Feeling Lost
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Feeling Lost
Hi,
I am on this site because I need help supporting my recovering alcoholic boyfriend. I need help understanding what its like for a someone who has been drinking for so long to give up alcohol. Since he quit drinking, he has completely abandoned me. We live in the same house, but he barely talks to me. He is distant and I have no clue how to reach him. Hes no longer affectionate, has no libido and just seems miserable. He quit January 3, 2015. Any advice please.
I am on this site because I need help supporting my recovering alcoholic boyfriend. I need help understanding what its like for a someone who has been drinking for so long to give up alcohol. Since he quit drinking, he has completely abandoned me. We live in the same house, but he barely talks to me. He is distant and I have no clue how to reach him. Hes no longer affectionate, has no libido and just seems miserable. He quit January 3, 2015. Any advice please.
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So sorry for what brings you here.
I'm not sure what you hope to accomplish with your support, what help you hope to provide. Break him out of his funk? He sounds unhappy in sobriety and that's on him. A program of recovery might be able to help him adjust to sober living, but it's quite beyond the loved one's abilities.
We have an active friends and family forum. You should seek support for the one person you can help...yourself.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/
I'm not sure what you hope to accomplish with your support, what help you hope to provide. Break him out of his funk? He sounds unhappy in sobriety and that's on him. A program of recovery might be able to help him adjust to sober living, but it's quite beyond the loved one's abilities.
We have an active friends and family forum. You should seek support for the one person you can help...yourself.
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ly-alcoholics/
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Hi Tanya and welcome. I am replying to this because my experience in periods of sobriety in the past has been an unhappy one at times. I am pretty sure that part of the reason alcohol appealed so much was that it masked an underlying depression which emerges after a while when sober. My response has alwatys been to return to drinking. Also, with support and some sort of recovery program it is easy to fall into the trap of believing you are depriving yourself of this a wonderful thing - king alcohol. Whereas what one is really doing is doing is throwing off shackles.
In my case I have arranged for counselling in the hope of working through some of that underlying stuff. Other people 'work the program' in AA and use other methods.
Perhaps your boyfriend needs some support of that nature?
In my case I have arranged for counselling in the hope of working through some of that underlying stuff. Other people 'work the program' in AA and use other methods.
Perhaps your boyfriend needs some support of that nature?
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Hi everyone,
I just wanted to thank you for your support and i hope that my significant other will be feeling better soon. I went to see a Naturopath today to talk to them about my Bs situation. She has experience with helping alcoholics get through their transition into sobriety. Just for everyone's info, I thought I would share this. She feels that part of his problem is that his liver is in the process of detoxing and its causing all kinds of bad side effects. One of them being mainly insomnia. Lack of sleep can cause depression and shes right. He doesn't sleep more than 3 or 4 hours every night since he quit. She says a healthy liver is the answer to both emotional and physical health. So, she has put him on a regimen of supplements (natural) to help him get some sleep and detoxify his liver. She has told me that I should be seeing a change in him within the next three weeks. So, I guess we will have to see what happens. Im going to keep my fingers crossed.
I just wanted to thank you for your support and i hope that my significant other will be feeling better soon. I went to see a Naturopath today to talk to them about my Bs situation. She has experience with helping alcoholics get through their transition into sobriety. Just for everyone's info, I thought I would share this. She feels that part of his problem is that his liver is in the process of detoxing and its causing all kinds of bad side effects. One of them being mainly insomnia. Lack of sleep can cause depression and shes right. He doesn't sleep more than 3 or 4 hours every night since he quit. She says a healthy liver is the answer to both emotional and physical health. So, she has put him on a regimen of supplements (natural) to help him get some sleep and detoxify his liver. She has told me that I should be seeing a change in him within the next three weeks. So, I guess we will have to see what happens. Im going to keep my fingers crossed.
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