dealing with doubters
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dealing with doubters
Told a few people I'm quitting drinking. Responses varied from my sister saying good for you and offering help, to friends saying I don't t really have a problem. I know I'm not the worst alcoholic who ever drank. How do I explain to people that not everyone who needs to quit is homeless or leaving last Vegas style drinker
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you don't need to explain anything to anyone. Spend your energies on your sobriety and doing whatever you need to do to stay sober. People will see in time that you are staying sober. Words mean very little, action counts
Your actions will speak for themselves. There will always be those who doubt or judge us in all areas of our life, but as long as you know the truth things will be just fine. And over time, your sobriery will change others perception of you to one of responsibility and trust.
I'm in the same boat with my brother. He always tells me that I'm not as bad as I think and that real alcoholics have it much worse. then I end up drinking with him. we'll usually have a fun night, which validates everything he says BUT I know from experiance that one of those nights always has and always will go too far and I'll end up embarrassing myself or putting my life at risk. It's like playing Russian roulette!
I wish you so much strength and luck. I'm in the struggle with you.
I wish you so much strength and luck. I'm in the struggle with you.
Your actions will speak for themselves. There will always be those who doubt or judge us in all areas of our life, but as long as you know the truth things will be just fine. And over time, your sobriery will change others perception of you to one of responsibility and trust.
This is good advice and applies to more than just sobriety. There will always be another human on this planet who will criticize your actions, even ones you think are purely good.
I had a female friend get a job promotion recently and she found out her peers were all saying behind her back that the only reason she got it was due to her being the only woman on the team. I told her the more good you think you're doing in this world, the more critics you'll find talking behind your back. It's just the nature of us flawed humans.
I know I needed ALL my energy to focus on me and my recovery. Allow other people to think what they want, as long as you know you are doing the right thing.
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Told a few people I'm quitting drinking. Responses varied from my sister saying good for you and offering help, to friends saying I don't t really have a problem. I know I'm not the worst alcoholic who ever drank. How do I explain to people that not everyone who needs to quit is homeless or leaving last Vegas style drinker
I've told other friends that I'm on a health kick (true) to little or no reaction apart from a "good for you dear."
I've crossed a few of the old party people off the list and phone blocked one or two who just call when they need a drinking buddy. Got a few angry reactions there but nothing that's real to me or even about me.
In summary: I don't explain and I sure don't apologize for being sober.
Learning about addiction and its affects
on us and others around us is very important.
Addiction affects each of us mentally, physically,
emotionally as well as spiritually in different ways.
After I was educated in rehab and following
a program of recovery in my everyday life,
then I was able to understand that only I
am responsible for my own recovery.
I also learned that I cant control people,
places and things in my life that don't
understand addiction and its affects on
me. I should know because I tried like
heck to make my family understand that
because I am sober and that I have
been sober for 24 yrs. doesn't mean
im cured of this disease.
Addiction to me is a disease, similar to other
diseases out there in the world affecting all
walks of like, but can be controlled with a program
of recovery or if other diseases with proper meds
that are not narcotic or habit forming.
My family believes that I no longer should
use AA or need AA as a crutch to remain sober.
As much as I tried to explain addiction to them,
they will never truly understand what it is to
not be able to drink successfully like they can
because they have no problems with addiction
like I had.
I got sick and tired of trying to explain my
recovery to them and how important it is
to incorporate my AA program of recovery
in all my affairs that I had to ACCEPT them
just the way they are. ACCEPTACE is the key.
Today, I am still responsible in recovery
and don't let others ruffle my feathers. As
long as I continue to incorperate my recovery
tools in all areas of my life then im a happy,
healthy, honest camper I can possibly be.
on us and others around us is very important.
Addiction affects each of us mentally, physically,
emotionally as well as spiritually in different ways.
After I was educated in rehab and following
a program of recovery in my everyday life,
then I was able to understand that only I
am responsible for my own recovery.
I also learned that I cant control people,
places and things in my life that don't
understand addiction and its affects on
me. I should know because I tried like
heck to make my family understand that
because I am sober and that I have
been sober for 24 yrs. doesn't mean
im cured of this disease.
Addiction to me is a disease, similar to other
diseases out there in the world affecting all
walks of like, but can be controlled with a program
of recovery or if other diseases with proper meds
that are not narcotic or habit forming.
My family believes that I no longer should
use AA or need AA as a crutch to remain sober.
As much as I tried to explain addiction to them,
they will never truly understand what it is to
not be able to drink successfully like they can
because they have no problems with addiction
like I had.
I got sick and tired of trying to explain my
recovery to them and how important it is
to incorporate my AA program of recovery
in all my affairs that I had to ACCEPT them
just the way they are. ACCEPTACE is the key.
Today, I am still responsible in recovery
and don't let others ruffle my feathers. As
long as I continue to incorperate my recovery
tools in all areas of my life then im a happy,
healthy, honest camper I can possibly be.
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