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Old 04-03-2015, 03:39 PM
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Here are some ideas on things to do

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Old 04-03-2015, 03:43 PM
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Originally Posted by Cohiba View Post
Day four sober today and 2nd night of bank holiday weekend and I am at home alcohol free again

I am honestly bored out of my brains but think it will take a while to get used to not drinking I spoke to my friends who went out last night and hearing the stories just made me happy I didn't go out.
I'm proud of you Cohiba. Find a book or a movie. no problem bro. You'll be fine.
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Old 04-03-2015, 04:54 PM
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Yeah, the boredom definitely sucks, but I've had similar experiences with hearing about what my friends did the night before and realized that had I been with them, I'd not have gotten home at midnight like they talked about, but kept on boozing.

Watch stuff on Netflix or Youtube, go see a movie, go to the gym, or, just let yourself be bored. Better that than huge feelings of guilt and anxiety on Monday
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Old 04-04-2015, 01:03 PM
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@dee74 cheers have been having a look through those, think the problem is my motivation at the moment. I am not sure if it's my body detoxing or the amount of work I am doing to keep my mind of the alcohol but I am constantly exhausted.

@thomas11 thanks man brought some study material to help progress in my career when that arrives going to be reading in all my free time.

@nymets86 thats what is helping me in a way hearing the things they got up on the recent binge thinking how embarassing/childish/dangerous/pointless but then also realising if I was there I would of 100% be joining in. I am exhausted at the moment and I think that is adding on to the boredom. I watched Warrior for the 5th time on Netflix tonight and going to watch the boxing tonight and try and sleep early.

Everyone else following and for you guys it is day 5 for me now really proud of myself hoping to get over this exhausted feeling but lucky no work tomorrow or Monday so going to treat myself to a rest day in bed (know no one will be calling me as they are still binging from the other night) and then Monday exercise all day and some work. I am feeling stronger with the not wanting to drink as the days go by, today sucked that an old friend who I really miss is down for the weekend and asked me out for a few drinks but I refused knowing I wasnt ready yet and knowing I will be able to again in the future. I am also feeling a bit let down by my sober partner we kept in contact reguarlly and both have been relapsing lots (they still are) but it seems they are bored of me and have cut off all contact.

Anyway I was rambling but it helps sometimes hope you all going strong and its amazing to be posting here in the evening sober not in he morning hungover feeling guild/shame.
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Old 04-04-2015, 01:06 PM
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I would also like to say forgot to mention previously the only reason I post here and not in others threads is I don't think I am in the position at the moment to give advice/help. I hope that doesn't sound selfish I just dont want to cause more harm then good.

If anyone wants a chat please feel free to message me here or PM .
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Old 04-04-2015, 04:50 PM
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@dee74 cheers have been having a look through those, think the problem is my motivation at the moment. I am not sure if it's my body detoxing or the amount of work I am doing to keep my mind of the alcohol but I am constantly exhausted.
Thats par for the course for everyone - it gets better Cohiba

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Old 04-04-2015, 04:51 PM
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Congratulation on day 5 and keep coming back!
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Old 04-06-2015, 11:19 AM
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@dee74 cheers I am starting to feel better today really enjoying it and @carlotta trust me I will be

So today is day six and I couldnt be feeling better at the moment, woke up this morning with no hangover to loads of drunken messages from my friends at 4.20am 6.00am and 6.30am all not making sense then spoke to them mid day and they are all dying in bed wanting the ground to open and eat them, this has made me even more determined not to drink.

I laid in bed most of yesterday and really got my energy back, now I have done a week no drinking and moderate exercise tomorrow the healthy eating comes into play. Anyway I am off for a long run to feel good again will check this when I am back.

Hope everyone else doing well.
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Old 04-06-2015, 12:33 PM
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I love your plan of exercise to replace drinking as well as taking a photo a day. I think I might do that as well.
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Old 04-06-2015, 12:36 PM
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Good job Cahiba. I got in 2.5 miles this morning.
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Old 04-07-2015, 03:49 PM
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Thanks guys checking in on day 8 can't believe how well I am doing I'm actually shocked with myself.

