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Originally Posted by MarathonMan 
I drank, she left....i hope this binge kills me, I dont deserve to live.
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Originally Posted by MarathonMan
Finally ready to give in, told my wife she's right to leave and im going to fulfill my very depressing destiny.
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You are in control right now. You're in the driver's seat. It is entirely up to you if you want to improve for the sake if your child and your wife, or wallow in despair, and we -all- know what leads down the latter road.
I hope you don't give up. You're stronger than you think.
I hope you don't give up. You're stronger than you think.
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She was absolutely right to stick to her boundaries. No child deserves to be raised in an alcoholic household.
She is right.
I would not trust someone who is inebriated and who cannot keep his promises around a baby either and neither would anyone with half a brain.
Now moving on and moving forward, stop wallowing in self pity.
You knew there would be consequences yet you drank anyway you pretty much made your bed.
The good news is that you can still chose to get sober. Dump the booze and make it day one if you want to have a relationship with your child.
I hope that by that you mean you give up the booze and are dumping it down the drain.
Right now, the person I feel sorry for is a young mom who had no choice but to protect her baby and is probably freaking out that the man she loves chose alcohol over his family and that she ll have to raise the child alone. So man it up, get sober so you can be part of your child's life and help raise him.
He deserves a sober dad.
You can do it. We are here for you but no one can help someone who is not willing to help himself.
She told me i cant see my baby, cant be trusted apparantly.
I would not trust someone who is inebriated and who cannot keep his promises around a baby either and neither would anyone with half a brain.
Now moving on and moving forward, stop wallowing in self pity.
You knew there would be consequences yet you drank anyway you pretty much made your bed.
The good news is that you can still chose to get sober. Dump the booze and make it day one if you want to have a relationship with your child.
I give up.
Right now, the person I feel sorry for is a young mom who had no choice but to protect her baby and is probably freaking out that the man she loves chose alcohol over his family and that she ll have to raise the child alone. So man it up, get sober so you can be part of your child's life and help raise him.
He deserves a sober dad.
You can do it. We are here for you but no one can help someone who is not willing to help himself.
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Originally Posted by MarathonMan
Thanks for the post but they left im in control of nothing. I give up and accept who and what I am....they are beautiful people and deserve son much better, I finally get it.
Are you going to keep choosing alcohol over your family, your obligations and your life or are you ready to step up to your responsibilities (you made that kid too!)
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Originally Posted by MarathonMan
I give up.
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Originally Posted by MarathonMan
Carlotta - the withdrawl was so hard, I really wanted it but i was shaking so bad and pretty sure I was seeing things. Been puking all day or dry heaving at best.
You run marathons so obviously you are not the kind of guy who would give up easily! If you don't give up on your long distance runs you have no reason to give up on yourself.
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MM, you wrote earlier that you ran a 2:34 marathon. That's a fantastic time and you know the time and hard work you put into to achieve a time I can only dream about. What's going on now is more important so at least put the same effort into helping yourself. And if not for you then for your child; your baby doesn't deserve an alcoholic or absentee father.
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I was thinking that you can still turn it into a taper. Don't let the misery and self pity your are feeling feed your freaking AV. There is no need for it to turn into a binge.
Very few people taper successfully but we have a couple of members here who have (the exception mind you not the rule). One I can think on the top of my head is Anattaboy. Maybe reach out to them??
Very few people taper successfully but we have a couple of members here who have (the exception mind you not the rule). One I can think on the top of my head is Anattaboy. Maybe reach out to them??
carlotta, you were the only one who cared
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Originally Posted by Carlotta
She was absolutely right to stick to her boundaries. No child deserves to be raised in an alcoholic household. She is right. I would not trust someone who is inebriated and who cannot keep his promises around a baby either and neither would anyone with half a brain. Now moving on and moving forward, stop wallowing in self pity. You knew there would be consequences yet you drank anyway you pretty much made your bed. The good news is that you can still chose to get sober. Dump the booze and make it day one if you want to have a relationship with your child. I hope that by that you mean you give up the booze and are dumping it down the drain. Right now, the person I feel sorry for is a young mom who had no choice but to protect her baby and is probably freaking out that the man she loves chose alcohol over his family and that she ll have to raise the child alone. So man it up, get sober so you can be part of your child's life and help raise him. He deserves a sober dad. You can do it. We are here for you but no one can help someone who is not willing to help himself.
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Originally Posted by MarathonMan
Carlotta - the withdrawl was so hard, I really wanted it but i was shaking so bad and pretty sure I was seeing things. Been puking all day or dry heaving at best.
Prayers.
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