take that step? Congratulations on the plan, it seems to be serving you well. But it sounds like you might need to lose your phone on the weekend or come to an understanding with your friends or that scene will play out repeatedly.
No, I haven't told them I no longer drink because I am not confident I will never drink again. Also, I haven't even made it 30+ days without having at least one drink.
I haven't told them because as soon as I do, I'm sure I'll end up drinking with them and they'll be thinking, "I thought she stopped drinking!?" That situation has happened far too many times so I haven't told anyone, and I probably will not tell anyone until I make it past 30 days.
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Originally Posted by Cauliflower
Right on!! I feel, that once I made the decision to quit drinking, to never have that first drink, it be a me easier for me. The inner arguments with myself all but disappeared. I also noticed life unfolded daily with ease. It's like the universe cleared the path for me, steering me away from temptation. I don't believe in coincidence, I believe that everything happens for a reason!
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Here are some great ideas To augment your plan.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post4957456
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ml#post4957456
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When I was drinking my art went on the back burner. I didn't even miss it. But now I am back doing it and it is so therapeutic! I hope you will stay with this. It can really help when you are down.
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Originally Posted by ArtFriend
When I was drinking my art went on the back burner. I didn't even miss it. But now I am back doing it and it is so therapeutic! I hope you will stay with this. It can really help when you are down.
Maybe I'll enter it here: http://m.sharpie.com/enUS/Pages/Chal...spx?eid=810662
^^ I didn't even know that existed when I bought them last night. I just found it right now...
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I think that what you did last night was so important. For me, physically making a change and doing something different at the time I normally drank made a big difference. You did something out of the ordinary for you and it not only kept you out of the bar, it has brought you a new sense of fun and joy. Awesome!
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Originally Posted by soberwolf
Know that you can do this
I really like your quote: "I am strong because I have been weak, fearless because I have been afraid, wise because I have been foolish". Wisdom comes from suffering, from failure, from imperfection, from fear. The Book of Solomon, part of the Apochrypha, says that those who seek it finding it waiting at their doors.
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So, it's been 3+ months since I've posted this thread and I've yet to make it to 30 days sober. 
Pssshh, who am I kidding!? I've yet to make it to 7 days sober... *hangs head in shame*
I don't know what's wrong with me!! Actually, yes I do--I have TOO MUCH free time (which leads to boredom) and I can't handle it. So, I drink wine at night because it speeds up the time between 5pm and 9pm/10pm, which is when I go to sleep. (Then again, this thought just popped in my head: when I'm busy, I tell myself I'm drinking to relax because I'm stressed and need a break. I guess I'm just making excuses!)
Lastly, I haven't gotten drunk in 30+ days but that's not saying much, as I have a high tolerance. I'm able to drink a bottle of wine and only feel a little tipsy. I've gotten pretty good at not drinking more than a bottle of wine, but that sounds insane--a bottle of wine is a lot!!
Anyway, these are just random thoughts I had to let out... I still don't have anyone to talk to about my struggles so I'm hoping you guys on SR can help me?
Pssshh, who am I kidding!? I've yet to make it to 7 days sober... *hangs head in shame* I don't know what's wrong with me!! Actually, yes I do--I have TOO MUCH free time (which leads to boredom) and I can't handle it. So, I drink wine at night because it speeds up the time between 5pm and 9pm/10pm, which is when I go to sleep. (Then again, this thought just popped in my head: when I'm busy, I tell myself I'm drinking to relax because I'm stressed and need a break. I guess I'm just making excuses!)
Lastly, I haven't gotten drunk in 30+ days but that's not saying much, as I have a high tolerance. I'm able to drink a bottle of wine and only feel a little tipsy. I've gotten pretty good at not drinking more than a bottle of wine, but that sounds insane--a bottle of wine is a lot!!
Anyway, these are just random thoughts I had to let out... I still don't have anyone to talk to about my struggles so I'm hoping you guys on SR can help me?
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A good recovery plan is worth its weight in good SoberRunner - there's some really great ideas here?
https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf
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https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf
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Originally Posted by Dee74
A good recovery plan is worth its weight in good SoberRunner - there's some really great ideas here? https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf D
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Originally Posted by least
For me to stay sober, I had to want to be sober more than I wanted to drink. Once I got to that point, I was able to stay sober. 
