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Old 03-04-2015, 04:48 PM
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So sorry to read this. Sending you strength and wishing for the very best outcome.
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Old 03-04-2015, 04:55 PM
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About her neglecting her physical and mental health, I can only wonder that this is part of the way she functions in the best possible way for her. It's a huge blind spot that I believe many people who approach life in the way that she does suffer from.
Yes. I don't think it's the "best possible way" though. It's the easiest, most natural, most obvious way. Instinctual also. It often works well, until it does not. Not the best.
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Old 03-04-2015, 04:58 PM
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agree. I hope your sister fully recovers and heals 100%
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Old 03-04-2015, 05:23 PM
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Hi, EndGame,

Thank you for the updates. I join the many who are keeping you and your family in my thoughts and hoping for the very best possible outcome. The days ahead are likely to present ups and downs -- take good care of yourself.

From the Department of Unsolicited Advice: I think you're being a good brother when you contemplate moving in with your sister. Perhaps it's possible to keep your own residence intact, too. If -- and only if -- she is in for a rough time, you'll need to practice self-care, too.

Of course, nothing has to be decided right now. Give yourself time to think things over further as more information becomes available to all of you.

I've spent a lot of time on hospital duty with my mother. It's draining. Do some nice things for you over the next few days. Even breaks from work/hospital/family with a nice cup of coffee and the NYT will feel like a much-needed respite.

All the best.
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Old 03-04-2015, 05:38 PM
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EndGame, I'm so sorry to have missed this thread yesterday. You have my fullest sympathy. If words could help, I'd write more, but instead I'll just send virtual hugs.
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Old 03-04-2015, 06:35 PM
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This is heavy stuff on so many levels....

May you, your sister, your family all find comfort together in this difficulty....

I'll keep you in my prayers and send intentions of peace and wellness in your direction.
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Old 03-04-2015, 07:56 PM
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Thinking of you and sending support. She is lucky to have you in her life.
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Old 03-04-2015, 08:11 PM
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Thank you for the update. May the universe cradle Mary-Ann in its arms.
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Old 03-05-2015, 12:47 PM
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Update

My sister is doing fine and is in good spirits.

After her surgery, there was a group of visitors speaking loudly outside her room. It made the pounding in her head worse, and she screamed out, "Will you shut the **** up?! I just had brain surgery!" I told her that it was good that she could practice her social skills while in the hospital.

I asked what she's been feeling about all this, and observed to her that she seemed to be more relaxed than I've every known her to be. She said that she was blocking it all out, right up until her surgery. Now it seems that the painkillers and sedatives are muting some of her feelings about where she is with all this at the moment.

Don't know anything more about the nature of her tumor, and they're running some more tests today.

I'm truly blessed with a loving and supportive family. Including my in-laws, nieces and nephews. When I read about all the abuse, aggression, unrealistic expectations (demands), neglect, criticism, manipulation and control that so many people here suffer at the hands of family members, I am in awe at their exceptional capacity for compassion for other people.
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Old 03-05-2015, 12:54 PM
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Glad your sister is doing fine and in good spirits.
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Old 03-05-2015, 01:20 PM
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After her surgery, there was a group of visitors speaking loudly outside her room. It made the pounding in her head worse, and she screamed out, "Will you shut the **** up?! I just had brain surgery!" I told her that it was good that she could practice her social skills while in the hospital.
I really like you sister, my kind of gal
it must have felt really good to see she was getting her spunk back (well she probably never lost it) or at least the strength to yell at some idiots who deserved it.
I am glad you two have a tight knit family and a good support system.
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Old 03-06-2015, 02:35 PM
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she screamed out, "Will you shut the **** up?! I just had brain surgery!" I told her that it was good that she could practice her social skills while in the hospital.
Love this! I hope the news on the tumor is good.
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Old 03-07-2015, 09:55 AM
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Update

My sister's coming home today, so I'm cleaning her house from top to bottom.

She looks and sounds good, but she hasn't yet given me any new information about her condition. We'll talk about that later.
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Sending positive thoughts your way.
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You are a very good brother, EndGame.

I hope that the news is good.
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Still thinking of you all. Best wishes for a positive outcome.
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Wonderful. I imagine you two will have lots of meaningful conversations in the near future. I hope for the best possible news for both of you.
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Sending positive vibes your way.
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Old 03-07-2015, 10:50 AM
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I'm glad she's on her way home soon and you are there for her.

Both of you are quite lucky to have each other and your extended family.

I do appreciate the updates EG as I have grown very fond of your wise and generous spirit, and now that of your sister, in a short time in the virtual world.

Hugs and healing to each of you
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I hope she won't berate you you for cleaning her house! Good news on her recovery
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