The other shoe drops.
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Originally Posted by EndGameNYC 
About her neglecting her physical and mental health, I can only wonder that this is part of the way she functions in the best possible way for her. It's a huge blind spot that I believe many people who approach life in the way that she does suffer from.
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Hi, EndGame,
Thank you for the updates. I join the many who are keeping you and your family in my thoughts and hoping for the very best possible outcome. The days ahead are likely to present ups and downs -- take good care of yourself.
From the Department of Unsolicited Advice: I think you're being a good brother when you contemplate moving in with your sister. Perhaps it's possible to keep your own residence intact, too. If -- and only if -- she is in for a rough time, you'll need to practice self-care, too.
Of course, nothing has to be decided right now. Give yourself time to think things over further as more information becomes available to all of you.
I've spent a lot of time on hospital duty with my mother. It's draining. Do some nice things for you over the next few days. Even breaks from work/hospital/family with a nice cup of coffee and the NYT will feel like a much-needed respite.
All the best.
Thank you for the updates. I join the many who are keeping you and your family in my thoughts and hoping for the very best possible outcome. The days ahead are likely to present ups and downs -- take good care of yourself.
From the Department of Unsolicited Advice: I think you're being a good brother when you contemplate moving in with your sister. Perhaps it's possible to keep your own residence intact, too. If -- and only if -- she is in for a rough time, you'll need to practice self-care, too.
Of course, nothing has to be decided right now. Give yourself time to think things over further as more information becomes available to all of you.
I've spent a lot of time on hospital duty with my mother. It's draining. Do some nice things for you over the next few days. Even breaks from work/hospital/family with a nice cup of coffee and the NYT will feel like a much-needed respite.
All the best.
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Update
My sister is doing fine and is in good spirits.
After her surgery, there was a group of visitors speaking loudly outside her room. It made the pounding in her head worse, and she screamed out, "Will you shut the **** up?! I just had brain surgery!" I told her that it was good that she could practice her social skills while in the hospital.
I asked what she's been feeling about all this, and observed to her that she seemed to be more relaxed than I've every known her to be. She said that she was blocking it all out, right up until her surgery. Now it seems that the painkillers and sedatives are muting some of her feelings about where she is with all this at the moment.
Don't know anything more about the nature of her tumor, and they're running some more tests today.
I'm truly blessed with a loving and supportive family. Including my in-laws, nieces and nephews. When I read about all the abuse, aggression, unrealistic expectations (demands), neglect, criticism, manipulation and control that so many people here suffer at the hands of family members, I am in awe at their exceptional capacity for compassion for other people.
After her surgery, there was a group of visitors speaking loudly outside her room. It made the pounding in her head worse, and she screamed out, "Will you shut the **** up?! I just had brain surgery!" I told her that it was good that she could practice her social skills while in the hospital.
I asked what she's been feeling about all this, and observed to her that she seemed to be more relaxed than I've every known her to be. She said that she was blocking it all out, right up until her surgery. Now it seems that the painkillers and sedatives are muting some of her feelings about where she is with all this at the moment.
Don't know anything more about the nature of her tumor, and they're running some more tests today.
I'm truly blessed with a loving and supportive family. Including my in-laws, nieces and nephews. When I read about all the abuse, aggression, unrealistic expectations (demands), neglect, criticism, manipulation and control that so many people here suffer at the hands of family members, I am in awe at their exceptional capacity for compassion for other people.
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After her surgery, there was a group of visitors speaking loudly outside her room. It made the pounding in her head worse, and she screamed out, "Will you shut the **** up?! I just had brain surgery!" I told her that it was good that she could practice her social skills while in the hospital.
it must have felt really good to see she was getting her spunk back (well she probably never lost it) or at least the strength to yell at some idiots who deserved it.
I am glad you two have a tight knit family and a good support system.
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Originally Posted by EndGameNYC
she screamed out, "Will you shut the **** up?! I just had brain surgery!" I told her that it was good that she could practice her social skills while in the hospital.
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Update
My sister's coming home today, so I'm cleaning her house from top to bottom.
She looks and sounds good, but she hasn't yet given me any new information about her condition. We'll talk about that later.
She looks and sounds good, but she hasn't yet given me any new information about her condition. We'll talk about that later.
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I'm glad she's on her way home soon and you are there for her.
Both of you are quite lucky to have each other and your extended family.
I do appreciate the updates EG as I have grown very fond of your wise and generous spirit, and now that of your sister, in a short time in the virtual world.
Hugs and healing to each of you
Both of you are quite lucky to have each other and your extended family.
I do appreciate the updates EG as I have grown very fond of your wise and generous spirit, and now that of your sister, in a short time in the virtual world.
Hugs and healing to each of you
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