The judge spoke, I just got it handed it to me, but not in jail
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The judge spoke, I just got it handed it to me, but not in jail
Paraphrasing the best I can but this is the gist of what happened with the judge it literally took less than 5 minutes. 
sad now. I can't have contact with my daughter. Inpatient is it..... I tried to write the judge but that didn't go over well. In at 11 am out at 11:08
You sir have failed me, you sir have failed this court, you're an abomination. You have a family that cares for you, a daughter that wants to be with you as your parents have reported to me. Others have gotten sober, others have changed, nothing to this court is an excuse to gamble or drink.
This court, and I am disappointed in you. You by your own account and the letter you wrote me have ton of support. Tons of people online and offline that support you. You choose to drink, you choose to gamble, you choose a life of sadness.
This courts only opinion is you go get help, you stop drinking. Your wife has stopped drinking. You sir have no excuses. You sit here in front of me claiming mental illness and depression and everything, but you lie! You are a liar, I have no place for liars.
You're articulate and bright, but very deceitful. Your letter is a letter of excuses and trying to garner sympathy. Don't be that pathetic, your not that dumb. You will not manipulate me. You are manipulating yourself and your family too, stop it.
You want something you go get it, you don't want anything and you need to stop. Your parents tell me your daughter is confused and upset and they don't think you can get sober. You aren't going to waste my time, you aren't going to waste this courts time. The damage you cause and your actions are hurting more than you and I can't allow it anymore.
You will go to inpatient, you will make contact with Northern Nevada Mental Health Services, you will not go to a casino for any reason. You have to go to counseling immediately. Any drinking and this court no longer has any sympathy for you this is the 3rd time I've asked you to get help.
For now no more contact with your daughter. You will report to this court in one week and have a plan. No more casinos or drinking. Random drug testing continues. Don't disappoint me or yourself MR ( my last name). I am tired of this, and will recommend that your daughter be adopted out. Adoption is my only option.
sad now. I can't have contact with my daughter. Inpatient is it..... I tried to write the judge but that didn't go over well. In at 11 am out at 11:08You sir have failed me, you sir have failed this court, you're an abomination. You have a family that cares for you, a daughter that wants to be with you as your parents have reported to me. Others have gotten sober, others have changed, nothing to this court is an excuse to gamble or drink.
This court, and I am disappointed in you. You by your own account and the letter you wrote me have ton of support. Tons of people online and offline that support you. You choose to drink, you choose to gamble, you choose a life of sadness.
This courts only opinion is you go get help, you stop drinking. Your wife has stopped drinking. You sir have no excuses. You sit here in front of me claiming mental illness and depression and everything, but you lie! You are a liar, I have no place for liars.
You're articulate and bright, but very deceitful. Your letter is a letter of excuses and trying to garner sympathy. Don't be that pathetic, your not that dumb. You will not manipulate me. You are manipulating yourself and your family too, stop it.
You want something you go get it, you don't want anything and you need to stop. Your parents tell me your daughter is confused and upset and they don't think you can get sober. You aren't going to waste my time, you aren't going to waste this courts time. The damage you cause and your actions are hurting more than you and I can't allow it anymore.
You will go to inpatient, you will make contact with Northern Nevada Mental Health Services, you will not go to a casino for any reason. You have to go to counseling immediately. Any drinking and this court no longer has any sympathy for you this is the 3rd time I've asked you to get help.
For now no more contact with your daughter. You will report to this court in one week and have a plan. No more casinos or drinking. Random drug testing continues. Don't disappoint me or yourself MR ( my last name). I am tired of this, and will recommend that your daughter be adopted out. Adoption is my only option.
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It could have been much worse. This is yet another chance for you to make things right, and it sounds like the LAST one. Instead of replying to our posts, contact the health services folks immediately. You can always let us know how it goes afterwards.
