My boyfriend has a gambling problem
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My boyfriend has a gambling problem
Hi, I'm new here. I don't know in which specific part of the forum should I post this.
I just found out today that my boyfriend has a gambling problem. I found out through his therapist as she was given the go signal by my boyfriend's parents to inform me of the situation. My boyfriend is now in a recovery program and I was informed I am not allowed to see him or talk to him for now. I am shocked about this, because I didn't know he has a problem.
I would like to know.. what is my role in his recovery? Should I leave him? In my heart, I want to support him in his recovery. But right now, I am confused as I am new to this. Help please?
I just found out today that my boyfriend has a gambling problem. I found out through his therapist as she was given the go signal by my boyfriend's parents to inform me of the situation. My boyfriend is now in a recovery program and I was informed I am not allowed to see him or talk to him for now. I am shocked about this, because I didn't know he has a problem.
I would like to know.. what is my role in his recovery? Should I leave him? In my heart, I want to support him in his recovery. But right now, I am confused as I am new to this. Help please?
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He has a gambling problem, and you're not allowed to see him because of it?
I think you might want to ask more questions before anything, because there's a chance you're getting lied to. If you're not allowed to see him, I'm guessing it's more than a gambling problem.
I think you might want to ask more questions before anything, because there's a chance you're getting lied to. If you're not allowed to see him, I'm guessing it's more than a gambling problem.
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Hi marie - welcome 
It's quite common for rehabs to be closed to loved ones, Troy.
You'll find lots of family and friends of addicts here in the forum, and the Friends and Family forums too
I don't think anyone here can really answer the question about you leaving him.
Do you want to?
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It's quite common for rehabs to be closed to loved ones, Troy.
You'll find lots of family and friends of addicts here in the forum, and the Friends and Family forums too
I don't think anyone here can really answer the question about you leaving him.
Do you want to?
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Thank you for your replies. I appreciate them.
I asked the therapist regarding my role in his recovery. And she told me I could be part of family meetings. That made me feel relieved.
She also told me that after a month into his program, he could start receiving letters and writing letters to people outside the facility.
As to your question Dee74, no I do not want to leave him.
How do loved ones cope when somebody they love has been admitted into a recovery program?
I asked the therapist regarding my role in his recovery. And she told me I could be part of family meetings. That made me feel relieved.
She also told me that after a month into his program, he could start receiving letters and writing letters to people outside the facility.
As to your question Dee74, no I do not want to leave him.
How do loved ones cope when somebody they love has been admitted into a recovery program?
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It must be rough for the people outside that's for sure, especially if there's no contact...but I guess you can console yourself a little with the thought he's safe and well and working on his problem?
Check out the Forums I mentioned before too - there'll be a lot of folks down there with direct experience to share
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com
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Check out the Forums I mentioned before too - there'll be a lot of folks down there with direct experience to share
The Alcoholism and Addictions Help Forums- by SoberRecovery.com
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We don't actually have a gambling forum here..but addiction is addiction, especially from a loved one's perspective.
Pick whichever forum you like the look of best.
You can keep posting here if you like as well - no worries
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Pick whichever forum you like the look of best.
You can keep posting here if you like as well - no worries
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