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New Life Sober
Join Date: Feb 2015
Location: Noblesville, IN
Posts: 777
Welcome Crawler to SR, lot of good people here and support. I hope to see you around and remember take one day at a time.. Tell yourself, or write it down that you will not drink today!!
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,859
Welcome, crawler, to SR; glad you found us.
There is a lot of great information on this site about alcoholism and addiction; have a look around.
Joining a Class can be a great to get your SR feet wet. I will send you a link to the Class of March.
There is also the 24 Hour Recovery thread where some of us come each day to commit to 24 hours of sobriety. I will send you that link, too.
There is a lot of great information on this site about alcoholism and addiction; have a look around.
Joining a Class can be a great to get your SR feet wet. I will send you a link to the Class of March.
There is also the 24 Hour Recovery thread where some of us come each day to commit to 24 hours of sobriety. I will send you that link, too.
Member
Join Date: Jul 2014
Location: Southbridge, MA
Posts: 58
Maybe advice.
I don't know that I'm qualified to give any advice as I've only been sober for...63 days, but I've found time management to be a helpful technique (basically just making to-do lists every day so that I always have something to do instead of drinking).
Also, coming here as often as you can might be helpful, even if you just read.
Also, coming here as often as you can might be helpful, even if you just read.
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,859
Member
Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: Gatineau, QC, CA
Posts: 5,100
Welcome to the family!
One tip is to make sure to remember how bad a hangover feels like. It's easy after a few days/weeks when you feel amazing to have the idea that a few drinks would be fine.
I did it too often to count, always ended up in the same bad spot.
Best of luck
One tip is to make sure to remember how bad a hangover feels like. It's easy after a few days/weeks when you feel amazing to have the idea that a few drinks would be fine.
I did it too often to count, always ended up in the same bad spot.
Best of luck
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Join Date: Apr 2014
Location: UK
Posts: 6,902
I would say, get all the support that you can.
My first month to 6 weeks (can't quite remember) I 'managed' alone. What I didn't realise at the time was that not picking up a drink isn't the same as learning to Live Sober.
It was a huge relief to me when I finally got the courage to walk into my first AA meeting. And even more of a relief when, months later, I realised that the program only works properly if you actually work at it with a sponsor. My partner is also supportive, but alcoholism is a kind of insanity that the afflicted understand best.
Try to avoid Hunger; Anger; Loneliness and getting excessively Tired (HALT) as these things can all weaken your resolve. Lots of people take in more sugar to get them through the cravings. (Although personally, I found the excessive fructose really didn't help me moderate my emotions, which is difficult enough in recovery, so I stick to just dextrose / glucose now and have a very low fructose diet).
In the meantime, there are some really good books that helped me in the beginning (and that I still look at now)...
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Monkey-my-sh.../dp/B004HW7MVW
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Living-Sober...lics+anonymous
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Alcoholics-A...BKH3ZRG9C7HYMP
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Alcoholics-4...lics+anonymous
My first month to 6 weeks (can't quite remember) I 'managed' alone. What I didn't realise at the time was that not picking up a drink isn't the same as learning to Live Sober.
It was a huge relief to me when I finally got the courage to walk into my first AA meeting. And even more of a relief when, months later, I realised that the program only works properly if you actually work at it with a sponsor. My partner is also supportive, but alcoholism is a kind of insanity that the afflicted understand best.
Try to avoid Hunger; Anger; Loneliness and getting excessively Tired (HALT) as these things can all weaken your resolve. Lots of people take in more sugar to get them through the cravings. (Although personally, I found the excessive fructose really didn't help me moderate my emotions, which is difficult enough in recovery, so I stick to just dextrose / glucose now and have a very low fructose diet).
In the meantime, there are some really good books that helped me in the beginning (and that I still look at now)...
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Monkey-my-sh.../dp/B004HW7MVW
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Living-Sober...lics+anonymous
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Alcoholics-A...BKH3ZRG9C7HYMP
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Alcoholics-4...lics+anonymous
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Join Date: Mar 2015
Posts: 23
Thanks for the welcome. I did two months no drinking and celebrated by going to hotel with family and having a few beers while there. I should have known better. Had a few rough weeks topped with last nights stupidity. I'm ready to quit for good I'm done hating myself every morning and want to be a better father and husband
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