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Hi TDJ
Obviously the judge more au-fait with the situation than I am but calling you an abomination? IMO That's not right and he shouldn't have said that word
Five minutes of evening news bulletins shows you where there are abominations
Still agree with the others tho' take this chance
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Obviously the judge more au-fait with the situation than I am but calling you an abomination? IMO That's not right and he shouldn't have said that word
Five minutes of evening news bulletins shows you where there are abominations
Still agree with the others tho' take this chance
rooting for you
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I like this judge (except for calling you an abomination which you are not)!
Was it Judge Judy by any chance?
Here is what I posted on your other thread
Was it Judge Judy by any chance?
Here is what I posted on your other thread
Originally Posted by Carlotta 
If your lawyer can come up to a plea bargain involving inpatient rehab, it might be actually a blessing in disguise.
I still remember that banged up pict of you after a fall you posted a while back
I still remember that banged up pict of you after a fall you posted a while back
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I'm sorry the judge called you an abomination...maybe it was his weird way of trying to motivate you to get help? LOL
either way TDG - this is it.
In patient beckons. A new life can be yours if you want it and are going to do anything to get it. This is where the proverbial road splits in 2 directions. Which one are you going to travel my friend?
you can do this.
either way TDG - this is it.
In patient beckons. A new life can be yours if you want it and are going to do anything to get it. This is where the proverbial road splits in 2 directions. Which one are you going to travel my friend?
you can do this.
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Now what friend?
Life is choices. You may have to decide to NEVER drink again now matter how much you want to. And I know how hard it is... And you can do it. Millions of people have and we are no more special than you are.
Life is choices. You may have to decide to NEVER drink again now matter how much you want to. And I know how hard it is... And you can do it. Millions of people have and we are no more special than you are.
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Hi TDG, I've been following your posts recently. It sounds like you have an opportunity (that probably sounds crazy) but what is in front of you is an opportunity that you should take advantage of. I believe the alternative might be inpatient treatment at the gray bar motel with horrible food and no meds. Best of luck to you.
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Thanks for the update TDG, I sit in both camps where tough love can propel me forward or where it can cripple me...
....I hope it propels you forward.
One week Tdg..come back with a working recovery plan in action .
Alcohol and gambling fuels mental health problems and unhappiness...you know that, you have lived that and living it.
I hope you follow the judges advice. Thank the stars for the opportunity of assistance.
Someone said to me yesterday "Where attention goes energy flows." It is true...give recovery your full attention.
I agree with resolute50 I think the judge believes in you.
....I hope it propels you forward.
One week Tdg..come back with a working recovery plan in action .
Alcohol and gambling fuels mental health problems and unhappiness...you know that, you have lived that and living it.
I hope you follow the judges advice. Thank the stars for the opportunity of assistance.
Someone said to me yesterday "Where attention goes energy flows." It is true...give recovery your full attention.
I agree with resolute50 I think the judge believes in you.
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Believe in yourself.
You have an opportunity still at hand.
Get the help you need. It is a blessing.
My sponsors story is almost yours. Except she's a woman.
She got help, she got the program, she got real, she got God, she got her life back and she got her son back. You can, too. Best wishes in rehab. Take it for all you can. We'll all be cheering you on. Especially God. Talk to him. LOVE YA!
You have an opportunity still at hand.
Get the help you need. It is a blessing.
My sponsors story is almost yours. Except she's a woman.
She got help, she got the program, she got real, she got God, she got her life back and she got her son back. You can, too. Best wishes in rehab. Take it for all you can. We'll all be cheering you on. Especially God. Talk to him. LOVE YA!
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I see that you live in Reno, Nev. and are known to gamble as well as drink. Trying to get sober in Reno may be very tough for you. Hope not. Would it help to consider doing something about this? You state in your public profile that you are a "Citizen of the Universe". This puzzles me. What do you do for a living? Do you work for one of the Casinos and does it make it harder for you to be always with folks who are drinking and gambling?
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