Not sure if I should be here
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Not sure if I should be here
So I am not 100% sure if I should be here because I do not know if I am classed as an addict or just an idiot but here is my story and my plan.
I am in my twenties and when drink turn to drugs usually or lose control. I drink during the week occasionally usually four beers every couple of days but sometimes more. It is the weekend that is my main problem I cant control myself I finished work on Friday lunch time and went to the pub for a few drinks which ended up with us in town then back to my house where we started on the cocaine next thing I know it is Saturday 11pm we had not slept at all doing coke non stop. Unfortunately this happens regularly, if I don't turn to drugs I end up drinking til I either pass out or the party ends I just have no self control.
I have decided to stop drinking for fifty days until May 2nd as I have a night booked and paid for to watch the Mayweather vs Pacquiao fight which I know will involve alcohol. I make a **** of myself when I get on it doing and saying stupid things which has made me known to all my friends as an idiot who always does moronic things.
It will be hard as it is my birthday April and also all my friends drink heavily and are heavy coke/MDMA users and I start a new job in two weeks and I know there will be a lot of social events. I am starting with 50 days and then will drink after that see if I can have more control, I have done 30 days a year ago though and still cant control myself when I have alcohol.
I hope this is ok and will use this thread to keep people posted unless this should be posted somewhere else and if someone could let me know
I am in my twenties and when drink turn to drugs usually or lose control. I drink during the week occasionally usually four beers every couple of days but sometimes more. It is the weekend that is my main problem I cant control myself I finished work on Friday lunch time and went to the pub for a few drinks which ended up with us in town then back to my house where we started on the cocaine next thing I know it is Saturday 11pm we had not slept at all doing coke non stop. Unfortunately this happens regularly, if I don't turn to drugs I end up drinking til I either pass out or the party ends I just have no self control.
I have decided to stop drinking for fifty days until May 2nd as I have a night booked and paid for to watch the Mayweather vs Pacquiao fight which I know will involve alcohol. I make a **** of myself when I get on it doing and saying stupid things which has made me known to all my friends as an idiot who always does moronic things.
It will be hard as it is my birthday April and also all my friends drink heavily and are heavy coke/MDMA users and I start a new job in two weeks and I know there will be a lot of social events. I am starting with 50 days and then will drink after that see if I can have more control, I have done 30 days a year ago though and still cant control myself when I have alcohol.
I hope this is ok and will use this thread to keep people posted unless this should be posted somewhere else and if someone could let me know
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We cater for both alcoholics and idiots here, lol - I fit both categories
Seriously tho sounds like you have a lot of really pressing reasons not to drink, cohiba.
I'm not wishing ill on you at all, but whats the plan if you don't make the 50 days?
And why would you open the door to the mayhem again 50 days from now?
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Seriously tho sounds like you have a lot of really pressing reasons not to drink, cohiba.
I'm not wishing ill on you at all, but whats the plan if you don't make the 50 days?
And why would you open the door to the mayhem again 50 days from now?
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Hey Dee74 thank you for the reply. I do have some pressing reasons I do enjoy a drink but just wish I could stop like when everyone else does and not waffle so much crap.
I am very committed and managed 30 days before I think the new job as well should be able to help me focus on that it's just the social side of things there I am unsure what it will be like. I enjoy social drinking and I such a big party of my social life is involved with alcohol, I am going to do 50 days but stay around on here and try to limit it to only special occasions and not every weekend.
I am very committed and managed 30 days before I think the new job as well should be able to help me focus on that it's just the social side of things there I am unsure what it will be like. I enjoy social drinking and I such a big party of my social life is involved with alcohol, I am going to do 50 days but stay around on here and try to limit it to only special occasions and not every weekend.
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I tried that but could never manage it. Eventually I had to face the fact that alcohol and I had a toxic relationship and that no time off from drinking would change that.
I didn't want to change my life either but I'm so glad I did.
I sincerely hope you have better luck...if not, you've found a great place to be here
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I didn't want to change my life either but I'm so glad I did.
I sincerely hope you have better luck...if not, you've found a great place to be here
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When I got serious about quitting, like really serious, I started with a 30 day challenge. I think that's a good start. I think you need to ask yourself though, " if my social life makes me feel bad is it the right type of social life for me"? Once I answered that question honestly and let me be me, I changed and really didn't want to drink or drug anymore. Good luck on your 50 days!
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Welcome to SR Cohiba:
I am new to sobriety but not to drinking. I was a binge drinker in my 20s and couldn't imagine not drinking at a party. I had loads of fun but also loads of hangovers. Fastforward - I am now in my mid-50s and throughout all those years I tried on and off to moderate but it never worked and binging turned into daily drinking.
