Think I might hang out with you guys tonight if that's ok?
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Originally Posted by soberwolf 
Hi Jeni hanging out here is good
I have a no alcohol rule in my home and mrs sw gave up alcohol (as she isnt alcoholic) i never asked this of her she just knew and understood what was happening with me
I grew up with my late mother in sobriety and my father drank in the kitchen with my mum in the living room sober
i hated him for that and there was fights & arguments over it
Today in my home there is a no alcohol rule in my home if ppl want to drink there is so many places to do it
Sorry Jeni i feel strongly on this because i hear it a lot and 5000% sympathise with you
if you want to talk you can send a pm whenever you want
I have a no alcohol rule in my home and mrs sw gave up alcohol (as she isnt alcoholic) i never asked this of her she just knew and understood what was happening with me
I grew up with my late mother in sobriety and my father drank in the kitchen with my mum in the living room sober
i hated him for that and there was fights & arguments over it
Today in my home there is a no alcohol rule in my home if ppl want to drink there is so many places to do it
Sorry Jeni i feel strongly on this because i hear it a lot and 5000% sympathise with you
if you want to talk you can send a pm whenever you want
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Hi Jeni ,
mum is drinking here too …
Mex-m8 went out last weekend as his friend from Australia was over … I just told him seeing him the next day that the hangover made him look tired, old and wrinkly .. he huffed and puffed at that, said he wasn't going to do it again …
It's only the second time i've known him do it, so it's cool .
Bestwishes, m
mum is drinking here too …
Mex-m8 went out last weekend as his friend from Australia was over … I just told him seeing him the next day that the hangover made him look tired, old and wrinkly .. he huffed and puffed at that, said he wasn't going to do it again …
It's only the second time i've known him do it, so it's cool .
Bestwishes, m
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Originally Posted by Jeni26
Hmmm...I'm thinking your home made sweets might be sugar free??
I bet if you try it, you'll ask to bring them again)
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Originally Posted by mecanix
Hi Jeni ,
Mex-m8 went out last weekend as his friend from Australia was over … I just told him seeing him the next day that the hangover made him look tired, old and wrinkly .. he huffed and puffed at that, said he wasn't going to do it again … :
Bestwishes, m
Mex-m8 went out last weekend as his friend from Australia was over … I just told him seeing him the next day that the hangover made him look tired, old and wrinkly .. he huffed and puffed at that, said he wasn't going to do it again … :
Bestwishes, m
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Hi Jeni
Your husband sounds like me a few years ago. Don't beat yourself up thinking you "manipulated" your partner, he's over 18 and was probably looking for an excuse to drink. Men are easily lead
I've just finished helping to pack up my youngest daughter's market stall in Camden. It's astonishing what crap tourists will buy.
I used to exist / survive as a drunk, nothing else,but as a sober person I'm rediscovering what a great place London is.
No Hip Hop then if you all insist, but I'm putting on some dubstep....
Your husband sounds like me a few years ago. Don't beat yourself up thinking you "manipulated" your partner, he's over 18 and was probably looking for an excuse to drink. Men are easily lead
I've just finished helping to pack up my youngest daughter's market stall in Camden. It's astonishing what crap tourists will buy.
I used to exist / survive as a drunk, nothing else,but as a sober person I'm rediscovering what a great place London is.
No Hip Hop then if you all insist, but I'm putting on some dubstep....
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Hey Jeni, You are doing awesome being very strong and not drinking with them.
Here at our house there isn't no alcohol in the house. I actually prefer that. But when I did drink, I would drink it all before my hubby would get home. It worked for a while until that day.
Here at our house there isn't no alcohol in the house. I actually prefer that. But when I did drink, I would drink it all before my hubby would get home. It worked for a while until that day.
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Hello Jeni, there's a movie called Smashed, its about a young couple of alcoholics, I remembered it when reading your story, its a fun but serious film about the issues that arise when one of them decides to stop. Very entertaining
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I'm good thanks MB. Wide awake and ready to face the day. It's Mothers Day here in the UK, so I'm off to see my Mum and cook her some lunch.
Thanks for your support last night my friends. It could so easily have been a different story today.
Jen x
Thanks for your support last night my friends. It could so easily have been a different story today.
Jen x
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Jeni it sounds like quite the SR hanging together party! I wish I could have joined you but it was 5am when you started. 
Jeni you've raised this before. None of us is responsible for another person's drinking unless we are holding them down and pouring it down their throats. You did not manipulate him into drinking, you may have coaxed him but he makes his own decisions.
I hope you are having a good day at your Mum's for Mothering Sunday.
Originally Posted by Jeni26
We were sober for 2 yrs 7 months together. I manipulated him into drinking again because I wanted to and he followed me. Now I've decided to stop and he hasn't.
All my fault I'm afraid.
All my fault I'm afraid.
I hope you are having a good day at your Mum's for Mothering Sunday.
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