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anyone have any issues with watching excessive amounts of pornography when they were drinking ? or feel the need to watch more porn than usual ?

The opposite for me. Drinking dulled my sex drive completely.

I had this issue, and even spent some real cash on those "cam girls". Immediate regret the following morning.

i never went that far as paying for cam girls because i dont trust my info to put over the net like that .i did entertain the idea of getting with and escort but i was so paranoid i didn't wind up going through it ;plus i dont believe in paying for sex.i just have had more of and urge to watch porn i dont even know why i watch it sometimes

I'm guilty. Especially coming off the drink.

This is a real issue that destroys lives & tears apart families like any other addiction. My ex-husband started with porn and (as with any addiction) it escalated. He could not stop and would not commit to recovery so our marriage ended.

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This is an interesting question that deserves thoughtful responses, which I hope it gets. More than just "Yeah, me too" or, "Nope, not me."

For some of us, the abuse of alcohol was one (major) part of distancing ourselves from human relationships that frightened us for one reason or another. I wonder if porn or anonymous sex represents a similar way of coping with fears of intimacy and problems with trust?

arieslee - if you feel it's become a problem perhaps visit one of the sites HeartsAfire mentioned.

If washing your rags and drying them helps then have at it. My clothes are a bit on the rag side.

What help do you need from here?

Here's a relevant article I found in Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...-does-intimacy

I struggle with my own baggage around a North American puritanical upbringing around sex, but while I was using and drinking and had impaired judgement and lowered inhibitions, porn got me into situations that now are almost unbearable for me to think about. I carry a lot of regrets, and as part of my sobriety as a married guy I do my best to abstain from porn. For me, porn was and is basically selfish and self-serving instant gratification that killed relationship intimacy and made me live in an unrealistic fantasy world of possibility.

Oh my.

I have been with a lover that I felt satisfied with. Emotionally. And the sex was natural. As my drinking went on. The drugs went on. Sex became the most un-natural thing there was. Yet still the focus.

Drugs.... Drinking... Porn... No difference. None. They all skew life.

That is AV talking.

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Good movie on netflix relative to this conversation: Don Jon (2013) - IMDb

Alcohol caused me to do many things to excess. I guess it comes down to removing the root cause, Alcohol that is and see if your other issues improve?

Had no sexual urge at all whilst I was drinking.

You know, I have the sense of humor of a 14 year old boy, but I know when to bring it out. There are a lot of sites where you can find the euphemisms that go along with masturbation and I don't think they need to be rehashed on SR.

I found that being open an honest with my current partner has been the best thing I could do for myself. I just had to give him a chance to be intimate with me instead of going outside of our relationship (yes, for me-porn is going outside the relationship-everyone has different views of this-now you know mine.)

This thread is closed because I don't have time to watch it closely right now.


9. If it shouldn't be viewed by minors, then it shouldn’t be posted to the forums or chat rooms. This is a public, family-friendly forum. In addition, if something would not be considered “work safe” (to a boss or co-worker), then it shouldn’t be posted.