I guess I'm not sure what to say about the two glasses of wine a night. I don't know what to say because I never did that. I always drank 10 to 15 drinks. That's why I got so incredible sick of it. It was like aversion therapy.
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Originally Posted by SoberRunner
Oh yeah, I forgot many may not know what Michaels is because it's only in the US... It's an arts and crafts store: Arts & Crafts | Framing | Michaels Stores ? Shop Online Now
Anyone who loves arts and crafts can spend hours there!
Anyone who loves arts and crafts can spend hours there!
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Originally Posted by Dee74
A good recovery plan is worth its weight in good SoberRunner - there's some really great ideas here? https://store.samhsa.gov/shin/conten...0/SMA-3720.pdf D
Originally Posted by SoberRunner
Thank you, D! I'm about to go to sleep--but read the Intro and it seems like a great read!--so I'm committing to making that (pdf) my "homework" tomorrow night. No wine, just reading and learning.
I just sat down to eat dinner then it's time to read, read, read... (Although there's a little voice saying, "You can't stay home on a Friday night!! You're young--you should be out having fun with everyone esle downtown! You can read that tomorrow..."
But, I won't fall for the voice...this time. Who knows about next time, as I tend to always fall for it.
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You can do it.
It's totally 'normal' to struggle to get there.
But keep that vision, and keep asking 'what more do I need to do, in order to fully embrace sobriety ?'
You're a runner? Me too. A year and a half sober. Just finished a euphoric early am training trail run. 50k three weeks away. Running was always good.... Now it's euphoric.
Life is so much better without the deathspin of booze.
You can do it
It's totally 'normal' to struggle to get there.
But keep that vision, and keep asking 'what more do I need to do, in order to fully embrace sobriety ?'
You're a runner? Me too. A year and a half sober. Just finished a euphoric early am training trail run. 50k three weeks away. Running was always good.... Now it's euphoric.
Life is so much better without the deathspin of booze.
You can do it
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Originally Posted by SoberRunner
Am I just not ready for sobriety? I want to live a sober life but after a few days of not drinking, my reasons for wanting to live a sober life tend to disappear. For example, my drinking has gone waaayyy down since I've been on this site. When I do drink, the urge to drink a lot has disappeared. For example, last night I only had 2 glasses of wine--not in wine glasses because I trashed those--and I poured the rest down the sink. Is this normal or am I doing something wrong because I can't stop drinking 100%, forever? I want to not even want 1 or 2 glasses of wine...
I want to not even want 1 or 2 glasses of wine...Jennifer
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Originally Posted by wpainterw
Soberwolf:
I really like your quote: "I am strong because I have been weak, fearless because I have been afraid, wise because I have been foolish". Wisdom comes from suffering, from failure, from imperfection, from fear. The Book of Solomon, part of the Apochrypha, says that those who seek it finding it waiting at their doors.
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I really like your quote: "I am strong because I have been weak, fearless because I have been afraid, wise because I have been foolish". Wisdom comes from suffering, from failure, from imperfection, from fear. The Book of Solomon, part of the Apochrypha, says that those who seek it finding it waiting at their doors.
W.
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Originally Posted by sva777
I had many attempts at sobriety before it really stuck. I would have a bunch of drinks and then go 5-9 days or so clean before my AV started kicking in saying why not have a few. Eventually I wanted to quit more than I wanted to drink because I hated the misery which would follow an awful binge.
It is true, you will now have free time where you used to either be drunk/drinking/hungover. I look back and don't know how I got anything done before.
It is true, you will now have free time where you used to either be drunk/drinking/hungover. I look back and don't know how I got anything done before.
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Hi All,
Thank you for all of the replies! I didn't have any wine last night so I got some reading done and watched a little TV. Before I knew it, it was 11:00 PM and I went to sleep.
BUT, I felt tired waking up this morning... I'm starting to notice I seem to have more energy in the morning if I've had wine the night before (but my quality of sleep is worse). Why does that happen?
Thank you for all of the replies! I didn't have any wine last night so I got some reading done and watched a little TV. Before I knew it, it was 11:00 PM and I went to sleep.
BUT, I felt tired waking up this morning... I'm starting to notice I seem to have more energy in the morning if I've had wine the night before (but my quality of sleep is worse). Why does that happen?
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