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No Motivation
Is it normal to feel really demotivated when you first enter into sobriety?
I have had all these great ideas about clubs I should join to meet new people etc but the truth is. . . at the moment I just want to sleep and lie on my couch. I know that this doesn't solve anything and that I won't meet new friends etc by doing this but, by the time I finish work, I am just shattered and want to rest.
I suppose drinking took away from the fact that I am quite depressed and gave me a "second wind" as it were.
Im confused as I am a binge drinker and do not drink every day. . . but I feel so lethargic and emotional at the moment. Is this normal for someone that doesn't drink every day. I know Im more teary than normal but I think that's more to do with the uncertainty of my future and giving up "old Habits."
I just wish I had the drive to do what I should be doing and start gong out and trying new things but I am struggling finding the energy to venture outside my house at the moment. (except for going to work!)
Thanks for reading.
I have had all these great ideas about clubs I should join to meet new people etc but the truth is. . . at the moment I just want to sleep and lie on my couch. I know that this doesn't solve anything and that I won't meet new friends etc by doing this but, by the time I finish work, I am just shattered and want to rest.
I suppose drinking took away from the fact that I am quite depressed and gave me a "second wind" as it were.
Im confused as I am a binge drinker and do not drink every day. . . but I feel so lethargic and emotional at the moment. Is this normal for someone that doesn't drink every day. I know Im more teary than normal but I think that's more to do with the uncertainty of my future and giving up "old Habits."
I just wish I had the drive to do what I should be doing and start gong out and trying new things but I am struggling finding the energy to venture outside my house at the moment. (except for going to work!)
Thanks for reading.
I think it's normal to feel a little fatigued, apathetic and shellshocked even - and no you don't have to be the all day everyday drinker to feel that way.
Give your mind and body a chance to heal - things will get better, I promise
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Give your mind and body a chance to heal - things will get better, I promise
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Thanks! Im just so worried that I'm always going to feel like this I suppose.
I do suffer from depression from time to time which is actually another reason why I've decided to stop drinking.
I guess I just have to be patient and see what happens. :-)
I do suffer from depression from time to time which is actually another reason why I've decided to stop drinking.
I guess I just have to be patient and see what happens. :-)
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Hi.
Withdrawal from Alcohol reacts differently with the individual.
The benefits of not drinking far exceed the pitfalls of drinking a toxic fluid, some come sooner than others.
The pitfall is a miserable life and death.
BE WELL
Withdrawal from Alcohol reacts differently with the individual.
The benefits of not drinking far exceed the pitfalls of drinking a toxic fluid, some come sooner than others.
The pitfall is a miserable life and death.
BE WELL
I've been experiencing the same thing. I think it's normal to feel fatigued. I work an office job, 9-5, and after I get home I have a hard time being motivated to do much of anything - I've been forcing myself to work out in my home gym so at least that is going pretty well. It's been a couple of weeks now and I have already noticed it improving a little bit. Hang in there - it does get better.
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Depression and anxiety are painful realties of my sobriety. I saw and doctor and was prescribed an anti depressent, they help some. I personally have been working on just accepting this new reality, who I have been is gone and now it's time to figure out who I am. Find a way to love yourself and the rest comes. Much easier said than done. Hope this helps.
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Sounds a bit like the anhedonia that can follow for a while after quitting alcohol. It generally passes in about 90 days.
I was not an every day drinker, more like a few times a week binge heavy drinker and I felt this way for many weeks after quitting.
I still do at times, but it is better than feeling sick and miserable.
I still do at times, but it is better than feeling sick and miserable.
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Misscoastal, I was a binge drinker too.
I didn't feel any drive, or energy, or motivation in early sobriety.
Don't use motivation as measure of your sobriety success.
This motivation is quite a moody lady - sometimes shows up, sometimes not. But if you stick to your goal doesn't matter what, eventually she will become more easygoing.
Best wishes to you.
I didn't feel any drive, or energy, or motivation in early sobriety.
Don't use motivation as measure of your sobriety success.
This motivation is quite a moody lady - sometimes shows up, sometimes not. But if you stick to your goal doesn't matter what, eventually she will become more easygoing.
Best wishes to you.
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sva777 and MidnightBlue. . . as binge drinkers, did you use AA or did you find another method to help you abstain.
I notcied that their is an "open" AA meeting this evening in English where I live. . . I don't know if it's worthwhile going along or not. . .
I notcied that their is an "open" AA meeting this evening in English where I live. . . I don't know if it's worthwhile going along or not. . .
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sva777 and MidnightBlue. . . as binge drinkers, did you use AA or did you find another method to help you abstain? (If you don't mind me asking of course)
I noticed that there is an "open" AA meeting this evening in English where I live. . . I don't know if it's worthwhile going along or not. . .
I am so glad that other people have felt this way. :-)
I noticed that there is an "open" AA meeting this evening in English where I live. . . I don't know if it's worthwhile going along or not. . .
I am so glad that other people have felt this way. :-)
It is okay, no I have not gone to AA as of yet. I use this forum for support and I have a plan I wrote down, this has goals, reminders of how awful things were in case I have cravings and escape plans to utilize for bad situations.
I also have support from my family which is a big help. I plan on using AA as another tool when needed.
I also have support from my family which is a big help. I plan on using AA as another tool when needed.
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I must admit I don't feel the urge to go to AA yet wither. The problem for me is that my family are back home in Scotland.
I think I might use your idea to have "reminders" as to the negative effects/consequences.
Thanks
I think I might use your idea to have "reminders" as to the negative effects/consequences.
Thanks
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