I have had stints of sobriety, and then would start out with only having a drink at a party, or maybe just one drink at dinner, blah, blah, blah. It would quickly escalate. We alcoholics cannot moderate - we don't want just one, we want loads and we want to be drunk.
There is a series of Youtube videos about drinking habits of the youth in Britian that perhaps you might like to watch, while you are sober. It's very enlightening. I just can't think of the name of it right now.
Read the excerpts from "Under the Influence" found in the alcoholism section of this forum. It details what alcohol does to the brain and perhaps give you insight into what is happening to you and why.
I wish I had of thought I had a problem in my 20s and saved myself a lot of grief.
All the best to you,
Calicofish
I am new to sobriety but not to drinking. I was a binge drinker in my 20s and couldn't imagine not drinking at a party. I had loads of fun but also loads of hangovers. Fastforward - I am now in my mid-50s and throughout all those years I tried on and off to moderate but it never worked and binging turned into daily drinking.
I have had stints of sobriety, and then would start out with only having a drink at a party, or maybe just one drink at dinner, blah, blah, blah. It would quickly escalate. We alcoholics cannot moderate - we don't want just one, we want loads and we want to be drunk.
There is a series of Youtube videos about drinking habits of the youth in Britian that perhaps you might like to watch, while you are sober. It's very enlightening. I just can't think of the name of it right now.
Read the excerpts from "Under the Influence" found in the alcoholism section of this forum. It details what alcohol does to the brain and perhaps give you insight into what is happening to you and why.
I wish I had of thought I had a problem in my 20s and saved myself a lot of grief.
All the best to you,
Calicofish
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Thanks I am going to give it the fifty and see how it goes is this the place to post updates on how I am going to speak to people about the journey?
Also does anyone in recovery drink non alcoholic beer? or is that just a slippery sloop to alcohol? I don't even know if pubs sell non alcoholic beer?
Also does anyone in recovery drink non alcoholic beer? or is that just a slippery sloop to alcohol? I don't even know if pubs sell non alcoholic beer?
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@cardoon thanks I know that is the annoying thing my social life makes me feel terrible but there are certain occasions I would love to drink such as this summer I am going to the races and know it is a fun day out with alcohol involved need to see how it goes.
@Calicofish thank you for the advice any chance you have a link to the youtube video just tried looking cant work out which one it would be think it would be helpful. I have read that article already and it was very useful I think the biggest problem is that most the social things that happen involve alcohol and drugs think it is due to my age (23) I dont know a single person my age that does not drink.
@Calicofish thank you for the advice any chance you have a link to the youtube video just tried looking cant work out which one it would be think it would be helpful. I have read that article already and it was very useful I think the biggest problem is that most the social things that happen involve alcohol and drugs think it is due to my age (23) I dont know a single person my age that does not drink.
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Welcome mate! I'm in my twenties too and have decided that I definatly shouldn't ever drink alcohol. The age thing can be a bit of a nuiscance but think of it like this, you've caught this problem before it gets any worse. Obviously it's always your choice but I want to bring your attention to something you wrote in your first post
"I have done 30 days a year ago though and still cant control myself when I have alcohol."
That's almost exactly what first alerted me to the fact I have a problem (Back when I was 23 coincidently!) And I WISH I had done more to educate myself on what was happening to me and what I was doing to myself.
The fact you've posted on here is fantastic my friend, you did the right thing. 50 days is a great start. You will learn a lot about yourself
Keep posting and get reading!
I wish you all the best
"I have done 30 days a year ago though and still cant control myself when I have alcohol."
That's almost exactly what first alerted me to the fact I have a problem (Back when I was 23 coincidently!) And I WISH I had done more to educate myself on what was happening to me and what I was doing to myself.
The fact you've posted on here is fantastic my friend, you did the right thing. 50 days is a great start. You will learn a lot about yourself
Keep posting and get reading!
I wish you all the best
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@calicofish thank you I will watch it today and let you know what I think
@lonelyshadow thank you for the post really helpful knowing other people have been in the same boat at my age. What did you do for the social side of things did you have to get a new social group or do you go along and not drink? I live in south england cant imagine not meeting friends at the pub to watch the football occasionally not even sure if they sell non alcoholic beer or if drinking that would even be a good idea.
@lonelyshadow thank you for the post really helpful knowing other people have been in the same boat at my age. What did you do for the social side of things did you have to get a new social group or do you go along and not drink? I live in south england cant imagine not meeting friends at the pub to watch the football occasionally not even sure if they sell non alcoholic beer or if drinking that would even be a good idea.
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I don't think drinking non alcoholic beer will do you any favours. Drinkers are not drinking for the taste, we are drinking for the buzz.
I am not a beer drinking, my DOC was wine and then slid into whiskey. I tried the non alcoholic wine and it was crap and of course didn't satisfy me at all.
