Started drinking in middle age
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Started drinking in middle age
This is my very first post. I have never discussed my drinking with ANYONE else but my spouse before. This is hard to talk about; but you all know. I have been alcohol free for 3 weeks and 1 day. Alcohol became the buddy that always understood my sadness and regret over the estrangement of my son and his family and never judged me for 10 years......or so it seemed for most of that time. Lost pay to "being sick", arguments with my spouse
over and over again, being unavailable after hours to help family and friends when they needed me, weight gain, health issues....have to do something. I did not want to give up altogether; but virtually all my attempts of casual drinking were failures. I want to do this. I feel better; more alert, not reluctant to answer the phone in case someone heard the slur. Lying my way around things is the worst. Coming home from work my brain starts arguing with itself on the pros and cons of stopping at the liquor store for a bottle of wine.
How could I have been basically a non drinker for 47 years then end up here?
over and over again, being unavailable after hours to help family and friends when they needed me, weight gain, health issues....have to do something. I did not want to give up altogether; but virtually all my attempts of casual drinking were failures. I want to do this. I feel better; more alert, not reluctant to answer the phone in case someone heard the slur. Lying my way around things is the worst. Coming home from work my brain starts arguing with itself on the pros and cons of stopping at the liquor store for a bottle of wine.
How could I have been basically a non drinker for 47 years then end up here?
Last edited by veron1; 03-17-2015 at 07:23 PM. Reason: add another thought
Welcome Vernon. There are many of us here who didn't start until we were in our 30s and I would imagine some in their 40s. 10 years is exactly how long I made it from first blackout to can't do this anymore.
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This is my very first post. I have never discussed my drinking with ANYONE else but my spouse before. This is hard to talk about; but you all know. I have been alcohol free for 3 weeks and 1 day. Alcohol became the buddy that always understood my sadness and regret over the estrangement of my son and his family and never judged me for 10 years......or so it seemed for most of that time. Lost pay to "being sick", arguments with my husband over and over again, being unavailable after hours to help family and friends when they needed me, weight gain, health issues....have to do something. I did not want to give up altogether; but virtually all my attempts of casual drinking were failures. I want to do this. I feel better; more alert, not reluctant to answer the phone in case someone heard the slur. Lying my way around things is the worst. Coming home from work my brain starts arguing with itself on the pros and cons of stopping at the liquor store for a bottle of wine.
How could I have been basically a non drinker for 47 years then end up here?
How could I have been basically a non drinker for 47 years then end up here?
I don't have kids, I really wish I did - especially at 38 - but your comment about yours breaks my heart. Booze can really muddle our sense of reason. I really hope you're able to reconcile with him.
Hi Veron
I started in my twenties but you'll find others here who started later. Sadly alcoholism is no respecter of age.
What starts as a help or an aid ends up a prison....but we have the key
I'm glad you found us - congrats on 3 weeks plus
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I started in my twenties but you'll find others here who started later. Sadly alcoholism is no respecter of age.
What starts as a help or an aid ends up a prison....but we have the key
I'm glad you found us - congrats on 3 weeks plus
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Hi and congratulations with being able to see through the haze of alcohol.
Alcohol works in strange ways with different individuals. It can be a friend for years and accomplishes what we look for for years then suddenly can turn and become our worst enemy. Alcoholism is progressive meaning it never gets better than today if we continue its intake.
The fact is that alcohol is cunning, baffling, powerful and insidious.
For too many it’s a miserable way to live with ourselves and or others.
I approached AA many years ago and it has worked for me and millions to recover one day at a time in a row. It started when I kept hearing the words KEEP COMING IT WORKS IF WE WORK IT.
BE WELL
I was a non-drinker until my late forties, too. I had emotional issues and physical issues (low blood-sugar) which made very susceptible to alcohol, so when I began drinking, it was almost instant addiction.
You can stop drinking and change your life. We do understand how difficult this is.
You can stop drinking and change your life. We do understand how difficult this is.
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