Today I was offered alcohol and declined �� there was a celebration and a few bottle of champagne were opened everyone was drinking then it got to me and I just said "I'm not drinking for a while, not been good for me recently" and no questions were asked no pressure or anything so happy I said no, it didn't even bother me watching everyone drink and I was able to share the enjoyment.

I am frustrated I'm smoking a bit more now instead of drinking when I had basically quit ciggies but hoping this is just temporary.

Anyway found some stuff to fill my time with just need some cash now to buy a PS4 and will be sorted but had prioritised and clearing my alcohol or mainly drug related debts before treating myself.
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Old 04-07-2015, 04:53 PM
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Congrats on day 8 Cohiba
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Old 04-07-2015, 05:40 PM
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Something I have learned over the years; I saw things as black and white-I was raised in a dysfunctional household. I'm NOT saying I wasn't loved-just acknowledging why I may be the way I am.

Once I learned that it's not always black and white-I guess the easiest way to describe it is to say that doing the best we can every day is ok. You are doing better every day right? Don't let this get you down-get up tomorrow and continue to the good fight.
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Old 04-08-2015, 10:41 AM
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Good job on 8 days Cohiba. Getting through weekends is the hardest part, for sure.

I'm starting to realize the same thing as you, that people really don't care/notice if I'm not drinking. Maybe they do when orders are being taken and I order a club soda, but other than that, it's not a discussion topic. The people I've been around who are drinking haven't been getting drunk, but I know that if I'd been drinking with them, odds are good I'd have gotten drunk.

I think you're doing the right thing checking in here. I've been doing the same over on the Daily Support section on the One Year and Under thread and the February 2015 thread. Might be worth you trying that too.

I'm finding that even if it's me being accountable to an anonymous online message board, it's better than being accountable to nobody, and it definitely helps.

And you aren't being selfish at all by having this thread dedicated to you, haha, that's what I think SR is here for.
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Old 04-08-2015, 02:01 PM
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8 days is great Cohiba

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Old 04-09-2015, 11:07 AM
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Thank you for all the kind words guys, I really appreciate it �� and am happy to say I have successfuly made it to day 10

I have planned my weekend again finding this really helps, and telling people in not drinking at the moment has helped more when I said before 'never again' as people would either laugh and say I couldn't do it or start asking why and would focus on it.

I am hoping my energy comes back soon feel exhausted all the time may be working non stop and exercising as well but I am starting to find I am becoming a bit more paranoid/worried about my surroundings/ things I have done in the past/ what I am currently doing recently is this a normal side effect to going sober?
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Old 04-09-2015, 01:22 PM
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10 is great! Sobriety really IS progressive!
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Old 04-10-2015, 02:09 PM
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DAY 11

Feeling really proud that's it 10pm Friday evening and I am staying in, also knew everyone is meeting at the pub tomorrow day for the football so arranged to work to avoid temptation. I am still feeling sluggish but started exercise again heavily and hoping its due to the life change and the exercise should get used to it soon (hopefully). I find coming on here everyday is really helping and reading back through here remembering how low I was at one point and how I am constantly improving.

I am getting very worried though as on May 2nd I am in a situation where there will be a LOT of alcohol for a long period and very drunk friends and I am also assuming a lot of cocaine. I have booked to go watch the mayweather vs pacquiao fight at a bar and already paid for it, I cant watch it at mine and it starts at 10pm and the fight is on at 5am. I am already worried about lapsing but am desperate to watch this fight but only place showing it will be alcohol fueled, before anyone says don't go that is not an option as have paid good money and this is a major event for me (big boxing fan). I am trying to take things one day at a time but this is stuck in my head.

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Old 04-10-2015, 02:34 PM
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If it was me I'd find another way to watch the fight Cohiba.

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Old 04-10-2015, 02:42 PM
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Dee74 I have tried all avenues, my house is not possible as stay with family they said no (don't blame them as on at 5am and will be loud when they asleep), friends are all going to this event to watch it so cant go there houses, due to the time it is on the only places showing it are casinos/bars both which serve alcohol.

I am out of ideas completley and can not miss this, I know to some it may seem like not a big deal but for me this is an event I have waited for years to happen. When I was drinking if a big fight was on I'd usually only have a few anyway thats how much I loved it but then would get hammered after the fight. I don't want to lapse but know I will struggle here.

I'm stuck for ideas
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