I'd suggest you drink sparkling water with lime.
I am not a beer drinking, my DOC was wine and then slid into whiskey. I tried the non alcoholic wine and it was crap and of course didn't satisfy me at all.
I'd suggest you drink sparkling water with lime.
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@calicofish cheers I will lay off everything completley for this first 50 days and see how it goes, I just want to stop waking up after mad binges with that cringing feeling you could have said/done something stupid and then feeling hungover or on a come down for at least two days.
I have decided to make a plan what I am going to do to stop me drinking which involves exercise non stop to keep my mind off of things taking a picture of myself at day 1 (today) and seeing the change after 50 days no alcohol and exercise. I do not want to just come here and be a weekend regret poster, this is happening. I am posting my guide below so one I can remember it as will keep seeing it when check here meaning I am more likely to stick at it and two others may use it and can give any tips looking to tone up a lot more used to do boxing want to get back into it.
Start Weight: (know roughly 12.5 will check tomorrow and edit in)
Goal Weight:11 stone
Monday:
Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Weights
Tuesday:
Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Running 3.5 miles
Wednesday:
Morning:Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Weights
Thursday:
Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Running 3.5 miles
Friday:
Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Weights
Saturday:
Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Heavy Bag
Sunday:
Morning-Rest
Evening-Rest
Pass exam for work.
Pay off debts.
Focus on new job (learning).
Get fit.
Stop smoking.
Stop drinking/drugs.
Do something nice for family.
I have decided to make a plan what I am going to do to stop me drinking which involves exercise non stop to keep my mind off of things taking a picture of myself at day 1 (today) and seeing the change after 50 days no alcohol and exercise. I do not want to just come here and be a weekend regret poster, this is happening. I am posting my guide below so one I can remember it as will keep seeing it when check here meaning I am more likely to stick at it and two others may use it and can give any tips looking to tone up a lot more used to do boxing want to get back into it.
Start Weight: (know roughly 12.5 will check tomorrow and edit in)
Goal Weight:11 stone
Monday:
Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Weights
Tuesday:
Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Running 3.5 miles
Wednesday:
Morning:Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Weights
Thursday:
Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Running 3.5 miles
Friday:
Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Weights
Saturday:
Morning-20 press ups,20 sit ups,30 second plank
Evening-Heavy Bag
Sunday:
Morning-Rest
Evening-Rest
Pass exam for work.
Pay off debts.
Focus on new job (learning).
Get fit.
Stop smoking.
Stop drinking/drugs.
Do something nice for family.
Last edited by Cohiba; 03-01-2015 at 05:42 AM. Reason: forgot to add goals
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Did the private message I sent you go through to your email? Make sure you have it on then if you dissepear I will contact you make sure you arent straying badly
I have done the same would appreciate if you could message me If I go missing from here for 3/4 days for the first while, If I am not on here I will probably be getting on it somewhere
I have done the same would appreciate if you could message me If I go missing from here for 3/4 days for the first while, If I am not on here I will probably be getting on it somewhere
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It is a big priority but I am waiting til I get paid to do something nice for them and also they have not really been affected by my alcohol/substance abuse it is just something I want to do for them.
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Cohiba it is EERIE just how similar our situations are, i'm in South of England too and the best way to socialise without alcohol is to get into the fitness scene.
I was severly obese when I began this journey and using fitness was a fantastic way of focusing and replacing the time I used to spend drinking.
Certainly focus on fitness but I would say be aware that getting into fitness doesn't 'cure' the alcohol problem, you have to find things to fill up the evenings (Reading is good)
Focusing on fitness AND sobriety helped me lose 30kg of bodyfat, and I currently powerlift with
150kg Deadlift
100kg Squat
120kg Bench
Set yourself some fitness targets and it will help you stay focused when that pesky Addictive Voice starts popping into your head.
I remind you again though, I learned the hard way, fitness itself doesn't cure the problem, and don't assume that being dedicated to fitness will make the cravings go away. I was blindsided a few times.
Hope it helps mate! Stay in touch!
I was severly obese when I began this journey and using fitness was a fantastic way of focusing and replacing the time I used to spend drinking.
Certainly focus on fitness but I would say be aware that getting into fitness doesn't 'cure' the alcohol problem, you have to find things to fill up the evenings (Reading is good)
Focusing on fitness AND sobriety helped me lose 30kg of bodyfat, and I currently powerlift with
150kg Deadlift
100kg Squat
120kg Bench
Set yourself some fitness targets and it will help you stay focused when that pesky Addictive Voice starts popping into your head.
I remind you again though, I learned the hard way, fitness itself doesn't cure the problem, and don't assume that being dedicated to fitness will make the cravings go away. I was blindsided a few times.
Hope it helps mate! Stay in touch!
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It is a big priority but I am waiting til I get paid to do something nice for them
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