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Join Date: Apr 2015
Location: Santa Rosa
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New to recovery and new to site
Relapsed after 7 years clean and currently have 92 days clean.
Walked away from a 3.5 year relationship because he wanted to keep using I and I was ready to get clean; it was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. Struggling with some weight gain after I worked hard to lose 100 pounds -- gained some weight in new recovery and as a result of the breakup!
Trying to feel a "part of" this time around but having trouble feeling like I "fit in." Part of me doesn't care as much as I once did about fitting in. I've realized that I myself am a puzzle with a few pieces missing more than I am a piece to the bigger puzzle of humanity. None of us were never meant to "fit in." If that were true, we wouldn't all be completely individualized.
Anyway, taking it one day at a time.
I'm working with a sponsor and on Step 3.
Walked away from a 3.5 year relationship because he wanted to keep using I and I was ready to get clean; it was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. Struggling with some weight gain after I worked hard to lose 100 pounds -- gained some weight in new recovery and as a result of the breakup!
Trying to feel a "part of" this time around but having trouble feeling like I "fit in." Part of me doesn't care as much as I once did about fitting in. I've realized that I myself am a puzzle with a few pieces missing more than I am a piece to the bigger puzzle of humanity. None of us were never meant to "fit in." If that were true, we wouldn't all be completely individualized.
Anyway, taking it one day at a time.
I'm working with a sponsor and on Step 3.
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Location: Florida
Posts: 27
I also had a long period of sobriety - it was only 5 years, but it was good for me. I didn't lose 100 lbs -- that's really impressive! -- but I lost 40.
I think that by not feeling like you fit in, you fit in more than most of us. If that makes any sense. Even the worst setbacks can be recovered. I wish you the best of luck.
Message me sometime if you want and we can talk about how to do it.
I think that by not feeling like you fit in, you fit in more than most of us. If that makes any sense. Even the worst setbacks can be recovered. I wish you the best of luck.
Message me sometime if you want and we can talk about how to do it.
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Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Atlanta
Posts: 31,179
Welcome to SR!!
I too had to walk away from relationship for the same reason. It took a while to find out if, or where, I fit in but SR was a huge help. Glad you are here and congratulations on 92 days!
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
I too had to walk away from relationship for the same reason. It took a while to find out if, or where, I fit in but SR was a huge help. Glad you are here and congratulations on 92 days!
Hugs and prayers,
Amy
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: toledo, ohio
Posts: 94
Welcome and good luck. I just ended a 1 and a half year relationship with another alcoholic and I too lost 100 lbs in 9 months of sobriety. I ended this relationship very recently a week ago and I am emotionally exhausted to the point where i don't even want to hear about working out again. But things will get better, depression is going to pass for me and getting out of this relationship is a recovery in and of itself. I relapsed once in a year because of this relationship too. I am jumping into AA and recovery with both feet to get through it. Hearing stories like yours helps me. Keep coming back here and welcome again to SR.
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