BlindBfour

I made him leave. Our children come first yet his alcoholism has been running out lives. 4 jobs lost in 5 years. DUI's, courts, rehabs, the whole shebang. Almost 20 years with my husband, we had the perfect family, marriage. Pills first now vodka. Starts in the morning and well you all know.

He had to leave. He was determined to just lay there drunk. I took his keys and he said he was headed to the ER but instead went to the liquor store. Next day he he tried the same, that he was going for help. I said fine but you can't come home. He has been gone for days. Now I am sad and scared, he can't take care of himself so is he safe? I just want him safe but I do not know where he is, how he is. I need to learn to take care of me & the children first but when you have taken care of someone for years, it is hard to stop.

So I made him leave. I am scared and sad but I will be strong and the children and I will learn what a normal life is again. We had it a long time ago.

Stu Purple

I hope he finds help, but he has to want it. Plenty here have shown it's possible to build a new life without alcohol. You are absolutely right to put yourself and your kids first now. You'll find plenty of support and practical advice here so do keep posting.

AliWProk

I know it's hard. Please feel free to post in Friends & Family forums - you'll get more response there from people just like you!

PurpleKnight

Welcome to the Forum BlindBfour!! You'll find loads of support here on SR!!

Jillian2563

I know how you feel. But maybe he will come to the realization that he needs help. But maybe not. Prepare yourself for either scenario. I hope all goes well. Hang in there.

BlindBfour

Thanks all for the replies. By my research he in the late stages of alcoholism. It will take a miracle for him to get sober and stay sober. I truly appreciate you replies and I truly appreciate this site. I feel I will find some keys to healing here.

Ruby2

Hi BlindBFour, you are strong. You can do this. Chances are, your husband is just fine and is off feeling sorry for himself. My husband has done that before. Either on his own, or because I've kicked him out. He always manages to land on his feet. I know that doesn't make it any easier for you. It's hard as heck, really. But for your own sanity, take care of you and the kids right now.

If you have been through all that you listed, you've been pretty much been a single parent, holding it all together. That isn't easy. But you've done it. It's hard to make that mind shift but you can. Check out the family and friends forum section here for more specific support.

Right now it's probably a lot of fear for you at the decision. Hang in there!

Soberwolf

Welcome Blindbfour

Tamerua

Welcome Blind.

You did what had to be done, the kids need to be safe, they don't have a choice on how. your husband, however, does.

I know others mentioned, but there is a Friends and Family section here, those folks have a LOT of wisdom.

thomas11

Sorry to hear about your situation Blindbfour, as others have said, if he doesn't want it (sobriety), it's not going to happen. Hopefully he will want it, and soon.