I messed up last night
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I messed up last night
Last night I was making banana pudding with bananas and vanilla wafers...Yum.. and my husband came home from work with a 12 pack!! He agreed before there would be no alcohol in the house on the weekdays. I was so mad. He said he had a bad day at work... He always has a bad day at work! All I could think about all evening was that beer! Well after he went to bed I quietly went to the refrigerator and took out the banana pudding and ate it ALL!! I didn't save him one bite. I was so full after eating all of it I didn't even think about drinking! I guess I have to run a few more miles on the treadmill this morning...lol.
Good morning Day 13!!!
Tina
Good morning Day 13!!!
Tina
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
Take care of you in your recovery
and marriage. All I could do was
accept my family members just
the way they are, even if I didn't
agree with them or their actions.
All I was and still am is responsible
for my own recovery, because no one
else will. I always felt like it was every
man or woman for themselves. So, I
armed myself with all my recovery
tools and knowledge to take care of
me in recovery and life to move forward
in a healthier, happier, honest way
of life one day at a time.
When I was at a good place in my life
and my marriage couldn't be saved
after doing all I was able to do, then
I moved on.
My recovery and sobriety is extremely
important to me and wont let anyone
mess with it.
Stay strong and be kind to yourself
because your worth it in recovery.
and marriage. All I could do was
accept my family members just
the way they are, even if I didn't
agree with them or their actions.
All I was and still am is responsible
for my own recovery, because no one
else will. I always felt like it was every
man or woman for themselves. So, I
armed myself with all my recovery
tools and knowledge to take care of
me in recovery and life to move forward
in a healthier, happier, honest way
of life one day at a time.
When I was at a good place in my life
and my marriage couldn't be saved
after doing all I was able to do, then
I moved on.
My recovery and sobriety is extremely
important to me and wont let anyone
mess with it.
Stay strong and be kind to yourself
because your worth it in recovery.
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Thread Starter
Join Date: Apr 2010
Posts: 26
Sharon:
Back in August I was so angry with my husband for everything. This was right after our 25 wedding anniversary I should have been so happy. But I was miserable....I was! I had to change my thinking, I had to change everything. That is so hard to do. But I realized it wasn't my husbands fault I was unhappy, it was MINE! I had to change for me! I was the only one that could make me happy. I could control that. That was the only thing I could control....ME! So the slow process started. It takes time and I still have a long way to go. Baby steps! But it is getting better everyday!
Tina
Back in August I was so angry with my husband for everything. This was right after our 25 wedding anniversary I should have been so happy. But I was miserable....I was! I had to change my thinking, I had to change everything. That is so hard to do. But I realized it wasn't my husbands fault I was unhappy, it was MINE! I had to change for me! I was the only one that could make me happy. I could control that. That was the only thing I could control....ME! So the slow process started. It takes time and I still have a long way to go. Baby steps! But it is getting better everyday!
Tina
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,238
Communication and understanding
was what was lacking in our marriage.
When one, which was me, living a
recovery life, the rest of the family
didn't understand.
I truly never wanted our long term
marriage to end and wanted to be the
couple that remained together thru
thick and thin.
However, I was the one who was restless,
irritable and discontent in our marriage
while the rest of the family continued on
in their own daily lives not skippin a beat.
It was very difficult for me to live within
a normal family who didn't have addiction
like I had. I was about 7 yrs within our
marriage when I entered recovery. From
that moment to 25 yrs marriage, I went
thru many changes within myself for
healthier ones. By then my kids were
grown and away in college which left
just my husband and I by ourselves
which I really thought we'd become
closer.
However, it never happened. Emotionally
I wanted him and he wanted to cling to
his family and our kids. Me I selfishly wanted
just him and I to enjoy a new stage in our
marriage.
It didn't happen and thus with the help
of living my recovery life I exited the marriage
mutually and we are both remarried. Me,
I am in a healthy, happy, honest marriage
as I continue on my recovery journey of a
lifetime.
As a note....we did seek marriage counciling
and he went to alanon all for a little while
but didn't help either of us. We did all we could
do to the best of our ability in that marriage
and it ended. Do the same for your marriage,
especially building a strong solid recovery
foundation to live ur life upon, seeking counciling
before taking a major step in ur marriage.
was what was lacking in our marriage.
When one, which was me, living a
recovery life, the rest of the family
didn't understand.
I truly never wanted our long term
marriage to end and wanted to be the
couple that remained together thru
thick and thin.
However, I was the one who was restless,
irritable and discontent in our marriage
while the rest of the family continued on
in their own daily lives not skippin a beat.
It was very difficult for me to live within
a normal family who didn't have addiction
like I had. I was about 7 yrs within our
marriage when I entered recovery. From
that moment to 25 yrs marriage, I went
thru many changes within myself for
healthier ones. By then my kids were
grown and away in college which left
just my husband and I by ourselves
which I really thought we'd become
closer.
However, it never happened. Emotionally
I wanted him and he wanted to cling to
his family and our kids. Me I selfishly wanted
just him and I to enjoy a new stage in our
marriage.
It didn't happen and thus with the help
of living my recovery life I exited the marriage
mutually and we are both remarried. Me,
I am in a healthy, happy, honest marriage
as I continue on my recovery journey of a
lifetime.
As a note....we did seek marriage counciling
and he went to alanon all for a little while
but didn't help either of us. We did all we could
do to the best of our ability in that marriage
and it ended. Do the same for your marriage,
especially building a strong solid recovery
foundation to live ur life upon, seeking counciling
before taking a major step in ur marriage.
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Now you're making me hungry for banana pudding. Good for you that you fought through it! You stayed strong. I quit while my husband was in full relapse mode. I know how tough it is but you did it. Day thirteen! Onwards and upwards.
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